Fathers of Children with an IEP

The Experience of the Father of a Child with an IEP

You belong to one of three categories
1. fathers who show up, but wonder what is going on
2. fathers who do not show up, and wonder what is going on
3. fathers who show up when things are very bad, and hope the mother knows what is going on.

You have demanded an action plan, only to be told no actions are being planned, and this needs to be discussed at length.

You ask the school people where the financial figures are, only to be met by blank stares.

You suspect school people are actually robots.

You have been told that you need anger management.
You have been called an absentee father.
You have been called an unconcerned father.

You are sure that nothing is wrong with your child, are puzzled as to why everyone else thinks your child has problems.

You find yourself muttering, “the boy, what to do with the boy.”
You find yourself delegating all matters pertaining to, “the girl,” to her mother.

You look for a father's support group only to find, there are none in your area.
You attend a parent's support group meeting, you are the only male present and all the women are talking about how unhelpful fathers are.

Your wife always comes to bed late because she has been researching on the Internet.

You start running lots of errands.