It seems that last entry managed to scare my male visitors! Perhaps it was the photo, perhaps they don't want to know what women want. Hm. Guys? I give you this today.

Why a picture of a movie star long gone? The current selection of photographs of 'sexy' women were, in MY OPINION, way over the top. I don't find blatantly exposed body parts all that sexy, and while men may, my blog isn't rated for XGC. I think there is a timeless beauty found with this one particular female and that in itself is interesting.

What do men like?

Studies have shown that men prefer women with a waist to hip ratio of 0.7. You can calculate your own ratio ladies by using this formula:

waist measurement ÷ hip measurement = ratio

Being Independent makes a woman 'hot' to a man. Men like to know that the woman they are interested in can take care of herself, has a good head on her shoulders and knows what she wants. I score a 10 on that aspect but I don't think men prefer woman who are too independent. Studies also show men long for a woman who is "caring". It seems men are looking for a hot, irresistible woman, with a motherly personality. They want a woman who will nourish them and take care of them emotionally, just as we expect them to do for us.

Despite the rumor that men prefer dumb blond types it seems that men want a woman who has an IQ at least equal to their own. Men look for women who can listen, have a sense of humor and above all - I find this interesting -men want a woman who can COOK.

WAIT - I want all that too! Just in a male!

Looks, physical beauty, don't rate all that high with men according to the studies I have read. A female can be overweight by twenty pounds or so but if she has self-confidence, a sense of humor, is intelligent and knows her way around the kitchen - men will find her HOT.

If you notice the picture, Marilyn isn't the anorexic type of woman we are constantly exposed to with our models today. Yet over the years her allure hasn't faded. In reality though, Marilyn would fail in many of the categories men desire. Nice to look at - don't want to marry her.

There you have it. A shortened entry about what 'studies' say men find HOT in a woman. Now guys it's YOUR turn. What do you find HOT? What are you looking for if you are looking. You have to have that attraction thing first before the romance starts - right? Perhaps not. Let me know!

 

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Take my advice. Do NOT go out the night before you have to open up IKEA. Just don't do it okay? If you every find yourself in a position of going out or not and you know you have to open IKEA on a Saturday - remember my advice!

Ladies, you see him come into the coffee bar/grocery store/bait shop and you almost break your neck when you go to get another look. HE IS HOT! Hm. What actually makes men HOT to women?

Whatever turns you on, I hope you find it. Just don't get burned now!

 

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Romance – what is romance anyway? Definitions vary, yet they all seem to agree that;
Romance is a state of being. It's about taking action on your feelings.

Romance-love in action-is a daily, living, growing activity.

Romance often starts as a 'state of mind' but it must move beyond mere thoughts and intentions and be communicated to your lover...through words, actions, gifts, gestures, or just a tender look.



Then there are the Romantic Letters written eons ago, that were sent by both males and females. How would you like to receive a letter such as this one ladies?

Dearest, - I wish I had the gift of making rhymes, for methinks there is poetry in my head and heart since I have been in love with you. You are a Poem. Of what sort, then? Epic? Mercy on me, no! A sonnet? No; for that is too labored and artificial. You are a sort of sweet, simple, gay, pathetic ballad, which Nature is singing, sometimes with tears, sometimes with smiles, and sometimes with intermingled smiles and tears.
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This was written by none other than Nathaniel Hawthorne (1804 - 1864)


And men, I have not forgotten you, how would you like to receive a letter similar to the following?

October 4, 1796

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I shall cork up all my kindness - yet the fine volatile essence may fly off in my walk - you know not how much tenderness for you may escape in a voluptuous sigh, should the air, as is often the case, give a pleasurable movement to the sensations, that have been clustering round my heart, as I read this morning - reminding myself, every now and then, that the writer loved me.

Voluptuous is often expressive of a meaning I do not now intend to give, I would describe one of those moments, when the senses are exactly tuned by the ringing tenderness of the heart and according reason entices you to live in the present moment, regardless of the past or future - it is not rapture - it is sublime tranquility.

I have felt it in your arms - hush! Let not the light see, I was going to say hear it - these confessions should only be uttered - you know where, when the curtains are up - and all the world shut out - Ah me!
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The writer of that was Mary Wollstonecraft, Anglo-Irish feminist and writer, to William Godwin, philosopher and writer.


Myself, I prefer the letter sent to a nameless Marquis by the infamous courtesan in 17th century France, Ninon de l'Enclos. She shows her wit, and drive in this letter. No fawning about, no mistaking what she has to say.



Yes, Marquis, I will keep my word with you, and upon all occasions shall speak the truth, though I sometimes tell it at my own expense. I have more firmness of mind than perhaps you may imagine, and 'tis very probable that in the course of this correspondence, you will think I push this quality too far, even to severity…

Shall I tell you what makes love so dangerous? 'Tis the too high idea we are apt to form it. But to speak the truth, love, considered as passion, is merely a blind instinct, that we should rate accordingly. It is an appetite, which inclines us to one object, rather than another, without our being able to account for our taste. Considered as a bond of friendship, where reason presides, it is no longer a passion and loses the very name of love. It becomes esteem: which is indeed a very pleasing appetite, but too tranquil; and therefore incapable of rousing you from you present supineness.


So, there you have it - some romance. Put some in your lives. Or....consider these little tidbits!

~~~A team of medical experts in Virginia contends that you're more likely to catch the common cold virus by shaking hands than by kissing.

~~~Most recent research indicates just about 9,000 romantic couples each year take out marriage licenses, then fail to use them.

~~~It's reported that more than 10,000 marriages a year now are directly traceable to romances which begin during coffee breaks.

~~~Romance statisticians have calculated that the odds run 70 to one that you won't marry any of the boys in the office where you work. About 100 to one you won't marry your boss, and 1700 to one that you won't marry your doctor.

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I am pretty tired tonight, so nothing too fancy for you nice folks. I wanted to address something that is an ongoing issue at work.

We have 'acquired' a new manager and over the past three months I've been exposed to his philosophy and ethics. There is an old joke about "How can I tell you're lying? Your lips are moving!" It used to make me laugh. No longer.

This manager has managed to alienate every lowly worker on his team. There isn't much of a "team" left anymore. So many of my co-workers have transfered, quit and even been fired. I liken it to a Democratic White House being taken over by an incoming Republican candidate. Out with the old, in with the new. There's a new management team in place and their ethics leave little to respect.

"Anyea! You're my go-to girl. I need something done, I know you are the one to go to!"

Sounds nice doesn't it? What I've learned is to interpret those words. What they actually mean is:

"Do it or I'm putting a bad report in your file."

I have been called into the office to get lectured more often in the past month than I have ever been in my entire working life. It is appropriate to lecture me for forty-five minutes, yet when a customer compliments me I get a pat on my head and told "good lil worker".

I told my manager he needs to learn to walk a tight rope. When asked why that was, I told him he needed to learn balance. He didn't get it. I didn't care.

Today was Super Bowl Sunday. We had no way to know if we would get slammed with customers or suffer a dessert store. We got slammed. Over and over, hour after hour, myself and fellow workers hustled our butts to serve the public. We rushed hither and yon. Then I got a phone call. It was from "UPSTAIRS". My manager was calling me.

"This is Anyea, what did I do now?" Paranoid? No, just realistic and tired of being played by management.

"Anyea, can you work tomorrow from a ridiculously early hour until an even more ridiculous hour late in the day?"

"I'm not in trouble for doing something again?"

"No, no. I just need to know if you can change your hours."

"Sure."

"See! You are my go-to girl. I knew you wouldn't let me down." He opens his mouth and all that comes out is BS.

I can put up with a whole lot. I can not, will not tolerate being lied to.

The Super Bowl is over. Phoenix can return to normal now. HA! As if Phoenix is normal to begin with. I hope whichever team you rooted for won. I have no idea who won. My co-worker that I traded days with is probably glad to be have been able to kick back and enjoy watching the game. He better have or I'll kick him.

Hope all of you out there in the wonderland of Blogsville had a tremendous day filled with relaxation and laughter.

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One of my friends [ahem] here called me a 'brat'. I take great pride in that. You can do a lot with being a brat. You just don't seem to get away with anything.

Part brat, pure child, growing up person - that's me. I need to put an ad in the paper that goes something like this:

WANTED: Someone with enormous Life experiences, smorgasbord of interests, tons of laughs, who isn't bitter or angry. Will provide hours of annoying questions.

I am always looking for answers. Sometimes I get unexpected answers and I have to sit back and ponder upon them for a bit. Sometimes the answers I receive only lead to more questions.

"How come when my body gets cold, I get energized. When I'm warm, I get sleepy?"

"Warmth lowers the blood pressure which in turn can cause sleepiness."

"Oh. Well how come some people are attracted to really ugly things like BATS!"

"Many people find the unusual species to be compelling, interesting and just like that."

"Oh. Then when a circus comes to town, how come the city doesn't always have a parade for it?"

"Because Sweets cannot be in each city to follow behind the elephants.

Told ya! I'm a brat. SHE STARTED IT.

So I'm always looking for answers, seeking information and while certain seeking pays off, usually I get royally bored from reading dry texts on subjects. There is nothing worse than text books - seriously. I think they require a text book writer to have no imagination, inspiration or regard for my ability to stay awake reading them.

I once rewrote an entire text book just so I would pass the final. I had the whole book down to less than three pages and my prof asked if he could use them in future classes. Sure! Why not. Stupid text book writers anyway, screwing up a perfectly understandable subject matter by writing on and on and on and making no sense. We need to revolutionize the text book industry. Pictures would be good in those Economic books. NICE pictures - not graphs and charts. They could embed a micro-chip that plays songs in those totally boring Statistics books or have Action Figures you could punch out and play with in Accounting text books.

Since I love math and physics (not earth sciences though thank you very much) we can leave those books alone.

I ask questions from everyone I meet. Some give me answers, some just stare at me and walk away. I still ask. I hope I always ask questions, seek answers, filter what I get and come up with my own beliefs - well I have my own beliefs and all, but enlarging upon them is always good.

Next time someone asks you a question, and you don't have an answer, just tell them this:

"It's due to the fact that there is only one Sweets and many many elephants!"

That's sure to stump them! HA!

Everyone out there have a day, whether it's a cold wintry day all grey and gloomy or a crisp blue sky sun shining Arizona day - have one. You're due a good day as well so hop to it okay?

So, while I was without the Internet what was I doing? Wondering that are ya? Okay I'll tell ya about my life away from the Web. I have this over-active brain. I have to be doing something while I'm awake and I cannot just sit around doing nothing.

A couple of years ago, I purchased this small RPG (role playing game) from MSN. The name of it is FATE and it is unusual for me to enjoy a game such as this. I have problems killing things. The whole point of an RPG game is to kill the baddies and gather treasure and experience and stuff. I really enjoyed this game and still do.

It's a really small RPG with excellent graphics (I don't have a sound card so can't tell you about that part). While I was "away" I started a new game on it. I made my character a female and used a high level to start with. This makes the game more challenging and I felt up to a challenge. Then I had a thought! (OH NO - ANYEA IS THINKING!) A bad sign right? Well, yes and no. I am used to yelling at the bad guys and telling my character when they mess up. OH and you get to have a PET too! My new character has a puppy! I have used the (ew) cat but usually name it "EggRoll" or something clever like that.

Anyway....I decided to chronicle this character's experience from her POV (point of veiw). I am having a blast with her and only up to level 10. To see her story you'll have to go to the link I will provide as I'm not writing her story in here!

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HEY YOU ALL! I ARE BACK! Miss me? Sheesh from the number of e-mails in my box I would say either you all partied down while I was away or....you missed me!

Where was I? Oh, without an Internet it seems a bit difficult to come in and play with you all. I just threw some money at my provider and within 10 seconds VOILA' - I were back.

I will go through all my mail but I did see that Bugz-ter had a WdC b'day. Whoo hooo to her.

I will write more tomorrow - an actual day off and catch up on all that's been happening in Blogsville I promise. Just wanted to wave at y'all waves to the nice peop's and say hey.


 

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You know I wish that the red font colour was a real red for WdC, not this rusty brownish blah sort. I will use black to compliment my graphics instead.

I know I mentioned that I truly love dragons, but coupled with that is an author I have enjoyed like forever - Anne McCaffrey.

I have read every book she wrote minus the newest one, A Life with Dragons which is the author's story. Sheesh now I have another book to add to my Wish List.

The books in the Pern World series, in the order of publication, and the suggested order which they should be read in are:

Dragonquest (1968)
Dragonflight (1971)
Dragonsinger (1976)
Dragonsong (1977)
Dragondrums (1979)
The White Dragon (1978)
Moreta:Dragonlady of Pern (1983)
Nerilka's Story (1986)
Dragonsdawn (1988)
The Renegades of Pern (1990)
All the Weyrs of Pern (1991)
The Chronicles of Pern: First Fall (1993)
The Dolphins of Pern (1994)
The Girl Who Heard Dragons ( 1994)
Dragonseye (1997)

Look at the dates on the books. There are some huge gaps in the publication of them aren't there? This gives me hope. If it took her that long to get a book out - well as a novice I too can take a long time right? No?

The thing about Ann's books are the cohesiveness of each one. She ties her history into each book so tightly a reader doesn't have to guess who the character is, where they came from or why they are in the book at all. >sigh< That is talent.

The sad thing is, Ann is old. I mean like really old. Like probably won't be with us to provide more tales of the Pern people. The newer writers don't seem to be able to write dragons well, history is non-existant and the story lines - uh, suck. The ones I've tried to read anyway.

I read each Pern book (plus she has other series I also have read), I don't know how many times and then discovered them on CD - and you can rent them really cheap! This was how I got interested in "Books on Tape" (or CD). When you hear the characters speaking, have a wonderful moderator filling in the rest - it's such a treat. I probably had most of the books memorized but that seemed to add to my enjoyment.

"The men who rode the dragons were a breed apart. Chosen when the dragons were first hatched, they became soulmates for life with the huge, magnificent beasts they controlled - the green, blue, brown and bronzes - beautiful - terrible - the only creatures who could defend the planet Pern from the blood-red star. But without the Queen, the dragons would become extinct - only the gigantic, golden Queen could breed the new flights. And the Queen was fading... dying... leaving behind one last, huge, golden egg..."2

Please remember when you write that someone, some day, may well fall in love with what you are writing. What you publish will be your legacy to the world of literate people - if there will be any in the future that is. Some day someone may well quote you or your book and even if they misquote it - you will have been remembered!

I just love dragons.

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2  Dragonflight - The Dragonriders of Pern: Book 1