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Rated: E · Other · Emotional · #2029514
A woman's journey through grief through memories triggered from her mundane morning ritual
It’s four in the morning and my scattered sleep is interrupted by the shrill of my alarm, its time. It’s time to face this day. I lie in my bed and take a few moments, how am I going to do this? It is a 2 hour journey to work and I must sit with my thoughts, thoughts that take me back to you, my father. I must control my emotions in a sea of people, people who are oblivious to the inner turmoil that plagues me, my loss and my inability to see a future without your guidance, your unconditional love and your warmth.

“Get up child; it’s time to get dressed. I have made you tea and toast!”
“Dad, come on, the sun isn’t even up!”
I can hear him walking down the corridor, strange feeling to know that you can identify the footsteps of your kin. Smiling, he places my tea and toast next to my bed, ruffles my hair, opens the curtains and walks out. I know that in his silence, he is right, it is time.


I roll out of bed to make some tea and toast.

As I leave my house, an icy winter wind hits my face, the walk to the bus is about 20 minutes and I must brace myself for the cold weather. I greet my neighbour, he is piling his three children into the car, it’s the first day of school. I love the routine in their chaos, school bags being dragged behind, hair still messy or blazers being flung about… A tear rolls down my face…

“Take my hand Roxy, I don’t know what you are so worried about. If I love to be your friend then everyone will want to be your friend.”
He wipes my eyes, fixes the plait in my hair and hugs me.
“I don’t want to Dad, can you stay?

“My favourite daughter, this is your journey to enjoy. I won’t be far away and if you need me just phone and I will come and get you, come on, its time.”

One foot in front of the other I make my way to the bus stop, dodging puddles and trying to distract myself by looking to see which cloud Table Mountain has hidden itself behind. The bus stop doesn’t look too busy today; there may even be a seat for me. A young lady is sitting alone, perfect, I will sit next to her, and hopefully her silence will comfort me.

Silence was not meant to be a gift from the Gods for me today, she turns to me and tells me that this is her first day using the bus system, she is nervous and unsure, and she is looking for me to reassure her. Can I find that sort of strength within myself?

“Dad, it is just a bus. I need my independence, can you not see that?”
“It is dangerous; can I not just drive you around? Could you not find someone at work to share lifts with?
“What is wrong with you? Other people’s children never look for independence and yet you are trying to limit me? Just support me for once. It is just a bus. Come on Dad, it is time.”
He sighs with a worried look on his face. A look I refused to see in that moment, a look I will never forget. He turns around and under his breath he mumbles:
“Independence, it is time.”


I reassured her that day that the bus system is safe and friendly to use, I encouraged her to make a friend on the bus for daily trips and I learnt in that moment that independence is not as important as company.

The bus ride was calming, I plugged my head phones in and watched the space where Table Mountain is meant to be, I admired the lagoon, the ocean. The silence in my journey was refreshing and as the tears rolled down my face, I watched the Cape Town rain hit the window.

There is to be no distracting a broken heart, it is halfway through my journey and your memory still haunts me, it’s becoming harder as the day goes on to control my emotions. I haven’t smoked in five years but today, I need to smoke. I make my way to the nearest street vendor and ask him if he sells loose cigarettes.

I can feel the warm summer air around me as I walk home from school. My friends and I are at it again, we bought loose cigarettes and we are sitting in my garden smoking. The back door suddenly opens and my dad walks out, when he realises what we were doing his face changes, from excitement to see me, to anger, to disappointment. My heart sank.
After my friends fell over one another to leave my house, my father finally spoke:
“Roxy, let’s talk. It’s time that you realise that you are old enough to make your own decisions, but I need to teach you how to think things through, so that you can make informed choices, sit let’s think about what you are doing.”


I snapped back into reality and paid the vendor. He noticed the look on my face and asked me what was troubling me. I told him that I had lost someone close to me the night before. He reached for his box of cigarettes and handed me another for free, he took my hand and said to me:
“Akuhlanga okungehliyo thuthuzelekani”, this sincere gestures touched me so deeply, he repeated it in English: “What happens, happens to us all. Take comfort.”

This act of kindness made me feel slightly lighter as I bought my train ticket and joined the endless queue. Train delayed again, time, more time alone with my thoughts.

December, a time of wonder in the Cape.
“Spend the holidays with me Roxy, I haven’t seen much of you lately.”
“I know Dad, I wish I could but my friends have arranged for us to travel up the West Coast.”


Time spent, time wasted.
Limited seats on the train, luckily there is a seat next to an elderly lady. It is the usual hustle and bustle today. A blind man guided by his friend is walking down the aisle, singing a song about God, hoping it will urge his fellow passengers to dig deep and help him.

“God is a part of your history Roxy, he is a part of your make-up. But don’t just believe for the sake of believing. Use him to become the best person you can be. Use him to help humanity, this is the essence of God.”

I reached into my bag and I gave him money, I gave him my lunch and I thanked him. When I sat back down, the lady next to me asked why I had thanked him. I explained that it was because he had given me back a memory, one I thought I had lost and one I needed to remember.

I spoke to her for the last 20 minutes of my journey. I told her everything, I shared my memories, my fears, regrets and my loss. She shared her tissues and listened closely, as if we had known each other for years.

Her stop came before mine and as she stood to leave, she said to me: “Rejoice in your memories, never let go of your love for your father. Sterkte kind.”

The last few minutes of my ride, I cried. Tears of joy and tears of remembrance.

“It’s my daughter’s wedding today and although she has always been beautiful to me, today she radiates. It’s time for me to acknowledge that she is a woman, strong, independent and loved. This is my child, who carries a piece of my soul with her, always.”

As I walked to work, I breathed in deep, I know he is always with me. I need to grieve but I need to continue to remember his love. It is time.




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