My life.

Today I recived a following text message from my father : " How can you live without any contact with your parents? That is awful".
Some time ago I decided not to answer any phone calls from my mom. Whenever I talked to her, she always found something wrong with my opinions or decisions about my personal life. I even found out that she kept telling to the family bad things about my husband. After having any conversation with her, I would always be in bad mood. Taking a little break from our relationship was the best solution at that time.
I sometimes call my father, but usually I send him a text message. I am not able to talk to my older brother - I know what he thinks. He has opinion of me as a problem child. He and my mom belive that money is the most important thing in life. Personally I do not care about money. I found out that what I need to live is: a roof above me to protect me from cold nights, bed with comforter on it and a good food. Besides of that I can't stand without swimming, having car is a must, a library in a walking distance, and a computer at last. Of course I have to have my husband on my site as often as possible. I have to help people constantly, it makes me feel needed in this world.
My family's and mine points of view differ. When I tell them: " That is not a money what makes you happy. That is happiness what make you money." They do not understand that. Maybe that is because they have never been happy? or they do not let themselves be happy?
Where I am going is that I do not know how to deal with my mother. She tells me that she does not believe me that I am actually happy. What I know is that I have to have respect to her and do not harm her verbally. How would I behave if I was in her shoes? I think I would just accept reality and let my kids feel free and make own choices, just let them live the way they want and just be happy.
I start my life on my own, when I was 21 years old. I was threw away far from my family, between people I never met in my life. I was located in the country far from the place I was born. I had my brother helping me in beginning for a few months. However I decided to start making decisions on my own- with no one to count on but myself. Then I met Matthew. His parents were divorced, his father never paid a child support for none of his kids. Matthew's sister had 5 or 6 babies and was not able to keep them because of her lifestyle. His twin brother has been to prison when I met him because of his influence to illegal drugs. But Matthew was different than his siblings. When he was 17 years old, he became a Christian and choose to have a mentally healthy life. He would take me to the church on Sunday, show me how to enjoy time together, and how to always be happy no matter what. I thought that I finally found the person I could trust and count on. I felt strong enough to carry his background badge and decided to help him out. My mother started to dislike Matt after she found out he did not much her criteria for a son-in-low ( I did not tell her about Matt's past). One of the reasons was that he did not have a stable job and still was looking for doing something that would make him happy. Of course my mother doesn't believe that there are people whose jobs make them happy. My mother started telling me how unwise and unresponsible I was making decision marring Matt. After a while I could not stand her telling me what to do or comparing me to my alcoholic uncle, whose mother had to take care of him for the whole his life.
Me and my husband decided to start fresh life together without no one from the family having influence on it. We wanted to have a different lives than ours relatives have had. And I guess the way, which we found is to be around different people and in different environments, looking for the best way to live a fulfilling life. Maybe there are people thinking that we lost ours minds. We learned not to listen to them and just live the way we want to. We learned to support each other since there is nobody else who care about us as much as each other.