What If We Could Control Our Destiny

I once believed we have no control of our destiny, but now not so sure.

One day someone told me that we control our destiny.
We only control ourselves
Destiny works in the hands of god
and fools are in the hands of the devil

My destiny is the lost of my first son
My destiny is the lost of a cousin, brother
My destiny is devorce and heartache
My destiny is being alone with two children

Whats your destiny?
Whats your worst fear?
Whats the hardest you cried?
and whats your dream?