Here you will find my daily journal of small stones and inspiration!
|In honor of Friday The 13th, tell us about a time when something went so horribly wrong that all you could do about it was laugh.
Oh boy, do I have a story for you! This one still makes me laugh and it happened about four years ago. In December, 2010 my mom passed way after a battle with Multiple Myeloma cancer. She had been sick for roughly five years and in the last three months she got pretty sick. During those months she knew what was happening and fought like a trooper, but she knew what was inevitable. One day she sat me down and discussed how she wanted the headstone designed. She wanted one headstone for both my father's and her graves. She wanted a double heart form with their last name across the top and their individual names underneath. On the back of the headstone she wanted my father's Veteran plate. She also wanted the letters TOYALYF engraved in it. Those letters appeared on every card my parents ever sent each other. They stand for "Thinking of you always, Loving you forever".
My brother, the executor of the estate, contacted me and the two of us and his wife drove to Buffalo, where my parents are buried. We found a headstone company right down the road from the cemetery. Actually, we found many. This area of Buffalo is known for having multiple cemeteries located in a small area. Anyways, I described exactly what my mother described to me and the salesman/owner went over all the details. We picked the headstone and then the material, it was a rose colored granite, and then he went about diagramming the headstone on the order sheet. He gave us the estimate and let me tell you, headstones are not cheap! I reiterated the idea of having my dad's Vet plaque placed on the back of the headstone and we were informed that in this particular cemetery, nothing can be placed on the back of the stone. I thought this was rather weird but whatever, rules are rules.
We decided that the Veterans headstone that already adorned my father's grave would be moved to the foot of his grave. At this point the gentleman called the cemetery to obtain an estimate for the cost of moving it. That is when it all unraveled! The plots in which my parents are buried can not have upright stones! What? Yup, due to snow removal and lawn mowing my parents are buried in a spot where the stones need to be flat! I burst into tears at that point. I only had one job and I felt I blew it. I hadn't but the emotions were strong. It was suggested that we could re-inter my parents in a different plot that would allow for the headstone. I turned around and said "We are not digging them up and replanting them" That is when the laughter began and has continued ever since!
By the way, they each have a flat stone and TOYALYF is on my Mom's.