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Ha ha, I just noticed, my title is well put for what I am doing. I picked it because I wanted to just sort of let my thoughts wander about homeschooling, but I am really focusing on is thinking about how I want my kids to think.
It is really too easy for me to find myself amusing.
So, it has been awhile since I've hit the blog. This is because I got what I wanted - the chance to teach early morning seminary - and now, foolish me, I have to get up at quarter to six each morning. I am sure this is a normal thing for most human people, but I am NOT a morning person, and I have been a SAHM for the last seven years - and my first child would sleep til 10 once she got past that up-all-night stage. If my kids tried to consistantly get up before seven, I might have to take steps that would get me in SERIOUS trouble with DFACs, or whatever the PA family people are. Okay, I'm kidding, so don't go running off and reporting me (besides which, it is all moot since I am up before the kiddos every day).
Since I've had to get up way-too-stinking-early every M-F the last two weeks (I suggested this week that we have "early morning seminary" at noon, which was greeted with grins by my students), I have been in bed by 10 almost every Sun-Thurs night this week. Since my preferred lifestyle choice is hitting the sack closer to midnight, this is a big shift. And apparently I am much older than I was in college, when I could get by on no sleep. I have been TIRED! We have also started our homeschooling up last week. My priorities, then, have been: homeschooling, prepping Seminary lesson for each day, prepping the once-a-week-evening lesson, trying to maintain a reasonably clean house [my family was here over Labor Day weekend, and I am trying - and mostly succeeding - to keep the house as clean as we got it then], prepping the Sunday School lesson [I am subbing until they find a teacher; they've been looking for about a year], listing and mailing books for online booksales, and then in my occasional free time actually sneak a "fun" book or two to read. You can tell that free time is few and far between because I am on the FOURTH day of reading one book, a sad sad fate for me. Actually, though, part of the problem is that it is the 3rd book in a series on the Savior, so we have the crucifixion looking up, which I know will NOT be an entertaining/relaxing read (which is what I usually read for) so I am not reading as heavily as I might otherwise would, despite the fact that it is a well-written and engaging novel. But I've been moving through some other HS books.
Also on my to-do list is: Become more organized. I, who am well known and laughed at for writing important dates and activities on my hand, have a pocket calendar and have been actually doing stuff with various groups and people. I am trying to get my kids more involved in activities outside the home, so girl scouts is gearing up for the year for DD, and we have a Wednesday church meeting each Wed for my three oldest. We had a start-of-the-year Homeschooling group meeting last week, and I am trying to organize a playgroup at my house next week, plus our HS field trip, which I think I'm taking. I also want to take the kids hiking next week, and we've invited a few friends who may or may not make it. We are only about 4 miles from the Appalaichin trail - I know I spelled that wrong but I am too lazy to spellcheck - and I'd like to head out there while it is still nice out, before it gets all "Northeast-wintery" on me.
But all of that is not why I am here, although it does make one interesting "sorry for not blogging" excuse list, eh? I am, at present, reading yet another Alfie Kohn book. Kohn is all about educational reform, and if you have ANY kids - and, really, if you care anything at all about public education, which is where some of your tax $$ is heading - I suggest you read him. I know you think, yeah yeah, she's a homeschooling mom so I bet it's about homeschooling, but it is not. As I said, he is all for reform within the system, and I don't think I have actually heard (er, read?) him say anything about homeschooling. He talks about how standardized tests and homework inhibit rather than facilitate learning.
One of the essays I am reading (I'm reading "What Does it Mean to Be Well Educated?", which is a collection of essays by Kohn) makes the point that educators should determine their goals and then take a look at whether or not their methods will help them achieve that. I have frequently heard the suggestion in various homeschooling readings that you should write down your "mission statement" or purpose in homeschooling, and I keep thinking, yeah, I should do that. But I haven't yet.
Technically, in Pennsylvania, you do not have to register your child for school or homeschooling until they are 8 years old. My oldest is 7, which means that we won't have to register her until next year. Of course, that is just when we legally come under the gaze of the state. We have been engaged in learning activities for years, with a heavy slant on reading and exploration. (My oldest was reading by the time she was 4; she taught her brother, who could read three-letter words at 3; now they have "ganged up" on their brother and are teaching him letters and sounds. It is amazing how much easier the kids learn from their siblings than their parents, and the pressure is not as extreme. My 3rd thinks that his bro and sister are "playing" with him - because they are. Which, of course, is one of the benefits to HSing.) (I had to go back to the paragraph to get back on course.) So we are doing a "dry run" this year, to get an idea for what sort of thing we need to turn in, what kind of schedule works best, and so forth. I would like to put together our mission statement, then; what it is that I want our kids to achieve as homeschoolers. I may or may not finish today, I am really just brainstorming.
One of the biggest reasons I decided to homeschool was actually after reading "Punished By Rewards" by the aforementioned Alfie Kohn (I actually recommend this one as your "first" read, because it sets the stage for the rest of his arguements in reform.) I don't agree with all of the conclusions he draws, although they would be great in a perfect world where things like money were unnecessary, I suppose. His basic premise is that when people focus more on HOW they are doing than on WHAT they are doing, they do worse. So, from a school perspective, a child who is focusing on getting an A will do more on a "checklist" (real or imagined) to get the A and spend less time exploring. They might stick with the "facts" behind why the Civil War was begun and not take that interesting tangent and wonder why one person would ever think owning another was a good - or even moral - idea. Or how a person who was enslaved would be affected. In short, they stick to the basics and do not give themselves the freedom to wander off and explore, and truly learn.
At the time I was pondering this, I had a 14 or 15 year old sister-in-law and a brother of the same age, both coming home overloaded with homework, hours worth of homework. It was very easy for me to see that they did not have time to explore anything in detail because virtually all of their free time was spent "making the grade." I could also see my friends' elementary school kids, older than mine but not in those teen years, who were coming home with homework and suffering the same fate. And the homework trend has come down to first grade and, often, even kindergarden! So it was very clear to me that a child who risked exploring something that interested them, even if related to the "main" subject, risked failing or at least "not making the honor roll" and being scarred for life.
I also had done some research into the history of education, which astounded me. Public education in America was spotty at best, until the Industrial Revolution. At that point, businesses were taking in factory workers who needed a basic education to survive. Public education was spurred into action so that children could learn just enough to become widgets in these giant factories - literally. In 1916, Ellwood Cubberley wrote that "our schools are, in a sense, factories in which the raw products (children) are to be shaped and fashioned into products to meet the various demands of life." And an article in Fortune Magazine in the 1950s, titled "The Low Productivity of the Edcation Industry" stated that public education should strive "to turn out students with the greatest possible efficiency...[and] minimize the input of man hours and capital. In this respect, the schools are no different from General Motors."
It is easy to see that this is still in favor today. In classrooms across the nation, kids are taught to sit still and be quiet. Questions they have that drift "off subject" cannot be explored because the teacher must follow the daily planner. The purpose of education today seems to be to cram as much information in children's heads as possible, whether they want it or not.
Mind you, I am not chiding teachers here, but the entire system. I was fortunate to have many excellent teachers who could see that I was bored with the class and provided me with alternatives, and who managed to push me ahead of the rest of the class. But the system does not allow this for all students, and I do not want my kids to get caught up in that. I think that most teachers are doing the best they can in the systems they are in, but that as a whole, the public education system is set up like a machine - and darn the seven year old who won't sit still and take it. (Speaking of which, a friend of mine in GA just enrolled her son in kindergarten this year, and was lamenting the fact that they do not have recess. NO RECESS for a five year old. Yet another reason I homeschool my kids. Her son was dealing with it alright, but the son of mutual friend of ours was struggling because he is very active and energetic.)
So, some of the goals I have for homeschooling:
1. I want my children to enjoy learning, and to become lifelong learners. I want them to seek out knowledge and to have the desire to stretch their minds, rather than to do the bare minimums. I want them to be interested in the world around them.
2. I want them to have the ability to NOT be a factory widget in a huge conglomerate, but be one of those rare people with the ability to seek out employment that they will enjoy and thrive in. I want them to have an entrepreneurial (yes I know, spelled wrong again) spirit, so that they will be able to succeed finanically. If they feel they would be better employed in an existing business, that is fine, but I want them to make that choice because they want it, not because they fear failure.
(That, by the way, came from some interesting points made in "The Millionaire Next Door" by Thomas Stanley. Most of those "millionaires" are entrepreneurs rather than employees. Mind you, I don't think that money is the be-all, end-all, but if you are going to spend the majority of your life working somewhere, why not do it in a field or business you love, and can have control over? I know this isn't for everyone, but I want my kids to have the option. I really think that public education, with its "beat everyone into the same mold" style, destroys the uniqueness, inquisitiveness, and vision needed to become a business owner. Perhaps that is why so many successful buisness folks did not do so well in public school.)
3. I want them to be close to their family, especially their siblings. Public school does a great job of teaching 8 year olds that we are only friends with other 8 year olds. Not only does this affect the socialization of a child by keeping them from meeting folks of all ages and learning from and befriending them, it also impacts sibling relationships. And having a bunch of 16 year olds agreeing (ie validating) that parents are evil doesn't do too well for parent-teen relationships, either. Since we believe that the family is an eternal unit, I naturally want to strengthen those relationships on earth.
4. I also do think that it is a parents responsibility to educate your child. Just like you can't turn your child over to Sunday School and youth teachers and expect them to do all of the religious teaching, I don't think it is right to turn my child over to the state and give them control of all the secular teaching. I know many people - my mom included - scoff at parents who want to brainwash their kids, but frankly, isn't that what our public schools do? The difference is that the brainwashing there is government approved. If there is any "brainwashing" to be done, I'd rather it be me than the government - but remember that my primary reason is to teach my kids to explore and think for themselves, which IMO public education does NOT do.
5. The fifth is safety reasons, shootings, bullyings, etc. This is a very miniscule reason for me, for a variety of reasons. First, although growing more common, shootings are rare and far between, when you look at how many public schools we have. Second, although I suffered tremendously at the hands of bullies and teasing, and do NOT want that for my kids, I do not plan to isolate them completely. They will be bullied, they will be teased. My daughter came home upset the other day that the girl next door called her crazy; they are at church on Sundays with other kids; they will be teased. I cannot protect them from everything; I admit that. I cannot even try. However, what I can do is do my best to strengthen them so that when they ARE teased, they have a strong foundation to fall back on (and also, are willing to talk to me about it).
I think that is pretty much my reasons for homeschooling, from most to least important. The first two were really the catharsis; for those of you who would rant at me for being a Christian and putting the parenting third, my reason is because if I sent my kids to public school, I would certainly be involved in their education and do think it is possible to monitor that even at public schools.
Thus ends my brainstorming. I'm going to let my brain rest, and then in the next few days I'll consolodate them into a "mission statement" or "purpose" or something.
On a side note: Calvin & Hobbes (the comics) are a great reason to homeschool, LOL. Although I'm not sure I'd want to teach him all day, I think that is one imaginitive, intelligent kid (yes, yes, I know he's fictitious, from the mind of an adult) who would benefit from homeschooling. I'm trying to decide whether or not to hang a few of those comics around our "classroom" (and I use the term loosely, LOL).
Thanks for bearing with me and my musings!
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