The Vows

A request from my wife for me to breakdown how I saw these vows.

This was first requested from my wife if I could write what I thought about these vows. We had been discussing them when she was in the hospital. I got the majority of it down and read what I could but I couldn't finish the end because I had no idea how to. I found out the hard way.

For Better or Worse: Through Sickness and Health; Until Death Do Us Part. Vows my wife I took seriously throughout our lives. These words don’t mean anything if it’s not said with sincerity and love.

For if you can not say those words with meaning, you are just going through the motions with an empty heart and soul.
Lets take them apart.

For Better or worse: This does not mean mental or physical abuse as the worse and sex as the better. It’s much more deeper than that.

For Better: Is when you are showing the love and intimacy shared with an ever growing deepening bond, that reaches into each other’s soul and keeps building on that through a lifetime. The sex is but just a byproduct of the previous and will come with much more satisfaction but it’s not the end all be all that people think it is. If you do, then you are truly empty inside and if you say otherwise, it’s to cover up your lies and dishonesty.

Or worse: When those rough times come along whether you maybe mad at each other, it’s financial or it’s something affecting your significant other. That’s when you lend your support. Just listening without saying a word. KEYWORD: SUPPORTIVE. If it’s physically or emotionally abusive, it’s time to leave because it was not meant to be this way.

Through Sickness: When one or the other may be under the weather, has had surgery or an ailment which in the end will take the life of your lifelong partner/spouse. You care for their needs as they need them which is done unconditionally. It’s done out of love in your heart and the very fiber in your being of who you are. If you can’t or refuse to do this, you don’t belong together. Being lifetime partners, you need to care for the other. Not doing/helping or caring just shows the words you said rings extremely hollow.

Health: This is one of the easiest to deal with. When both are in the state of good health, you nurture one another; Making sure everyone is eating the right foods and exercising to sustain and live healthier and longer lives together.

Until Death Do Us Part: Then that times comes when your partner or spouse needs you the most. For they are scared and know they are dying. You are there to comfort them, showing how much you love them and are IN love with them. Allaying their fears as much as possible. Holding their hands, listening to them, supporting them as much as humanly possible and to be with them until the end comes.

This is what these words mean to the truly sincere. If you can’t keep these promises for a lifetime. Stay single.
These words were the foundation of how we lived our lives. As I repeatedly have said, if you can’t keep these promises; Do everyone a favor and remain single. People who can’t, are not worthy of the person they wish to share their lives with or so they say they want to which will eventually ring hollow. Be it either a man or woman.

In the end Live, Love and Laugh; Let the world sit back and wonder.

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