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28 Minutes 49 Seconds ago, in response to "Car rides?"

Rainbowapple

said:

Yes, take that nap. Rest when you are tired, and you will be more productive. I always take a 20 minute nap right before I tackle my schoolwork-and it does help me to focus better.

Happy Sunday!.

53 Minutes 3 Seconds ago, in response to "Car rides?"

SummerLyn Guthrie

said:

Sort of like when we would take the kids for a ride when they were young, and as soon as the car starts going...off they went. So too with me if I am not driving. It's just sort of a relaxing motion, and if you trust the driver, it is easier to get more relaxed. Enjoy that nap!!! And (((((((((((((((( Welcome Home!

))))))))))))))))

1 Day 6 Hours ago, in response to "Gone but never forgotten..."

Douger

said:

I think we can honor the dead through memories, thoughts, our writing, and our actions.I like SummerLyn Guthrie 's idea of living a life that would make the dead proud to have been a friend or relative.

1 Day 7 Hours ago, in response to "Gone but never forgotten..."

SummerLyn Guthrie

said:

Interesting! Is it far that you will be driving? Having lived in two worlds, I remember when I was young living in the 'white' world, we turned the televisions off...there was no radio. You had to sit and mourn I guess. I was young, but I remember that with my father. In the Lakota tradition, we do not speak of the dead after they are gone, for a year. It is to allow their spirit to go on and not linger here. At the year anniversary of the person who has gone on, the family will hold a 'give-away' to thank all those who helped at the person's wake/or helped the family with their love. Usually it is then, that the tombstone will be placed on the grave...sometimes the family will place it on before that time. To honor them, for me, I usually try to live my life in a good way, so that they would be proud to have been my friend, or relative. This is my way.

2 Days 45 Minutes ago, in response to "I need to be in love."

Rainbowapple

said:

Wow, this is a gut-wrencher and an eye opener. Some great advice in comments above. My sense is that we are all individuals who seek different joys from life. Similarly, love asks different things of people at different phases of their lives, but love also remains one of life's great mysteries. I don't think that love is ever meant to be fully understood or rationalized. But, I do believe that we have the right to question what we are getting out of relationships, especially if there is an unhappiness at the base of it. Some people are happy to 'settle' in life, whilst others seek to 'strive'. I am very blessed in that both my husband and myself are 'strivers' and that happiness is the cornerstone of our very complex and constantly-changing marriage.

Selfishness can be a subjective perception. On what basis?. From whose perspective?. Similarly, any definition or boundary of happiness, depends a lot upon who is doing the asking, and from what point-of-view. Perhaps it is that Brian has never been asked to step outside or look beyond his own comfort zone and 'reality'?. This could be equally scary and challenging for him, too, leaving behind more questions than it answers.

Divorce is not optimal, no-but neither is having your children see their mother in a state of unhappiness, discontent and uncertainty. Perhaps it's about time that you re-drew some boundaries of your own, now that you have a clearer picture of where Brian is at on the subject?. Life is too short for 'What if's", after all.

2 Days 6 Hours ago, in response to "I need to be in love."

SummerLyn Guthrie

said:

He said he was never my lover. He said he has never had passion for me and I just have to get used to who he is.

Well isn't this a shoe dropper!

He said this?! The question that stands out in my mind is, who was this man when you first got together? How did you create your children? It's my thought that love is like a Kaleidoscope...ever changing...many facets to it really...don't you think so? With so many levels.

I told Brian that I needed to be in love and he told me I was being selfish. ....He said that in a marriage you don't have to be "in-love" that passion falls away and a friendship is enough. (true)
Perhaps is Brian seeing a mirror reflection of his own self as far as calling you 'selfish'? You're the counselor, but from reading this...this was my first thought. Perhaps it is projection on his part.

As for your question...I believe it will be different for everyone, depending on where they are in their life and what they want in their life. For me...I strive for 'peace' within my own world here. It's a never ending battle, but I believe in my heart that everything is connected to another. In order for there to be love, there must be harmony, in order to have harmony, there must be peace...etc. Make sense to you?

2 Days 7 Hours ago, in response to "I need to be in love."

Sherri the Writer

said:

I think love is something that develops and changes over time. Sure the initial passion fades, but in my almost 12 years of marriage, I think that love has integrated with friendship to form a unique bond that's impossible anywhere else. I'm not on the dopamine "high" I was with him in college, but I still feel he's my other half in a deeper and more personal way and I can't imagine life without him. It's like we matured and so did our "love."

It's complex. But given recent events in my own life and changes on the horizon, it seems what I really need is time and space to look within myself. These days it's about identity with me. I'm about to face a change in my job, and I suppose this time is set aside for me to reconcile myself to all I am before taking that next step forward.

Isn't life stange and odd? But I guess that's what makes it special!

Have a great weekend!

3 Days 46 Minutes ago, in response to "I am going to make this happen"

NOVAcatman Banfhile

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Maybe I should make a plan... I'll do that... tomorrow...

3 Days 8 Hours ago, in response to "I am going to make this happen"

Douger

said:

Thanks for sharing the quote. You can never plan too much unless, of course, you continue to plan long after you should have put your plan in action.

I'm planning on eating breakfast so you can bet I'm gonna put that plan into action right away.

3 Days 9 Hours ago, in response to "I am going to make this happen"

partyof5

said:

That's great inspiration! How many times do we have great ideas...plans...whatever....but struggle to put them into action? That first step is usually the hardest, but I think it's best to take it even if we're not fully prepared in our minds yet. Even the best laid plans rarely go according to that plan. So why not just get going on it?

1. Looking for something...	ID #675571
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Hi Shellyville,

I'm looking for something to do today. I am so bored already. I should never be bored. Life is full of all kinds of things to keep me busy, yet...I feel I have run out of ideas.

Shame on me! I shouldn't, wouldn't, couldn't be like this!

When will I ever feel my internal fire burn again? I even hate to say this, let alone think it, but it is time for me to get some kind of job. Yikes. I said it.

I need more. It is time to go volunteer and make myself known in the mental health community. I don't have to wait until I have my degree. I should be doing something now. Life is slipping by and I am watching it.

I can't wait to help others...so what is stopping me?

Fear. Ever hear of it? Fear is a wild beast that roams my mind at times. He robs me of confidence. He tells me I won't find anything. He tells me I won't be good enough. I hate that voice. I wonder why I let it determine my happiness. Why would I let this monster roam free in my precious mind?

Today, I am going to set the beast free. I am going to go take my shower, get dressed and look for something to occupy my mind. I can do it!

Love,
Michelle

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