PLAN FOR CONFRONTATION

This is all the information I have collected to formally confront my childhood abuser. This is being collected for someone who is in a position to help and who has pledged to help me confront her as well as help with some other things of concern. When all available information is collected, I will be taking time off from work to travel from Alabama back to New York. I will be researching New York law, consulting with legal counsel, and undoubtedly will be armed with several pounds of paperwork. Emotionally, I'm ready. I'm just not prepared yet. I am going to do this, though. My goal is to show people exactly what this woman is capable of. She's not who she claims to be. She hides far too much and she has the potential to hurt other children.

Whether I succeed remains to be seen. But I will not give up- not anymore, and never again. If these organizations are serious abut helping others, they will listen to the words of one who knows and not judge. One day- someone, somewhere will believe. And my childhood abuser will finally answer to someone. It may not be me to whom she answers- but I will not give up until I either die, or my mission is complete.

Name: Kathleen Walters
Address:
I have it, Nyack, NY
Phone: Listed, though I know it.
Job: Retired from Nynex. She antiques throughout NY. She teaches, or did- last I heard. She is a member of the following groups/organizations:

GLSEN, the Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network, is an organization whose aim is to create safe schools for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students.

http://www.glsenhudsonvalley.org

Newspaper article on GayPride and Kathy as a participant-

http://www.newmassmedia.com/nac.phtml?code=wes&db=nac_fea&ref=5534

GLSEN

http://www.glsen.org

She's the last on the right-

http://users.bestweb.net/~glsenhv/newsletter04s/forumdasa.html

Calendar of Events for GLSEN-

http://home.earthlink.net/~sherlockholmesy/calendar.html

The Historical Society of Rockland County-

http://www.rocklandhistory.org/staff.htm


First hand accounts of abuse:

"I was an Abused Child..."  [XGC]

http://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/631967

"My Abuser Is Still Free."  [XGC]

http://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/623586

"I Found My Voice!"  [GC]

http://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/639649

Emails:
[e-mail]
[e-mail]
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Other information: She's in a relationship with a woman named Fran.

Summary:

I'm doing this because Kathy sexually, mentally and physically abused me from 1980 through 1986 and part of 1987 when I left. I was ten when it started and hadn't known her long. I attempted to report the abuse when I was about 13-14, and CPS came to investigate. Typical of abusers, though, she lied and twisted things around. As a result, the statute of limitations ran out because she made me feel fearful of reporting it again. And in truth, after years of her verbal assaults, I wasn't strong enough to fight back any longer.

Kathy has robbed me of a good life. Granted, I had some problems when I met her, but she was my fourth placement, and fifth "home" in ten years. Her sexual abuse began just a few months after we met, and ended right before she adopted me not a year later. I had no voice. I was not permitted to state my desires as to the adoption.

I attempted to confront Kathy numerous times over the years. I've written about those attempts. (See links above) She lied every time and attempted to make me doubt myself. That worked with other things, but I never did doubt the abuse. I remember the abuse clear as the days it happened. I remember the feelings as though it all happened yesterday. I remember the name calling, the belittling, the burnings, the punches, the blows, the kicks, being thrown into walls, down stairs, the objects thrown at me and a lot more. It's amazing what one person can to to another and still remain free.

I am unable to press charges now even though I attempted to do just that in the mid-1980's due to the laws of the State of New York.

I feel it is my right to have some semblance of a normal and fulfilling life. I do not feel I should be shouldering the burdens she still to this day forces me to bear.

My mental state is horrendous. I have never forgotten the pain and torment that woman put me though. I have never forgotten how little I felt every day and how terrified I was of her- every day.

My physical health is bad. I have migraines, tension headaches (every day); I am under severe stress every day. I am depressed, and have thoughts of suicide. My children keep me alive.

The tension is so bad that my back is under stress. My insides are mush. I cannot eat without severe cramping. I do not go anywhere except to go to work, pay those bills I cannot pay online, and grocery shop, and an occasional breakfast with my one and only friend.

My relationships have always suffered. My marriage failed, and I no longer have contact with my two oldest children. Emotionally, I'm at an age of about 10-12. I cannot handle stress and I cannot be in a group of people. I prefer to be alone. I have one friend.

I never learned how to be a good parent because I had no role models to learn from. My parental influences were cold and unloving towards me. That's what I learned about how to parent a child.

I love my children- I have two with me now- but I am unable to be the kind of parent I want to be because I'm so stressed and in physical pain constantly. I never received the love that every child deserves, and therefore, I'm unable to give it- to anyone.

I am a good person and I learn new things every day. I am working on making my life better but after so many years of negativity, it's taken it's toll on me.

I use what I've learned, and what I know to attempt to help others. I research and read daily about child abuse. I pass on information to some of the groups I've created to hopefully help others. But sometimes, I need a little help myself. I learned long ago- never ask for anything for myself because I'm not worth someone's time. So I don't ask.

What do I want? I want no apology from Kathy. I do want her to take this burden back. I should not have to feel forced and misplaced guilt any longer for something she knew better than to do to a child in the first place. I was already hurting and vulnerable when I met her. I had a chance- then- to have a good life. When the State of New York placed me with her, they contributed to that chance being lost forever. Kathy cemented that by doing all she did to me. She did not have my well being in mind. She did nothing to nurture me or comfort me. Instead, she played on my vulnerabilities and weaknessess for her own personal gain. I want her to acknowledge that she did so; I want her to acknowledge what she has done to me and take responsibility for it.

From what I understand, and I'm verifying this- she deals with teenagers who are gay/lesbian in high schools with an organization called GLSEN. She is the co-chair for the Rockland County, NY chapter. It is my strong opinion that she no longer be in contact with any child. The risks are too great. I don't believe she is strong enough, or compassionate enough to do the right thing by any child.

I believe she is dangerous to children and that she should be prevented from being in any form of contact with all children.

I want the organizations to which she belongs to know the truth about her.

Kathy Walters sexually abused me. She physically and mentally abused me. Kathy Walters is a cold, domineering woman who is a child abuser and she is being called on to take responsibility for her actions once and for all. I hope this time she'll set me free so I can stand true to my own promise of helping others to learn to be set free too.

I'm quite confident that I speak for millions when I say this-

I want my life back.

**Note: Since I posted this, all the websites Kathy was listed on have taken her contact information off. I'm confident this was her doing, but it does say quite a lot about what I've maintained and spoken out about for so many long years. If she wasn't guilty, why would her information be removed from so many public, helpful websites?

What does this woman really have to hide since she claims she's innocent?
Here she is- Mommy Dearest-