Be happy in yellow. You look a lot sunnier. Beats being blue about not being blue.

Well, if it's not working for you, there's no reason continuing. Good luck!

You don't have to give up your anger cold turkey. Just declare particular days to be "anger free". On those days you will not get angry about ANYTHING, not even stuff that should make you angry. Then the next day go back to your usual patterns. Who knows what insights you might get from that?

I don't know because I have the opposite problem from you. I was taught to never show anger when I was a child and have internalized that somehow. Fortunately, there seem to be very few occasions in my life when anger is useful, so I don't miss it except when one of those occasions arises.

You are right that anger and the desire for revenge are great motivating forces, but they aren't the only ones. The desire to improve in some way can be a great motivator for some people. Hell, just the desire to make more money keeps a lot of people going.

Curiosity is a good motivator. Like scientists and explorers and scholars. Also love is a good motivator, like a parent that sacrifices everything for a child. And sex, like Don Juan and Casanova and Hugh Heffner.

No reason you can't have a mixture of motivators with anger just being one of them. Too much of anything can be sickening, even chocolate. I loved it so much as a kid that I sat down and ate over a pound of chocolate candy once. When I vomited it back up I had to rethink my love affair with chocolate.

Good luck with the anger thing.

I've been in that place before... When I had to cut back dramatically and kept putting it off. I eventually did, and then slowly got back into things. Which was a good thing, I think. Because I didn't get involved in the same ways and it wasn't nearly as aggravating...

I hope things turn around for you on the job front. It's not exactly the best time for the job market right now... I have a feeling I'm going to be in the same spot in a few weeks *sigh*

Take care of yourself!

I know what it's like to take on more than I can handle so maybe cutting back will help you regain some equilibrium. Good luck with the therapist too. I went to one last year for a few months and she helped me a lot.

I've had 'anger issues' my whole life and no one seemed to be able to explain them to me (or to my parents who dealt with them on a daily basis.)

It wasn't until I became older that I was diagnosed as bipolar. Having a mood disorder certainly does explain certain things like anger, I suppose.

But nevertheless, I still battle with anger issues (no matter the cause). I'm no longer on pills, and while if I WAS it would be a lot easier, I am learning to focus my energies elsewhere, and I am also learning to not put myself in the situations that would trigger or make a 'mood' worse.

I do think that I need to do a little more research on Cognitive Behavior Therapy (as I only remember bits and pieces from my Psych 101 class)

Women do bitch a lot,
especially about menopause and periods.
Like, shove it. Everyone (well, all women) deal with it

Hahaha, why "jackass Michael Phelps"? I don't looooveee him like everyone else seems to, but I don't have a problem with him. I have a problem with everyone's obsession with him, but I'm sure he's happy about it...

I'm on happy pills. They do me good.

Interesting you bring up anger though, cause I know someone who went through something traumatic when she was younger and she has a temper. I never connected the two, but for all I know, it's just her natural personality.

I avoid these on site cliques like the plague now - childish and silly. And the best way of staying away from catty people is to stay away from those journals recording this kind of behaviour. Life's way too short!

You are an excellent Mod, IMHO!

I avoid these on site cliques like the plague now - childish and silly. And the best way of staying away from catty people is to stay away from those journals recording this kind of behaviour. Life's way too short!

You are an excellent Mod, IMHO!