This is great. Often times, after my needs have been met over and over. I take a night out, where it's all about her. Not like morning to sleep. But I let her know, I'd like to pleasure her tonight. She even feels bad when things don't arrive at success. But making it all about her, for the evening is very wonderful. It turns upside down the pyramid of the selfish guy. Also, find something, anything, to spoil her with. With us in the U.S. we have more to offer. For instance the first few days of her new job, I cooked up major meals, fixed creative though inexpensive desserts, and I got payback, just seeing her happy, or her asking for thirds on my whipped cream and fruit concoction that wasn't much. I know she likes whipped cream, she would live on it if she could for life. If you know your wife, choose a random day, and give her what she specifically likes. Flowers in a folded paper with a poem. Use that writing creativity towards her. When you start seeing and reaping the rewards there's so much reinforcement it just keeps on going.....Does she like a specific type of flower? What's her favorite relative, send a letter to that relative, and have that relative contact her, have you and the kids take dinner completely off of her hands, then you all can read a book together or play a board game, they have simple games in every country.

Thoughtful gifts and actions are the most meaningful to people to me. Flat out direct communication about what your wife likes, colors, sensual things. I occasionally play the game, if you had all the money in the world, or no restrictions......then I do what I can to give those things within our meager budget.