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See what I subjects I feel passionate about, and whether it gets me started on a rant.

On the other hand, it might just be about my day.

So, that's how I feel about it....what do you think....

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But I'm not bitter.

I think I know the answer. It is the nature of men to be competitive. If they aren't one up, then they are one down. They put a lot of effort into staying one up, and that means the woman is cast in the one down position. So really, it only follows that SHE is the one who needs to change.

Wow! And partyof5 says that I make long entries!

I think my question is this... what is success to you? Each of us has our own definition of success, so what does it mean to you? I think when you can answer that, you will know how successful you are.

Would you like me to go through your list? It might actually make you feel loads better, but I'll just get depressed. So, I'll wait for your green light.

Wow, that's what I call a good solid blog entry. It deserves a solid response. ha.

Let's see...for me, one of those 'success' categories stands far and away above the rest, and makes all the others fall into place. But you don't want to hear it, so I'll move on....haha.

Home: First of all, what kind of ammo? I'd sleep with my gun under my pillow, but my wife might complain. I'm a little confused about how much you have to pay for the repairs, if anything. But if you need a painter, give me a call. I'm good. haha. No charge.

Career: Networking...ugh. Hate it. But danged if it isn't a necessary evil sometimes (minus the sex). For a contractor, it sounds as though you're holding your own, but I know what you mean. It sucks out there right now. I'm feeling it big time lately.

Family: Won't deny having a loving family is a HUGE plus. I have that, but I also have close friends who I consider my family. You do too, it seems. But...family is a terrible label for success.

Financial: If you want some cheering up, I'll show you my finances.

Relationships: Good friends. Nothing beats that. If you can check on Guy #5's status from home, go for it. I would. If it was on my heart, I'd want to know, once and for all.

Spiritual: The foundation to everything in life.

Health: Hiking in 3,000 feet of snow really amps up a workout.

Conclusion: Casey has more than her health.

Did you ever watch Disney's Mulan? Not my ideal, no, but that's the closest I can think of.
Words and gestures don't mean a lot to me.

I do like screen couples who can laugh together. I think being able to laugh together is a necessary balance to the whole I'd-take-a-bullet-for-you uber-intensity.

Heck, I don't know! Cora and Nathaniel from 'Last of the Mohicans'. They were cool.

Nope, don't agree....those declarations of love are anything but crazy. Don't need to take a bullet for someone to let them know they're your everything and you'll always be there for them. Talk is cheap though, right? Yeah, maybe...for some. Jerry Maguire was a slow learner, but even he figured it out. He would've taken a bullet for Renee, but it wasn't in the script. Oh well..it was a great line anyway.

I've never heard of Penny and Desmond, but what you described sounds pretty darn romantic to me. The sort of thing soulmates who can't live without one another would do.

I'm not a big fan of Feb. 14, but.....Happy Valentine's Day, Casey.

I've been sitting here for, um, let's just say a good amount of time, trying to figure out an answer. The truth is, I don't really have a favorite movie or a favorite couple. Sure, I love so many romantic movies, and love many of the couples portrayed on screen, but I don't know if I have a favorite. Not one that I can say 'my ideal couple is...',so, I'm a little stuck with this one.

I can tell you the traits my ideal man has, but we might be here till next year! Though, I will agree with you and try to keep it short and sweet. Yes, I want to be able to count on someone, through thick and thin, but, it's more than that. I want someone who knows me. When they look at me, they see me. I want someone real and grounded. I want someone I can face struggles with. I want someone who I can go through ups and downs with and know that we will make it through. I want a best friend and a lover in one. And yes, I want the fairytale of knowing he is my soulmate.

Hhhmmm... you know this is a hard question and I'm going to be thinking about this till I can find an answer.

That is a huge, huge step! And a very good step forward. You should be proud of yourself. Well done!

I still struggle very much with saying and writing, even hearing someone else tell me about the rape I experienced with my husband time and time again. I struggle even more knowing that my beautiful daughters were given to me through something so indescribable. But it gets easier everyday. And knowing and meeting other women that have gone through it, makes it something I feel I need to do, because I know the worst thing that can happen is to think you are alone in it and thinking that way can make you disguise what really happened. Which can be very traumatic and lead to many things that are detrimental to us.

Yes, acknowledgment is very important. It's part of the process. Strangely enough I had an easier time acknowledging the bad things that happened to me when I was able to acknowledge all the good things about me. I know that sounds strange, but it worked with me.

There is always someone you can reach out to. So hold strong and you will get there.

I'm glad you changed that line because it needed to be changed. It IS a big deal.

My wife and I were just talking about that yesterday -- acknowledging the kids commitment to certain things and truly taking to heart what it means to them. They need to see it matters.

But I could take you at basketball. Bring it.

gasp! i played in little league too. girls were allowed to play with the boys, but i was the only one (except for one year when another joined). now just because i was allowed didn't mean jack shit. my coach was pretty good about letting me play, because i was good, but for some fucked up reason didn't want me pitching. i had to ride him about it for a good long time before he finally gave in.

and i was GOOD.

i'm sorry you missed out on that. it's really awful, and worse that nobody ever noticed. someone should have.

god. i remember watching a commercial either on the news or on oprah back in the day when she had a show about tomboys growing up to be lesbians. nice. made me feel really good about myself.

good for you for making those steps. i'm trying to make my own, and i know at least a little how hard it can be.
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