Holistic Sex and Form Frigidity

Holistic Sex and Form frigidity

Sexual activity can be considered to be a form of intense communication or impulse messaging. Ideally,it is the only opportunity for an all points communication of meaning. The Existentialist term transcenion is a good word to describe it. Holistic sex involves the allocentric senses which are sight and hearing; These are the distance senses. And, also the autocentric senses such as touch, which are the nearness senses, are involved. People today seem to be drifting away from that; they are getting sexual excitement from such things as pornography. This is part of the cause of what I call form frigidity.
The notion of frigidity should be seen not as an ?either or? proposition, but as a continuum. In particular it can be described in terms of the views that men have in regard to women. Because of the individual male's life trajectory; his relationship with his parents and many other factors, He may feel anxiety about being intense with a female. He might consider that whatever is outside of his ?person construct?; soft sex zone is inappropriate. His perception might be that females are fragile and should only be handled with care. A good analogy of this is speech communication by a person who tears the dictionary in two and only allows himself to use one half of it. There is also the opposite side of the coin. The male who only perceives sex as being only qualitatively intense and without affection. He may call this authenticity. But this is a form of frigidity also. This is often seen as a mark of sexual promiscuity.