To describe him...

Okay. This is it. The profile of the perfect guy. The standard by which I hope to judge all forthcoming young men. The ones that are extra important are in all caps.
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* Like Scarlett O'Hara was told by Rhett Butler...Ahem! I will amend that statement just a wee bit..."I should be DANCED WITH and OFTEN and by someone who KNOWS HOW." And knowing how, to me, means someone who is in his element on the dance floor and above all having fun. NOT someone who is too rigid or self-conscious to move their body. Someone who knows how to FEEL the music vibrate in their soul. This is MOST attractive!

*Someone who CHASES me. Just face it, I LOVE to be chased, to have my affections pursued. And I just love someone who will put themselves out to attain my heart and not give up until I am just as convinced of our magical connection as they are!

*SPON-TAN-EOUS
This is oh so important. A guy who will whisk me away at the drop of a hat. Surprise me with mushy poetry or just drop on by the Hall to see me because I mentioned to him in causual conversation that I had a talk that night. Hint: He gets more points if I didn't even tell him what Hall I go to.

*MR. JOHNNY-ON-THE-SPOT
I give him some conversation or request something of him? He doesn't take it or me for granted. Hey, I'm his dream-come-true. His emails outshine mine in length, his questions more probing, and he is always the one to leave the door open for more interlocution. And he DELIVERS RIGHT AWAY! He makes me his TOP priority because he wants to show me all I've got to gain by taking a chance on him. After all, this is a chase and you don't just ease up once you've nearly caught your quarry, you keep it going to make SURE they don't get away. And in the case of the heart, he wants to make sure that his name is branded on mine for the rest of time. (That is also why, as soon as I've shown that I respect him, he contrives a way to take me dancing. Maybe asking me to join a group that is going somewhere.)

*DEEP! (If could bold & italicize this word, I would)
Just read some of the lyrics by Creed or Chad Kroeger. Listen to the fine tunes of Earth, Wind and Fire, and you'll know where I am going. Stuff REALLY TOUCHES this guy. His heart and soul are like a deep abyss. The type of guy I can stand hand-in-hand with at the edge of the world and who will turn to me and say, "Darling, don't you feel free?" He will search out deep experiences. Like kissing me in the rain, or between the ocean's waves or underneath a waterfall, he will vow eternal love to me within the breath of the wind. He will even scream his love from the top of the mountain so that it can vibrate and echo for all to hear. He will take me for walks in the rainforest and talk to me the way the Shepherd boy talked to his Shulamite maiden. He's about being self-aware and he's an INCURABLE romantic. He will ask me things like, "Have you ever wanted to stand within the wind's dark fury?" or "Did you ever want to invent realities where time has no meaning?" or "What do you mean by "a soul is worth more once sacrificied", do you really believe that? Let me share with you my pontifications and theorizings on that subject."

*An intellectual
I don't want him to make me feel like a dummy but he's got to be able to bat heads with me. Not just ask my advice ALL the time but have actual theories of his own. I've got to be able to learn from him too and respect his thought processes. He's got to be able to say, "Darling, I've read this scientific article..." or "About the topic we were discussing yesterday, I've researched it and let me share it with you..." or "Let me share with you a deep inspirational thought this fine morning? Do you agree with the author? I've already adopted my stance but I would be pleased to hear yours."

*He will LOVE me
Meaning that I am the most important thing in his earthly life. His default, automatic reaction is to think of my happiness before his own ... because he loves me more than himself and before anything else that he thought he valued in the world. Which means that he would be willing to take a loss or a disadvantage if it is necessary in order to protect our relationship, which he views as much more important. So, we will not be splitting over different goals and objectives like some people do, because we will both share one common objective, which absolutely supersedes all other earthly objectives,...our relationship. And we would BOTH of us sacrifice anything and everything we needed to, in order to protect it.

*He will believe in love
Meaning, he will believe in destined love and one true soulmate. Now, I know this sounds a little far-fetched and to tell you the truth, I sometimes wonder if it is really the case. But, I realize now, that it is something that I NEED to believe in, in order for me to be one increment of happy, especially in a relationship.


*As of 6/3/2008 ... the following summary was added to this list ...

* My ideal man will have to be smart enough to talk easily about literature (specifically the Brontes) and have an opinionated discussion on scientific or historical or prophetical subjects. He will have to understand (and love) my writing at a profound level. He will love the acquiring of knowledge for knowledge's sake and be able to understand conceptualizations. He will own his own thriving business, be awe-inspiringly talented in his own individual creativity, and be curious about the world and open to other cultures/experiences and travelling. He will be financially savvy, but not materialistic or driven by amassing money. He views money as a tool, something useful, something that one is wise to learn how to manage, but NOT something that one invests one's emotions in, that one boasts to others about, or that one considers when determining the direction or goals of one's life. If necessary, he would sacrifice monetary gain to follow his heart, his conscience, or his own mind. He will have a reputation for deep commitment, compassion, forgiveness, and kindness. He will also have a total commitment to deepening his capacity for love (at all levels) and in regards to romance in particular. He will have a driving motivation towards an ever-augmenting unselfishness and spirituality ... Although he is by NO means a "skirt chaser", he is the kind of man who knows who he wants when he sees her and goes right on after her ... because he understands, and is secure (but not haughty, boastful or prideful) about, who he is and who he needs in his life. And he does not give up in his pursuit of her, because he is convinced that a relationship between her and himself is what would make both himself and her truly happy. Her being, namely, yours truly! Oh, and he also has to be in his element on the dancefloor.