Poll Question:

As I have grown older, I have started to read more "hardcore" erotica (and by that I mean not merely bodice-ripping romance novel stuff). In my readings, I have noticed that most of the B/D and S/M stories primarily contain a dominant man and a submissive female. While this seems to make some kind of biological sense and does indeed make for a hot read, why is it that invariably the interaction will devolve into the man calling the woman a bitch, slut, whore, etc? For me, this is a turn off, and not simply because it is insulting. In fact, I'm not insulted so much as offended by the predictability of it and thrown off by the un-erotic words. Can't the submission be out of love and can't obedience be demanded without name calling?

So, please do educate me: Why is there so much demeaning language in BDSM erotica?

PLEASE NOTE: Even if you don't do this kind of thing in your real sex life, if you read these stories and imagine yourself in either the Sub or Dom role, you are meant to use your personal fantasies guide your answer.

*Yes, I do realize that not ALL erotica from this genre has such language, Anne Rice is a perfect example, but to me it seems very common.

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