|I, am now a 16 year old girl.
I am also a virgin BY CHOICE!
So for all of you small minded people who will think "she just says that because she can't get any". I repeat, I'm a virgin by choice.
I could have had sex with him. God knows he wanted it, and I think I probably did too. But instead of ruining our friendship and my moral system, we layed there. Together, and held hands and talked. Corny? Maybe. The most wonderful time I've ever spent with him. Definatly!
No, I am not a prude. I will never follow the teachings of catholisisim like the perfect little girl I am meant to be. I will not become a nun, and yes, I am willing to have sex without a ring.
So why not then?
Simply because, I didn't love him.
People my age tend to think sex is all just one big pleasuse trip, wear a condom, get drunk, no one gets hurt.
I beg to differ.
The way I see it, sex it the ultimate. You can't go beyond it. There is no next step, once you've had sex you've shared everything, your partner has been inside of you, or vice-verca. To me that means something.
Sure it feels good (so I've been told) but wouldn't it feel a whole lot better if when you roll over after the "big O" and look into the eyes of the person who is laying beside you and the eyes look back? Not at your naked body, not at the wall, or the ceiling, but into you, into your eyes. I know I'd sure feel a hell-of-alot better knowing that the person next to me isn't going to run off and tell all his friends how he got "laid". That I won't have to hang my head in shame at school, knowing that everyone thinks I'm a whore. Feeling bad for that one night.
The risk outnumbers the benifit.
Sex, is not physical, it's emotional. You have got to be connected to the person who you invite inside.
It's not a matter of "oh god he/she is hot", it's a matter of "oh god, I can tell him/her everything".
Of corse it's old-fashioned.
But it's what I believe, I've come to the conclusion on my own, not because of parents or the church.
I'm 16,and a virgin by choice, but I'll never be labled a whore, or have the kind of regrets that I feel could have come along with sleeping with him.
The fact that he understood, makes me feel all that much better.
Comment...let me know I'm not alone!!!!!