Qualities of a soul mate are often measured higher then our own.
|I have a mental check list as I am sure most folks do about how a future partner should be. These are my standards and I have set them high for a lover. I look over them and shake my head and wonder if I have set the bar at an unattainable height.
I consider myself a pretty grounded individual and for the most part think I have my shit together. I own my baggage and try not to pawn it off on another to carry for me. But the damn romantic in me wants near perfection in a mate and a relationship.
I run through the checklist and shake my head at the futility. I doubt I could even meet what I want in a partner. Are my standards unreasonable? I think about crossing some of the requirements off but which? I want passionate and strong, I value honesty and fulfillment.
I move slowly down and shake my head at each one I read. They are all important. Each little trait carries it's own degree of weight which will make up the woman I seek. Every last one of them matters to me...
If she is that perfect for me, will I turn her head? Will she notice me and give me a chance to know her. Will I recognize her and hesitate to move on. Small sparks breed a flicker of flames sometimes. Will it be enough?
My standards are high ones and my filter is hard to navigate for most. They ensure there is a potential for mutual learning , passion and connection for those that manage to find their way through. I can not lower them, you must pass through them naturally and easily to draw my interest.
I too, hope that I can pass through yours as easily as walking through a doorway. Let you find strength in my characteristics and manners. Let my flaws be inconsequential when measured against me as a whole.
Standards matter, they attract us to those who can meet them and turn us from those that are unable to do so. They may keep me alone for a short while, but will also keep me unencumbered when the right one comes along.
I think I will keep them...