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Hi all,
How is everyone tonight/today? I hope you are blessed. I know I am.
There is no prompt for the 12 Days of Christmas blog today, it's free choice, whatever we want to write about. So how about coming with me into my world.
I know that the main entry to my blog tells you a snippet of who I am. So I thought it might be nice to let you know a little bit more about me.
I grew up in a small town in Wisconsin, USA, population about 5000 usually less. My parents were church going people, still are. They are in their late 70s now. Mom turns 78 on Sunday. She said once that Grandma had said how she was a late baby, supposing to come before the new year. I don't know the story about my parents and how they met, so this isn't about them.
There was one thing I could count on every Sunday while I was growing up. A trip to Grandma and Grandpa's in Green Bay, if the Packer's were playing a home game. My parents had season tickets to the game. We would come to Green Bay sometimes before church and go with Grandma and my cousins. Grandpa didn't go to church back then. Grandma taught Sunday school so I would go to one of the classes at her church. It was a regular family affair on those Sundays and I had a lot of fun with my cousins who lived around the corner from Grandma and Grandpa Routhieaux. Their house belonged to Grandma and Grandpa when my dad was a kid. He was born in that house. His sister, Aunt Caroline, dad's only sister, lived there. There were four cousins, the twins Jimmy and Johnny, Junior, and Carol Ann. There were three of us for a while and then the numbers changed. Aunt Caroline had a son and nine months later so did mom. I'm digressing again.
Anyway we would spend Sundays either at the bowling alley or the theater in winter. Those were the days before home games were televised. The only way you could hear a Packer's game was on the radio. That was during the glory years when the Packer's pretty much won every year of the 60s. My parents went to the famous Ice Bowl game. I'm thinking that game was against the Dallas Cowboys, and that's why they don't want to play in Green Bay anymore in winter, or else it was with the Cleveland Browns. I was only a kid at the time so my memory isn't that sharp as to who we played at that time.
There were two constants in our family. One sports. I was born a Packers fan, and the second was auto mechanic. Not so much my dad, but my cousins, Jimmy and Johnny always had their heads under the hood of a car. Johnny works in an auto shop in Green Bay today, no surprise. Because of the two big past times I purposed early that I wouldn't marry someone who had their head under the hood of a car all the time. I got my wish, believe me. Anyway, digressing again. That was pretty much my younger years. It would also be interesting to note that as most people carry pictures in their wallets of their family, the picture I carried in mine was of Bart Starr, star quarterback of the Packers during the 60s. There has only been one quarterback since him that was just as good, and he plays with the Vikings now, but not to be outdone, Aaron Rodgers is turning out to be a really good quarterback and in a lot of ways is better than that Viking quarterback.
There was another thing that I started thinking about while I was growing up, and no it wasn't getting married. Though I did choose enough names for a dozen kids. I wanted a large family when I did get married, but that wasn't what I started thinking a lot about. I wear glasses as you can see by my picture. I started wearing them when I was in first grade. The eye doctor's office was in the same building that housed the recruiting office. Every time I would go to get my eyes checked I would look over the brochures for the various services. It was a seed of an idea that I started to think more and more about, even after I graduated from high school and got my certificate as a nurse's aide. It was when I got fired from my first job as a nurse's aide that I started thinking more seriously about the military. I still didn't know which branch I would go in. It was a toss up between the Navy and the Air Force. I think I flipped a coin for which branch when it came time to seriously think about my future.
I was 18 when I made the decision to go into the Navy. It was 1972. I told my mother I was joining the Navy. She told me dad wouldn't allow it. I had to have his signature at the time to join. The legal age was 21. I told my mother I was joining. Dad signed the papers. I passed all the tests. I went to Milwaukee for the physical and the swearing in, and I was on my way to what I thought and hoped would be a promising career in the Navy. I really wanted to be a lifer. I joined the Navy on March 31, 1972. My career in the Navy ended on June 1, 1973 six weeks before my oldest son, Aaron, was born. I did everything I could to stay in, but the ultimate decision lay with the Captain. His thing was that pregnant women did not belong in the Navy. So 1 year, 2 months, and 2 days after I joined I was a civilian. An unhappy civilian.
Oh I was married at the time. I met my husband in the command I was attached to. He was okay, we had for the most part a good marriage and three of the dozen children I wanted. Three was a compromise on his part. He only wanted two. I'm glad we had three. Anyway, our marriage went bad when his mother died, always a momma's boy, it didn't go well for our marriage when she passed away. She never liked me and told me our marriage had a 50% chance of survival. Needless to say, it didn't survive and his mother had a lot to do with why, but that's not my story, or maybe it is, it's not something I want to talk about. We were married 21 years and have now been divorced 15, and I'm still single, unattached in every way, and wishing God would show me who my husband is real soon. I really do want to be married. But this time to a Christian man.
In the middle of all this my story took shape. I had always gone to church since the day I was born, you might say. I was born on Sunday and in church every Sunday afterward until I left home, and even then I went to church every Sunday. I grew up in the Lutheran church. It was during a time in my marriage when I was at odds with his father, he didn't like me either, and I wasn't allowed under their roof. We were circumstantially separated, he didn't stick up for me to his parents, not a good thing to do. Anyway, I'm digressing again. It was in 1979. He had just gotten out of the Navy and we had moved back home to Illinois, or that would be our home as soon as he found a job and a home for us. In the meantime I lived with my parents.
My parents had next door neighbors they weren't on speaking terms with, but I found her to be a wonderful friend and spent a lot of time with her. It was better than being home. My parents and I didn't see eye to eye, never did, anyway that's for another time, maybe. It was during those days when I spent a lot of time with Fae and her family that she started talking to me about being a Born Again Christian. I didn't think I needed to be Born Again since I did go to church every Sunday and Sunday school too. I was wrong as my testimony at the top shows. Anyway, after I gave my life over completely to Jesus Christ as my Savior I started feeling the prompting that I needed to be with my husband, so I called him and told him I was coming down there. He had every intention of sending me back north. God had other plans for me or us at the time. My mother called my mother-in-law and told her the route I had taken, and God just rerouted the bus. I got into Elgin, Illinois about an hour after I was expected, and with the aide of the police at the time, made my way to the Crisis Center. I wasn't allowed under my in-laws roof, and they saw to it that I never was for any length of time.
I suppose you want to know what I did that was so wrong and evil that my father-in-law would ban me from his home. I stood up to him. He told me that my 1.5 year old daughter was to go to bed without dinner because she had been naughty. I told him she was a baby, and she was going to eat. He kicked me out then and there. I had to find a way north the next day. I was actually kicked out of their home twice. The second time was three weeks after our youngest son was born. We were home on leave at the time. Just home from Guam, and my husband waited on orders for his new duty station. He got them two days before his son was born. Back in San Diego, so there I was in Illinois waiting for him to find a loop hole in his orders that would allow us to be together as a family. One was found four months later. If it weren't for his parents we might still be together.
He got out of the Navy in 1979 when I found myself back with my parents for about six months. We didn't find a home in Illinois until I went back down there and found a job myself and then found us a home. I guess in a way, our life and marriage just got worse from that point. I tried to make it work after his mother died in 1983, but we finally severed the tie that bound us together as man and wife in 1994.
There was another constant in my life, my writing. Somewhere in all these blogs I wrote about my abusive childhood. Like I said, I never got along with my parents, and the only way I could even face a single day was to write. It all started when I was watching an episode of Big Valley, and I told myself I hated it and could write it better. So my writing career started at the tender age of 8. Writing was how I survived my youth. It was also how I managed to keep myself together during the bad days of my marriage.
In November 1980, several months after I became a Born Again Christian, I started a book titled Joanne. First I worked it out in my head before I went to sleep, then I realized it was going good and decided it was time to write it down. It took me all of six months to write Joanne, and then I heard a children's story on the radio set in the same time period as my book and realized I needed to make some background changes to my book. And spent the next six months rewriting it. It wasn't right away, as I recall, but it did take another six months to get it rewritten. I wrote it longhand at the time, not on a typewriter.
It was when I was writing the first version of Joanne that I came to a decision. A second one really, because the first decision had to do with writing it for publishing in mind. Now that was some decision. I had heard that Isaac Asimov before he died said any book worth their weight had more than 250 pages in them. Okay, so I would write twice that - 500. The actual first version longhand was 400+. I would have 12 chapters, that meant that each chapter was 42 pages long. Aren't you glad none of those chapters are that long now? So with that plan in mind I set to work. It was when Edgar was 2 years old. The kids came home for lunch, and I made this statement -- I'm going to get the kids something to eat, send them back to school, put Edgar down for his nap and then I'll work on my book. So far so good. The kids ate and went back to school and I made another statement out loud mind you, I'm going to put Edgar down for a nap and take one myself. I've never until that moment heard the voice of God, but I did in the next several moments. "OH NO YOU'RE NOT" came through loud and clear, and so ensued at least a half hour of my arguing with God about how awful my book was and I hated it and I was going to scrap it. Aren't you glad I didn't? Anyway, God told me to work with it right where it was at and let Him take hold of it and make it better. Well you can't argue with God after all, He always wins, so with Edgar in bed I worked on Joanne and when all was said and done, chapter four was the best chapter in the book. As time went on, the rest of the chapters became it's equal.
Then came the day I needed to type it because I was going to a Writers' Conference. My husband, always so supportive, sarcasm, told me I would never make it as a Christian author. Aren't you glad I didn't listen to him? I took the three chapters with me to the conference, but only after I had another 'talk' with God about it. I told Him I would not let a man look at my manuscript. Aren't you glad God knows best? So I went to the conference armed with three chapters of my book. The first night of the conference was the banquet that started it all. There was a guest speaker who is a very famous evangelist. I don't know what he talked about, but I do remember talking to him face to face and shaking his hand. It was many years later that I saw Dr. Charles Stanley on television and recognized him as the keynote speaker at the banquet and I had talked to him face to face. That was a WOW moment for me.
At the banquet I talked with a woman who ghosted. It was an interesting topic, anyway I made an impression on her, to my chagrin. Remember I said I would not talk to a man about my manuscript, which was my baby. The next day was the editors panel. I sized up the panel of editors, there were about three women on the panel and I wondered which one was from Tyndale House Publishers, where God had told me to take my manuscript. So as I waited for the introductions all of a sudden the name Ken Peterson, Editor of Tyndale House Publishers spoke up. I made up my mind not to speak to him, especially when he said that if his sign-up sheet was full to make a personal appointment with him and he would fit us in. My mind was set. Aren't you glad you aren't in control of your life?
I was in line for the snack after the panel and in front of me was the woman from the banquet, and in front of her was the editor of Tyndale House Publishers. She pointed to him, knowing that I intended to talk to someone at that house. He turned around and she said to him "This is the person I was telling you about." I wanted the floor to open up and swallow me whole like what happened with those guys in the Wilderness in Moses day, but it didn't. He looked at me with interest and I simply said his sheet was full, it was. He said he would make an appointment for 1:15. God does know what He's doing.
I met with him at the designated time, and he looked over the three chapters as I sat on the edge of my chair. He said "This is good." I wanted to fall off the chair. He also asked if I considered a series. I had just barely gotten that one taken care of, series was a long way from my mind. Aren't you glad that editors and God know more than we do? He also said he wanted to see it when it was completed. In other words fully typed and he said disk. Well that didn't happen. I didn't have a computer, and it would be three years before I would be able to get him the full manuscript. I hand delivered it to him. I wasn't about to send it through the mail. He sent it back through the mail in just a couple days with a two page critique rejection of all the reasons why my manuscript didn't meet their criteria, but overall he said it was good and any other house would take it, but it wasn't up to their standards. So for the past years since 1983 and following I have been honing Joanne and bringing it up to standards. Joanne is now Scarred, and it is a four book series. God and editors do know what they are talking about. Aren't you glad?
I can see this went very long, and I hope you weren't bored as you read this peak into my life and how Scarred came about.
Keep Writing
Valerie
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