Letter To Donna

Dear Donna,

          This letter is not very hard to write. It is my chance to tell you exactly what I have been feeling all of these years about you. Unlike Paul, you have been somewhat more accepting toward me and my challenges. However, you have seemed to be under the mistaken notion that it is your duty or job to take over where your mother, Corrine, has left off.

          There were many times when you would call me and complain that she was getting on your nerves. Looking back on those calls, I have to laugh. I would tell you what to do, move out and get your own life. You seem to like having Corrine tell you what to do. You are forty-two years old. You don't need your Mommy to come into an examining room with you like when you were a child.

          If you think for one split second that when those two people are no longer here, you are going to take over my "care and feeding", think again. I have been trying to get that money that the two of you have stolen from me. I know that Corrine won't give the money to me freely or willingly. For some reason, she is under the mistaken notion that I am immature, unable to handle big, major decsions, and am not an adult. She is wrong as are you. You have absolutely no right to tell me how to live my life. I am older than you.

          I realize that you can't have any children due to your cancer and subsequent hysterectomy. I am sorry that that happened to you. However, you seem to take any maternal instinct and project onto me as if I am your daughter. This practice is not only wrong, but unacceptable. If you want a child that bad, adopt. You have the American Dream- a house, money, and you did have a job. I will not gratefully or graciously slip into a role just to make you happy.

          You will NEVER make any decisions on my behalf or for me. I will not allow it. What I would like you to do is step back and assume the role of doting daughter to those two people. You are one of the chosen two. You are the wanted daughter that has brought so much pride and joy in their lives. Over the years, Corrine couldn't gush about you and your accomplishments enough. It was and still is nauseating.

          This is fine. I am not going to beg for their affection. You can have it all. I don't care. Enjoy it for the few years they have left. Just remember that I will NEVER forgiven you for stealing the money that was mine. I did not give you permission to finance your new car with my money. IF you don't have the money, you don't buy the item, plain and simple. All I can say is, when those two people leave this earth, you WILL give me what is rightfully mine and I will walk away-never to be seen or heard from again.

Sincerely,

Denise