Thoughts on GaLs

         Thoughts on GaLs

         (Haha, John goes for the clever title again. That should read "G&Ls" as in gays and lesbians.)

         Is homosexuality wrong? Well, depends on what you're asking, really. Is it physically incorrect? Is it morally wrong? Or is it just socially taboo?
         Physically, homosexuals can make sex work. Sex isn't necessarily always sword-and-sheath. Even heterosexuals can tell you that. Biologically, G&Ls are in a bind. Babies are created by the correct fitting of male equipment to female equipment. You won't achieve procreation by homosexual intercourse. So if their goal is to multiply, then G&Ls are out of luck. But if the goal is to be a parent, well these days we have such thing as adoption. Thus, I think that despite some confusion about intent, all physical objections to homosexuality can be overcome.
         Morality never can seem to make up its mind on sex of any kind. Either it's okay to do as an expression of love, or it's never okay unless a baby is the result, and sometimes not even that is considered a clean act. However, I have never met a person with the courage of the latter convictions. If sex is a valid expression of love (not just personal satisfaction or affirmation of life), then I don't see how gender enters the equation as important. We hug our friends. We kiss our family. And hey, at times we go farther than intended when appreciating our loved ones. But can it be a Bad Thing™, to express love? The target of that love ought not to matter. It should go without saying that a person cannot help whom he or she loves. Love is not a conscious decision, but an emotional reaction.
         The social factor is the only truly valid objection. The misguided mores and ethereal ethics of the majority of the population are what determines social acceptability in a democracy. The ancient Greeks and Romans had societies so evolved that not only was homosexuality acceptable, it was favored among the higher classes (philosophers and rulers). I don't believe in social goodness or disgrace. To accept society's view is to admit you can't make up your own mind. But consider society's evaluation of homosexuality compared to its loftiest tenets and aspirations. Then determine your own opinion on the rights of gays and lesbians to pursue happiness as their privacy pleases in this land of the free.

         Are homosexuals cool? Strangely, I find our stereotypical social reactions to G&Ls to be at odds with the logically-suggested reactions.
         Traditionally, heterosexual guys love lesbians and hate gays. They fantasize about "converting" lesbians or at least seeing some kinky girl-on-girl action. They fear being thought of by men as a sexual option. They have distaste at the thought of what one gay man might do to another behind closed doors.
         Logically, hetero guys should appreciate gays and feel threatened by lesbians. Lesbians are sexual competition for straight men. Gay men are not. Furthermore, passes by gay men could theoretically add to the self-esteem of straight men. After all, one need not say yes. Just enjoy the fact of being found desirable.
         Similarly, tradition says that heterosexual women adore the kindred sensitivity in gays but dislike lesbians as "dykes" who give their gender bad publicity. Yet lesbians are not sexual competition for straight women, while gay men are. Pretty backwards to think about it this way, huh?

         How to deal with homosexuals? Why, the same as with anyone else. The only possibly different situation is "sexual" as included in the label. How do you deal with a sexual advance by a homosexual? Ideally, the same as with anyone else. Say yes, no, or maybe. If you say no, the mature thing for that complimentary person would be to cease making passes at you. Don't assume that G&Ls will persist and make you uncomfortable. And if they do, embarrass them socially, just the same as you would any other unwelcome stalker. It's a relationship offer, not rocket science.

         What about bisexuals? Laugh - Arguably, bisexuals are the most open-minded of the persuasions. They don't discriminate against partners based on who has a wing-wang or who has a hoo-hah!