THINKING OF GETTING MARRIED?

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

In the secular world there is a process called KT Decision Making. This process is quite helpful in certain situations but as a Christian we should be into Holy Spirit Decision Analysis.
Here are some important criteria to consider in making the right choices in the Spirit.
1. Search the Scriptures. Read, listen to and meditate on God' s Word. It cuts through the clutter and filters out whatever' s not of God.
2. Don' t be impatient. Psalm 25: 3a Yea, let none that wait on thee be ashamed:
3. Persist in prayer and ask for God's wisdom James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
4. Fast. Ezra 8: 21 Then I proclaimed a fast there, at the river of Ahava, that we might afflict ourselves before our God, to seek of him a right way for us, and for our little ones, and for all our substance.
5. Wait for peace. Colossians 3: 15 Peace is the "umpire" that should settle all decisions.
As illustrations of Holy Spirit Decision Analysis I would like to consider here examples from the marriage arena.

The Unequal Yoke - Will It Work?

Years ago I received a tract entitled, ?The Unequal Yoke - Will It Work? (1). ? The key scripture associated with this tract is:-
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6: 14)
The Christian woman who wrote the tract confessed that she married an unsaved man. She said she didn?t wait long enough to get the Lord?s will in the matter. Even the pastor of her church, who was a well known conference speaker, encouraged her to go through with the marriage.
After she was married her spouse brought his unsaved, drinking friends into the home and caused her a lot of grief. Over 25 years later she stated we are still married but the husband is not yet saved.
In this tract the woman relates her bitter experience when she chose her own way and ignored God? s Word. She said, ? I expected he would walk with me in the ways of the Lord ... but I watched my husband going deeper in sinful living. ?
Not mentioned in the tract is the fact that a yoke is a wooden bar or frame that joins two animals, such as oxen together. Once they are joined, they cannot go in separate directions, but must work side by side.
God warned Israel through Moses that if they failed to obey His commandments that they would be in bondage to their enemies. Deuteronomy 28: 47, 48.

Fasting

And the man came into the house: and he ungirded his camels, and gave straw and provender for the camels, and water to wash his feet, and the men's feet that were with him.
And there was set meat before him to eat: but he said, I will not eat, until I have told mine errand... Genesis 24:32 - 33
Here we see the first example of fasting and prayer in Scripture. In biblical interpretation the "Principle of First Occurrence" suggests that the first occurrence of a concept in Scripture sets the tone for how that concept is to be viewed elsewhere in Scripture. If true, then this first occurrence of fasting suggests that fasting is a means of seeking God, His guidance and His confirmations concerning His will. The servant prayed and fasted for guidance, and God answered.
Are you in need of God' s guidance as you make difficult decisions?
Are you facing a difficult situation? Why not spend some time fasting and praying for God' s wisdom and for His guidance.
Some years ago I heard a 2- tape series on marriage decision making and what I remember is that there was an impartation of faith from the speaker. In other words the preacher was practising what was being preached and was recommending that both parties fast for 10 days if a couple were contemplating marriage.
I believe in my heart such major decisions have to be based on the WORD, coupled with fasting and prayer.

Do Not Be Like The Horse

I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.
Be ye not as the horse, or as the mule, which have no understanding: whose mouth must be held in with bit and bridle, lest they come near unto thee.
Many sorrows shall be to the wicked: but he that trusteth in the LORD, mercy shall compass him about. Psalm 32: 8 - 10
A horse is too fast and a mule is too slow!
To the horse you have to say WO!
And to the mule you have to say GO!
F. B. Meyer (2) says, " It is all-important that the children of God's people should marry only in the Lord. See 1 Cor. 7:39. Those who live in fellowship with him may confidently count on his help in this. Every marriage should be a matter for profound concern and much prayer, both for the parents of each, as well as for those that are to be wed. What wonder that so many marriages turn out to be a disappointment and a curse when they are entered upon so lightly and thoughtlessly! "

Prayer

Heavenly Father, I lift up anyone reading this article today and who are faced with a marriage related decision. I pray that this person will make the right choice in accordance with Your Word and will. In Jesus' Name, Amen.