My thoughts released; a mind set free
These pages contain my thoughts, from meandering ideas and persuasions to deep cerebrations and serious mentations.|
Why, for what purpose? To release my mind and set creativity free. Somewhere inside the constraints of my mind dwells a writer, a poet, an artist who paints with words. In here I release those constraints and set the artist free.
Perhaps, lost somewhere in the depths of thought, is a story or a poem, waiting to be written.
|May is coming to a close, and I haven't done any entries for a while now, so I wanted to get one in before the month is gone.
After a long winter, spring finally arrived and things were looking great. We have the entire house now instead of it being a duplex, so a lot more room. I also finally got the other half of the garage, the previous tenant still had stuff in there so we couldn't use it, but I talked to her and ended up taking a lot of her stuff over to a church for donation, the rest went into the landlord's storage building.
Yep, spring started out terrific, but about halfway through we get blindsided with trouble we never expected. I've already written on this and I really don't want to even think about it anymore. Unfortunately, it's not over yet, we will have a pretrial hearing towards the end of June. Our attorneys told us everything will be settled at that hearing and not to worry about having to go to court in July. I sincerely hope they're right, once it's all over I will breathe a lot easier.
Now, we are getting our camper set up and ready for our June camping trip with some close family friends. The campground we are meeting up is 220 miles away, and we have our pre-trial hearing that day! We had planned to get everything ready the day before and leave really early, but now it's looking like we won't get going until about 2:00 p.m.
I seriously thought about just canceling the camping trip, but with everything going on, it will be nice to get away from here for a while, and we haven't seen our friends in almost a year. If we get the news we want, it will be a nice way to begin the process of putting this all behind us, but if not, I doubt we will be able to relax much camping or not.
I figure to give our attorneys another week and then call them to see how things are progressing. Until then, it's more of just not knowing, and that's the hardest part.
|Some years back we adopted two grandchildren out of foster care. They ended up there as a result of abuse and neglect at the hands of some relatives who are also related to my wife (her first husband and their daughter)
This made things very difficult because the children could not have contact with their mother, aunts, uncles, and grandpa as a result of the abuse and the likely hood of being abducted. (This was all explained to us when we started this ordeal, along with facts to support it all)
There's a lot more involved, but I want to keep this short. The younger child was always a mommy's girl and really misses her. A few years back, she tried to run away, but there was no evidence found that she was trying to get to her mom. Whomever she was in contact with, we never learned.
However, after the police located her, and attempted to bring her home, she realized she was in a lot of trouble. She had stolen my billfold and spent over $500.00 before being located. To avoid getting in trouble, she claimed that she was being abused in our home. This resulted in her being placed in protective custody and almost ripped our family apart. In time the investigation revealed no evidence and with the older child insisting that it was a wonderful loving home, the younger child was allowed to return home.
The older daughter is now 18 and can have contact with the family she was not able to see. A few weeks ago, she went to visit her mom, and after the visit moved out. Over that week, she not only continued to visit with her mom, but also with her uncle and her grandpa who had abused her, her sister, and her brother. She also posted pictures with these people at the school both of them attend.
We're sure the younger child saw them but do not know if they made contact with her. However, everything was going fine until last Wednesday when both children filed abuse charges against us, again. The older child is 18 and staying with her boyfriend's family and the younger child is being held in protective services again. Through my sister-in-law, we have learned that the children's mom and her grandpa may be involved, but there's no proof.
In about ten days, we go to court to see what's going to happen. As of now, no one has been charged or arrested, there is no proof of any abuse, and it's our word against the children. In ten days we will go to court again, and now we are waiting for the paperwork to arrive, file and see if we qualify for legal assistance, or if we need to hire an attorney. This is what I get for giving this child a second chance and letting her come back into the home after the last time.
I really need to write this out and try and get my stress down to a safer level. The next ten days will be hell, and we will need to spend time talking with the attorney. It also means my wife will be missing more work (she was laid off for the month of April, so money is tight).
Everything was going so nicely; so nicely I didn't see anything coming and got blindsided.
|As we rented half of the duplex, we had one side of the garage, and the person (I will call her Nits Ninnyhammer) who rented the other half had the other side. Back in January, Nits decided to move and we were set to get the whole house and both sides of the garage on the first of February. Well, that didn't work out, so we got the house on March first instead. We should also have gotten the other side of the garage, but she had stuff stored in there so we could open the house up. At that time, she was going to have the stuff out by the weekend, two weeks at the most.
Now, it's just over two months and she still has not moved anything out. In fact, she sold her pickup and can't move anything. On a side note, she has a storage unit next to the one we rent and could have moved the stuff, it's not a lot, before she sold the pickup. As I said, she's a Nits, a real Ninnyhammer.
Now, she's waiting on the landlord to move the stuff, but he's a truck driver and is not around very much, so it sits and waits. Meanwhile, I have my wife's car in our side of the garage, and our new (new to us) GMC sitting out in the snow, rain, and wind because she still has stuff in there. Also, the storage unit we rent could be emptied out if we had more space in the garage to put that stuff in. Sure, I would have to put in some shelves, but I think they would pay for themselves pretty quickly.
Yesterday Nits Ninnyhammer stopped by to pick up a couple of packages that UPS dropped off here (yes, she has not changed her mailing address or delivery address yet) and I asked again when she was going to get her stuff out of the garage. She gave me the same line about waiting for the landlord to come move it.
As much as I like to be nice, patient, and mild-mannered, the time had come to be assertive and tell her no! My wife thought it was going to get really ugly fast when I stopped her and told her the garage was getting emptied, and that the landlord had said I could put her stuff in his building on the next lot until he had time to haul it.
She backed down and agreed that would be alright, but she wouldn't be able to move the stuff until she found someone with a truck. I smiled and told her I have a truck, I have a trailer, and if you tell me what you want and what you don't, I'll move the stuff you want over to the landlord's building and take the rest to be donated at the church.
She showed me the three items she wants, her grill, a box of stuff, and a garbage can filled about half full of stuff. She said the rest is garbage or can go to the church. She had it all separated and sorted, and for two months I waited for her to get three items moved. Later this afternoon, after my wife gets home, I'll take her three items over to the other building, and then I will go through the remainder and sort out the junk from anything that can get taken to the church.
Finally, the garage is installed and hopefully by this weekend I can have it cleaned out and ready to use.