There is never a money or life problem, only an idea problem.
|"God grant me the courage not to give up what I think is right ... even if I think its hopeless.” - Chester Nimitzv
“I believe in the sun when it's not shining, I believe in love even when I feel it not, I believe in God even when he is silent.” -- Irish saying
"Any path to knowledge is a path to God—or Reality, whichever word one prefers to use" - Arthur C. Clarke
"The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend." -- Henri Bergson
"A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it was a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, am I prepared to lift-off?" ~ Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~Author unknown
“When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.” -- Marshall B. Rosenberg
"Just as a squirrel checks the quality of a nut before burying it for later... so too should we examine any thought we pick up before putting it away in our mind. Learn this lesson and stop driving yourself nuts!' - Guy Finley
"I’d gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, I discovered that my capacities were real. It was like finding a fortune in the lining of an old coat." -- Joan Mills
"Here's a test to see if your mission in life is finished - if you're still alive, it's not." - A.W. Tozer
“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” -- Stephen Vincent Benet
“It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. ... It is so easy to exist instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking. So many of us changed our lives when we heard a biological clock and decided to have kids. But that sound is a murmur compared to the tolling of mortality.” -- Anna Quindlen
“The soul that is attached to anything, however much good there may be in it, will not arrive at liberty. For whether it be a strong wire rope or a slender and delicate thread that holds the bird, it matters not, if it really holds it fast; for until the cord be broken, the bird cannot fly.”
"If you are afraid of being alone, you are dependent on others for your sense of self, and if you are dependent on others, you block your receptivity to inner guidance. Being willing to be alone involves being willing to be different, to have commitments and values that don’t blend with any crowd." -- Ingrid Bacci
"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." - Abraham Lincoln
"Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need." - Kahlil Gibran
"Never use violence of any kind. Never threaten violence in any way. Never even think violent thoughts. Never argue because it attacks another’s opinion. Never criticize because it attacks another’s ego. And your success is guaranteed." -- Mohandas Gandhi
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it". - Mark Twain
"There are times when the greatest act of kindness we can express towards another human being is to swallow our own sadness, or to refuse to make that sarcastic or impatient remark. Acts of kindness such as these cost us ourselves, and when we agree to pay this price it is a better, brighter world that we buy back." -- Guy Finley
Holding an intention to be in service shapes our overall attitude towards life in many ways. For example, it brings a greater sensitivity and awareness of others, a commitment to harmlessness, a willingness to put others’ needs before our own and a desire to be in harmony with all. An attitude of service also involves a willingness to be served when we truly need support.
"… there is no such thing as just existing. Everything is in service to everything else. Existence is giving and receiving. A stone gives and receives no less than a saint." -- Jacob Needleman
"When the sun rises, I go to work. When the sun goes down, I take my rest. I dig the well from which I drink. I farm the soil which yields my food. I share creation. Kings can do no more." -- Chinese proverb
“If all of us acted in unison as I act individually there would be no wars and no poverty. I have made myself personally responsible for the fate of every human being who has come my way.” -- Anais Nin
"People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges." -- Joseph F. Newton
We experience soul when we really connect with life -- when we stop and consciously experience what is happening.
We lose soul with:
- resistance - to anyone or anything
- superficiality - we avoid depth of experience
- control - we try to control the relationship
- selfishness - we remain self-centered.
Each of these attitudes fosters separation rather than connection. Once again, soul lives in relating.
"There are two kinds of men who never amount to much: those who cannot do what they are told, and those who can do nothing else." -- Cyrus H. Curtis
"Freedom is never, ever free." ~ Author unknown
Take a moment to stop and think about what you give to the people and life around you. Don’t think about what you’re not doing right. Look instead at all you do that is a blessing. Many of us continually beat ourselves up for not doing or being enough. But imagine for a moment that you are great just as you are. Feel the relief this brings! Now open to the possibility that this is not a daydream. It’s true! Believe it! -- John and Patrice Robson
Giving is not done to fulfill a psychological need to receive. That would be self-centred egoic manipulation. Giving is done as a natural expression of the soul beginning to awaken the heart. To give with true generosity, we need to cultivate the ability to receive graciously without taking or grasping. When we are able to receive with equanimity, we have the spirit to give without expectation.
Giving and receiving are the same when done with detachment. This implies that one both gives and receives with gratitude. It is as much a privilege to give as to receive. And one can do both without being attached to them. This requires that one focuses on the love that is shared more than on the object or act through which it is expressed. This way, one stays soul connected.
“The greatest gift is the act of giving itself because it portrays the true nature of all life, which is to give itself that all might live and love. -- Andrew Schneider
"Our deepest need is for the joy that comes with loving and being loved, with knowing we are of genuine use to others." -- Eknath Easwaran
"We are able to be of service to those who suffer only to the extent that we have been able to transform fear in our own lives." -- Robert Sardello
[The] Great suffer hours of depression through introspection and self-doubt. That is why they are great. That is why you will find modesty and humility the characteristics of such men." -- Bruce Barton (American Congressman, 1886-1967)
"Everybody builds a dream in their lifetime. You're either going to build your dream, or somebody else's. So build your own!" -- Christopher LaBrec
"If doubt is challenging you and you do not act, doubts will grow. Challenge the doubts with action and you will grow. Doubt and action are incompatible." -- John Kanary
To reap the greatest benefits from intuition, we need ACTION. Be in motion. Act as if your highest expectations have already happened. Be in front of more opportunities and people. Let go of any blocks or attachments. Create mental space and physical space. Plan your work and work your plan. Miracles rarely happen by doing nothing. Most miracles happen through other people. -- John and Patrice Robson
"Never forget that life can only be nobly inspired and rightly lived if you take it bravely and gallantly, as a splendid adventure in which you are setting out into an unknown country, to meet many a joy, to find many a comrade, to win and lose many a battle." -- Annie Besant
"The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper." -- -- Eden Phillpotts
"The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes." -- William James
"Sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." -- Lewis Carroll
"A simple tool for change is ... instead of saying, ‘I am angry because they ...’ we can say, ‘I am angry because I am needing .... At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled. " -- Marshall B. Rosenberg
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone." ~Neale Donald Walsch
"You will never hear of a failed crusade. People will die for cause." ~ Alice (one of my business associates)
"Those who say that I will lose and am finished will have to run over my body to beat me." ~ Said Aouita
"Please... tell me who you are and what you want. And if you think those are simple questions, keep in mind that most people live their entire lives without arriving at an answer." -- Gary Zukav
Happiness = the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude." -- Denis Waitley
Joy is prayer - Joy is strength - Joy is love - Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls. She gives most who gives with Joy." -- Mother Teresa
"I don't think God cares where we were graduated or what we did for a living. God wants to know who we are. Discovering this is the work of the soul - it is our true life's work." -- Bernie Siegel
"To be authentic is literally to be your own author ..., to discover your own native energies and desires, and then to find your own way of acting on them." -- Warren G. Bennis
The degree that you know yourself defines the degree to which you grow yourself.
With awareness comes choice and with choice, we gain freedom.
Our deepest desires and dreams align with the essence of who we are. The more we align with that essence, the more our life holds meaning, purpose and fulfilment.
Without knowing who we are in our essence we cannot be ourselves. We then live superficially, with our 'power' but a temporary illusion and our love conditional. Without self-knowledge we become victims of circumstances. -- John and Patrice Robson
"Time for the weather report. It's cold out folks. Bonecrushing cold. The kind of cold which will wrench the spirit out of a young man, or forge it into steel."
~ Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider
"The interchangeability of matter and spirit means the starlit magic of the outermost life of our universe becomes the soul- light magic of the innermost life of our self. The energy of the stars becomes us. We become the energy of the stars. Stardust and spirit unite and we begin: One with the universe. Whole and holy." -- Dennis J. Kucinich
Ponder the spectre of yourself as one human being in the over six billion people on Earth. See Earth as one tiny planet in a galaxy of billions of stars, and that galaxy as just one of billions of galaxies in our expanding universe. We are so minute as to be nonexistent. And yet, we have the power to visualize, to imagine the entirety of the cosmos. Ponder the paradox of being both microscopic and immense. -- John and Patrice Robson
"We have no right to assume that any physical laws exist, or if they have existed up to now, that they will continue to exist in a similar manner in the future."
-- Max Planck "The Universe in the Light of Modern Physics" (1931)
"... no matter what our difficulties may be, we recognize that there is a deep untroubled stream flowing below all surface troubles and that we are of one substance with that stream. The soul knows no difficulties." -- James Thornton
“Just as the tumultuous chaos of a thunderstorm brings a nurturing rain that allows life to flourish, so too in human affairs times of advancement are preceded by times of disorder. Success comes to those who can weather the storm.” -- I Ching No. 3
"I have difficult task ahead of me and have dedicated my whole life to it ... Because it is all I have - that task, I mean - I ruthlessly suppress everything that might disturb me in carrying it out ... " -- a deleted passage from Franz Kafka's "The Castle"
"If a man does not know what position he is in nor where he is going, what he owes nor to whom, what he may be suspected of, or why he is being accused, or whether or not he is tolerated (if so, for how long, if not, on what authority), then all his energies will be consumed by an unremitting search for meaning, a kind of mania for interpretation." -- Gunther Anders
Masters teach that we can experience two completely different states of reality at the same time -- from the personality and from the soul.
Author Pema Chödron talks about being hungry, cold and tired but at that same time deeply content. Ram Dass speaks of how the emotional heart can be breaking while we recognize that all is unfolding perfectly. Allowing our soul to be present with the discomforts of the personality shifts our experience of the discomforts.
"True self simply refers to the aspect of our being that is completely aware of its expanded nature no matter what we may be experiencing in our lives." -- Martia Nelson
"Passion emerges when your essence expresses itself." -unknown
"I would rather live in a world where my life is surrounded by mystery than live in a world so small that my mind could comprehend it." -- Harry Emerson Fosdick
"There is an Indian Belief that everyone is in a house of four rooms: A physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room everyday, even if only to keep it aired, we are not complete." -- Rumer Godden
"The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." -- William Faulkner
Longing for a miracle that will transform your life? Miracles happen, and if we don’t want that magic to disappear on us, we need to learn from each epiphany -- to integrate it, apply it, and build on it so we can permanently shift to a new level of being. The real key to fulfillment lies in ONGOING transformation: building our awareness of daily opportunities to change our perceptions and raise our consciousness. Life is about dissolving the old and creating anew. The more we open to accepting and learning from every life experience, the more our lives transform.
"Enlightenment must come little by little -- otherwise it would overwhelm." -- Idries Shah
"To be nobody but myself - in a world which is doing it's level best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting -- EE Cummings
"Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At such times, shift your perspective to build connection and you will move into soul. As our picture of life becomes larger, more things make sense and we have a greater playing field for life to unfold - naturally." ~Author unknown
Be willing to truly feel anger and hurt. Honouring our feelings by being fully present with them helps to release the feelings themselves. And it helps to remember that people only hurt others when they themselves are in pain. When we can recognize the other person’s suffering, our heart can open in compassion.
"Once, when we were discussing a world peace project with my teacher, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, somebody asked him, ‘Where is all the money going to come from?’ And he replied without hesitation, ‘From wherever it is at the moment.’" -- Deepak Chopra
"You may be good, but what are you good for? You’ve got to be good for something. You’ve got to be about some project, some task that requires you to be humble and obedient to the universal principles of service." -- Stephen R. Covey
"We had to learn ourselves, and furthermore we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life but instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life, daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for the individual." -- Victor Frank
When there is more in sight, we get more insights.~Author unknown
INSIGHTS happen only when we shift to a higher, more inclusive perspective. As we grow in wisdom and experience, we become less attached to the form of reality and more aware of its spiritual side - its qualities, values and meaning. As we get to know ourselves as souls, we begin to let go of the self-consciousness of the ego. This allows us to more effectively include others and work with the whole picture. -- John and Patrice Robson
"It is important not to ‘need’ what you are calling to you but rather to have a certain detachment about it. Let it be all right if it doesn’t come, or if it comes in a different form than what you expect. After you have asked for something, surrender to whatever comes as being appropriate." -- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer
"Acceptance says, True, this is my situation at the moment. I’ll look unblinkingly at the reality of it. But I’ll also open my hands to accept willingly whatever a loving Father sends me." --Catherine Marshall
"If real is what you can feel, smell, taste and see, then 'real' is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain." ~Morpheus in "The Matrix"
"I have never been contained except I made the prison." ~Mary Evans
Here are a few options to find peace in chaos. Remember that:
- I can't control what happens in life. Better yet, I don't need to. When I can trust that every situation offers me exactly what I need at this time to grow, I can embrace rather than resist whatever comes up.
- I can set intentions AND I can release expectations. Unmet expectations are a major source of grief. It's that whole issue of control at work again.
- I usually have choice in each situation. I can choose to allow other people and events to claim my time and power or I can choose not to. Sometimes, I need to say no - not now or not ever. I can choose to apply the 4 D's - Do it, Dump it, Delegate it or Date it into the future.
"No matter what difficulty you are facing ... ,when you are complete, and have come to the other side of this experience, you will then know 'why' it happened." -- Barbara Rose
If we want to be rid of the pain, we must do the work that leads us to greater consciousness. Paradoxically, we can only get rid of the pain by moving through it.
"The period of greatest gain in knowledge and experience is the most difficult period in one's life." -- Dalai Lama
"Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." ~Lin Yutang
"The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak."~Hans Hofmann
"Chronos is clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers. Chronos is time at her worst. Chronos keeps track. ...Chronos is the world's time. Kairos is transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, the Sacred. Kairos is intimacy with the Real. Kairos is time at her best. ...Kairos is Spirit's time. We exist in chronos. We long for kairos. That's our duality. Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted. Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We do in chronos. In kairos we're allowed to be ... It takes only a moment to cross over from chronos into kairos, but it does take a moment. All that kairos asks is our willingness to stop running long enough to hear the music of the spheres." -- Sarah Ban Breathnach
When you can see no light at the end of the tunnel, light your own candle and let your light illuminate the world, like the radiance from a window at midnight. -- Craig Lock
The question of how and in what ways we can make use of the environment we live in, and how we must leave it to make use of us. Anna and Vronsky try to individualize the considerable life that is in them and to devote it solely to each other. They attempt to be free, without realizing that freedom in the sense they choose it, is not what their full selves require. Society does not destroy them, or even reject them: it goes on its way without them, and they are destroyed by the isolation which they have created for themselves by their love. --- John Bayley, talking about Leo Tolstoy's Anna Kareina in the introduction to "War and Peace".
"You may think that real work is doing your job, but the real work is finding what you're supposed to do with your life!" - Oprah
“Slow down and enjoy life. It's not only the scenery you miss by going too fast -- you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” -- Eddie Cantor
"You can have more when you are willing to give more. You must begin this process by giving more to yourself. Give yourself more time; give yourself more attention; give yourself more love; give yourself more of what you want. Then decide how to offer the more that you are (and have) to the world and you will receive even more back in return." ~Leslie Fieger
The 5 Freedoms
By Virginia Satir
1. To See and Hear what is here, instead of what should be, was, or will be.
2. To Say what one feels and thinks instead of what one should.
3. To Feel, what one feels instead of what one ought.
4. To Ask for what one wants, instead of always waiting for permission.
5. To Take Risks, in one's own behalf, instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat.
"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." --Aldous Huxley
"Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Sing as no one can hear you. Dance like nobody is watching. Live as though heaven is on earth!" --Anonymous
It's hard for some of us to believe that the world is served when we seek our own happiness. We've been taught that this is selfish. If we stop to reflect on how we are in the world when we are happy, we can see how this serves. We have more vitality. We're more loving and generous to others when our own needs are met.
The most powerful force in our lives is our ability to love. Indeed, it’s the most basic essence of who we are.
"The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the other.... The whole purpose of life is to live by love." -- Thomas Merton
"The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it's something you allow." -- Will Garcia
Love a wounded part of yourself and it will heal.
"...self-contempt never inspires lasting change."-- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter
Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. --Albert Einstein
Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem more afraid of life than death. --James F. Byrnes
Life is a theatre --- Invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize, your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships!
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourages and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. You cannot change the people around you but you can change the people you are around! ~Unknown
Death is the enemy. I spent 10 years of my life single-mindedly studying, practicing, fighting hand to hand in close quarters to defeat the enemy, to send him back bloodied and humble and I am not going to roll over and surrender.
~ Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider
To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded! --Ralph Waldo Emerson
The true perfection of man lies, not in what man has, but in what man is...Nothing should be able to harm a man but himself. Nothing should be able to rob a man at all. What a man really has is what is in him. What is outside of him should be a matter of no importance. --Oscar Wilde
All cruel people describe themselves as paragons of frankness. -- Tennessee Williams
"Who we are never changes. Who we think we are does." -- Mary S. Almanac
"How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone." -- Coco Chanel
"If you ask me what I came to do in this world...I am here to live out loud!" -- Emile Zola.
We often ignore ourselves in favor of others. We value their opinions too highly and our own too little. The only real approval that matters is that which comes from inside ourselves. We're the only people who know what we truly need and want. This makes us our own best judge of whether or not what we're doing is right and good for us. ---Joel Garfinkle
"We are afraid of being ourselves. We are afraid of being unique and different. We are afraid of being individually powerful, and even successful. For all of these things stand against the old ways that told us that conformity was right and individualism was wrong.
For as long as we possibly can, we make a compromise. We try to live both lives - the dependent tribal life and the independent personal life - as contradictory and opposite as they are. We want approval from others. We want to be accepted and popular. We seek this comfort to overcome our fear and feel more secure. ...So, at times when we conform, we don't feel the fear of living. But we might lose the new sense of adventure, discovery, daring and enthusiasm for life that the questioning and questing have brought us." -Andrew Schneider
"I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself." -- Rita Mae Brown
In exploring the enneagram, Riso and Hudson have identified ‘lost messages’ that we needed to hear as children but didn’t. The absence of these words may be at the heart of our most basic fear. And unconsciously we may still be seeking to hear these words from others.
What message did you most need to hear?
1. "You are good."
2. "You are wanted."
3. "You are loved for yourself."
4. "You are seen for who you are."
5. "Your needs are not a problem."
6. "You are safe."
7. "You will be taken care of."
8. "You will not be betrayed."
9. "Your presence matters
For you to truly understand yourself, or to stop being troubled by things that may have happened in your past, you must be able to disclose yourself to at least one person. You have to be able to get those things off your chest. You must rid yourself of those thoughts and feelings by revealing them to someone who won't make you feel guilty or ashamed for what has happened. --Unknown
When there is no consciousness, the past creates the future. --Unknown
Love is being fully present. When anything is initiated in Love in the present, the future of that reality will be purposeful, meaningful, loving and powerful.
"He who is false to present duty breaks a thread in the loom, and will find the flaw when he may have forgotten its cause." --Henry Ward Beecher
"In my beginning is my end." -- T.S. Eliot
"You watch your mind to see who you are not. I watch my mind to gain a sense of its content, which has always been my pain. As I watch it, I get a sense of its impermanence. Thoughts come and go as part of a process. I see how content dissolves into process and begin to see the patterns in the process. Realizing it isn’t MY suffering, MY pain, it becomes THE pain. I’ve gone from the tiny, the small, and the individual to the universal. I feel OUR pain. When we do, we go from fear to compassion. Fear is MY pain, compassion is THE pain." -- Stephen Levine
To make a good living, the emphasis should be on the "living." ~Oprah
"Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently direct our emotional energies and intentions.... It's time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No magic pill will do it." -- Doc Childre
"By starving emotions we become humorless, rigid and stereotyped; by repressing them we become literal, reformatory and holier-than-thou; encouraged, they perfume life; discouraged, they poison it."-- Joseph Collins
"The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are." -- Takahisa Kora
Emotions are energy in motion. They bring us information if we are willing to experience them. Unfortunately, many of us are afraid of the energy of emotions and so we automatically resist them. And when we refuse to experience our emotions, we block them up. They become trapped and that entrapment drains our energy and brings continuing discomfort. Don't let emotions push you into action or reaction. Just STOP and PAY ATTENTION. Allow them to be and to speak to you. Once they are acknowledged, their energy is released.
"Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance." -- Deepak Chopra
"Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn't matter whether you're a lion or gazelle - when the sun comes up, you'd better be running."
"Before you can inspire with emotion, you must be swamped with it yourself. Before you can move their tears, your own must flow. To convince them, you must yourself believe." -Winston Churchill, 1874-1965, British Statesman, Prime Minister
"If 50 people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." -- Anatole France
"It is not possible to resolve our problems or issues in life if we do not know who we are. Knowing ourselves is the foundation to understanding what we do, why we do it, and how to change. -- Andrew Scheider
There is a part of us that feels ugly, deformed, unacceptable. That part, above all, we must learn to cherish, embrace, and call by name. -- MacRina Weiderkehr
"A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do." -- Bob Dylan, 20th c. American Songwriter
"Unkind criticism is never part of a meaningful critique of you. Its purpose is not to teach or to help, its purpose is to punish." -- Barbara Sher
Your profession is not what brings home your paycheck. Your profession is what you were put on earth to do with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling. -Vincent Van Gogh, 1853-1890, Dutch Painter
"One of the saddest lines in the world is, 'Oh come now - be realistic.' The best parts of this world were not fashioned by those who were realistic. They were fashioned by those who dared to look hard at their wishes and gave them horses to ride." -- Richard Nelson Bolles
"The world would have you agree with its dismal dream of limitation. But the light would have you soar like the eagle of your sacred visions."-- Alan Cohen
It is not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, 'What are we busy about?' -Henry David Thoreau, 1817-1862, American Essayist, Poet, Naturalist
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart" -- Helen Keller, 1880-1968, American Blind/Deaf Author, Lecturer, Amorist
"Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror." -- Kahlil Gibran
"And the day came when the risk [it took] to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." -Anais Nin
"A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but braver five minutes longer." --Unknown
"Man who say it cannot be done, should not interrupt those doing it."-Unknown
"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear -- not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave." -- Mark Twain
A critic is a legless man who teaches running."-- Channing Pollock
"Good Things come to those who wait, but only what's left over from those who hustle" - Abraham Lincoln
You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.
"Where you are headed is more important than how fast you are going. Rather than always focusing on what's urgent, learn to focus on what is really important."-- Stephen Covey
"Time is a created thing. To say 'I don't have time,' is like saying, 'I don't want to."-- Lao-Tzu
"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you love to do, in order to have what you want." -- Margaret Young
"Our word 'personality' comes from the Latin
'persona,' which originally referred to the mask an actor donned as he stepped onto the stage to play his role, the mask through (per) which he sounded (sonare) his part. The mask registered the role, while beyond it the actor remained hidden and anonymous, aloof from the emotions he enacted. This, is perfect; for roles are precisely what our personalities are, the ones into which we have been cast for the moment in this greatest of all tragi-comedies, the drama of life itself in which we are simultaneously coauthors and actors. As a good actress gives her best to her part, we too should play our hilt. Where we go wrong is in mistaking our presently assigned part for who we truly are."
If I have seen farther than others, it is because I was standing on the shoulders of giants. -- Sir Isaac Newton
It shouldn't be difficult for anyone to resist the temptation of being average. One needs only to remember that a groove may be safe - but as one wears away at it, the groove becomes first a rut and finally a grave." -J. Paul Getty
The wish that a naive person sometimes has: "I would like to die and watch the others crying over me," is what such a writer constantly experiences, he dies(or he does not live) and continually cries over himself -Franz Kafka
There is love of course. And then there's life, its enemy.--Jean Anouilh
Frustrated love has been the incentive for many great works--John N. Mitchell
What to do if you find yourself stuck in a crack in the ground underneath a giant boulder you can't move, with no hope of rescue. Consider how lucky you are that life has been good to you so far. Alternatively, if life hasn't been good to you so far, which given your current circumstances seems more likely, consider how lucky you are that it won't be troubling you much longer. --Douglas Adams
You must not fight too often with one enemy, or you will teach him all your tricks of war. --Napoleon
Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.- Winston Churchill
When we are born we cry that we are come.. to this great stage of fools.-- Shakespeare
Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain. --Robert E. Lee
Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The round heads in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of blind prejudice. And they have no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them. Disagree with them. Glorify, or vilify them. But the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. - Think Different, -Author Unknown
What frightens us most in a madman is his sane conversation. -Anatole France
Act as if it were impossible to fail. That is the talisman, the formula, the command of right-about-face which turns us from failure towards success. --Dorthea Brande
Reach high, for the stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.--Pamela Vaull Starr
I cannot believe that the purpose of life is to be "happy." I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, above all, to matter, to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all. -- Leo C. Rosten
Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, "I have failed three times," and what happens when he says, "I'm a failure." --S. I. Hayakawa
Looking back on my life, I wish I'd stepped forward and made a fool of myself more often when I was younger -- because when you do, you find out you can do it. -- William Sessions, former FBI Director
No one can give you authority. But if you act like you have it, others will believe you do. -- Karin Ireland
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. -- Helen Keller
To be somebody, you must last. -- Ruth Gordon
A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for. -- William Shedd
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm. . . . As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others. -- Audrey Hepburn
If you hear a different drummer -- dreamer, take a chance . . . The road you choose to travel means the difference in the dance. -- D. Morgan
"What you bring forth out of yourself from the inside will save you. What you do not bring forth out of yourself from the inside will destroy you." -- Gospel of Thomas
Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. -- Les Brown
Back in the 1950's, one of the best ways struggling new talent could start on the road to fame and fortune was to appear on a nationally televised program called the "Ted Mack Amateur Hour." A singer from Tennessee tried out for the
show, but failed the audition. Today few people remember the "Ted Mack Amateur Hour" or any of the "winners" of the audition the singer failed, but every year the legend of the young man from Tennessee -- Elvis Presley -- grows.
Every achiever I have ever met says, "My life turned around when I began to believe in me." -- Robert Schuller
Mama exhorted her children at every opportunity to "jump at de sun." We might not land on the sun, but at least we would get off the ground. -- Zora Neale Hurston
"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself." -- Abraham H. Maslow
A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself. What one can be, one must be. -- Abraham Moslow
Research has determined that people who are immediately liked by everyone share certain characteristics that can be emulated: they tend to smile more and greet people more warmly. They use people's names at least two or three times in
the first couple of minutes. For the first couple of minutes they usually carry the conversation, but after that they become listeners -- and interested listeners. They send out the messages: "I like you, I respect you, I'm interested in you, I'm glad I met you and whatever you say has great interest to me." -- John T. Molloy
Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. -- Og Mandino
Be patient. It will happen for you. Sooner or later, life will get weary of beating on you and holding the door shut on you, and then it will let you in and throw you a real party! -- Les Brown
"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." - Robert Heinlein, writer
"The tougher the times, the more clarity you gain about the difference between what really matters and what you only pretend to care about." - Po Bronson in Fast Company
"In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock."
- Thomas Jefferson
"It's always fun to do the impossible." -- Walt Disney
You have to find something that you love enough to be able to take risks, jump over the hurdles, and break through the brick walls that are always going to be placed in front of you. If you don't have that kind of feeling for what it is you're doing, you'll stop at the first giant hurdle. --George Lucas, Director, Star Wars saga and Indiana Jones series
"Everyone stumbles over the truth from time to time, but most people pick themselves up and hurry off as though nothing ever happened." -- Sir Winston Churchill
"When you play it too safe, you're taking the biggest risk of your life... Time is the only wealth we're given."--Barbara Sher
"Let us never confuse stability with stagnation." -- Mary Jean LeTendre
"A great block to nourishment of the soul is distrust. We don't trust ourselves, so we stay rooted in the easy and convenient. We eliminate as much pain as we can from our lives and end up painted into a corner we call safety. Safety is the most unsafe path you can take. Safety keeps you numb and dead. People are caught by surprise when it is time to die. They have allowed themselves to live so little."-- Stephen Levine
"As long as I am this or that, I am not all things."-- Meister Eckhart
"The struggle of the mind to keep itself free from every sort of bondage -- to remain curious, open, unsatiated in all its relations with nature -- is tenfold more difficult than the cultivation of a stable, satisfying point of view, but a thousandfold more precious." --Gardner Murphy
The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. -Walter Bagehot, 1826-1877, British Economist, Critic
I am a slow walker, but I never walk backwards. --Abraham Lincoln, 1809-1865, Sixteenth President of the USA
Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements. --Napoleon Hill, 1883-1970, American Speaker, Motivational Writer,''Think and Grow Rich''
"If you can learn from hard knocks, you can also learn from soft touches." -- Carolyn Kenmore
"Research shows that you begin learning in the womb and go right on learning until the moment you pass on. Your brain has a capacity for learning that is virtually limitless, which makes every human a potential genius." -- Michael J. Gelb
"In a time of drastic change it is the learners who inherit the future. The learned usually find themselves equipped to live in a world that no longer exists." -- Eric Hoffer
"You can learn new things at any time in your life if you're willing to be a beginner. If you actually learn to like being a beginner, the whole world opens up to you." -- Barbara Sher
"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."-- Joseph Addison
We're at a fulcrum moment, a kairos moment in history. Everything that everyone does matters enormously. We use dark likelihoods...as incentives to dream up something much larger. We realize, whatever we speak to, we wake it up.
-Caroline W. Casey
Anything good you've ever been given is yours forever.-Rachel Naomi Remen
Myth: we have to save the earth. Frankly, the earth doesn't need to be saved. Nature doesn't give a hoot if human beings are here or not. The planet has survived cataclysmic and catastrophic changes for millions upon millions of years. Over that time, it is widely believed, 99 percent of all species have come and gone while the planet has remained. Saving the environment is really about saving our environment---making it safe for ourselves, our children, and the world as we know it. If more people saw the issue as one of saving themselves, we would probably see increased motivation and commitment to actually do so. -Robert M. Lilienfeld and William Rathje
"It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. ...I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing." -- Oriah Mountain Dreamer
"What you must dare is to be yourself." -- Dag Hammarskjold
"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way people think things are." -- Epicetus
"When we are basically unconscious, we live according to social roles. We perform as sons and daughters, mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, employers and employees, as society expects us to. As we grow in awareness, we gain the freedom to bring our own unique perspectives to these roles. We can express ourselves authentically and creatively, without letting our roles dictate how we should behave. 'Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.'" -- Katherine Mansfield
"Most of the time, we fall in love but can't remain there. The world then calls the state we were in a delusion or infatuation ... But we merely lacked, or someone else lacked, the emotional skills to hold on to the magic when the morning came. ... In truth, we can go to the moon and retain its magic for a lifetime."
-- Marianne Williamson
"We think, sometimes, there's not a dragon left. Not one brave knight, not a single princess gliding through secret forests ... What a pleasure to be wrong. Princesses, knights, enchantments and dragons, mystery and adventure ... not only are they here-and-now, they're all that ever lived on earth! Masters of reality still meet us in dreams to tell us that we've never lost the shield we need against dragons, that blue-fire voltage arcs through us now to change our world as we wish. Intuition whispers true: We're not dust, we're magic!" -- Richard Bach
"When humans find themselves surrounded by nothing but objects, the response is always one of loneliness." -- Brian Swimme
"Loneliness is caused by an alienation from life. It is a loneliness from your real self." -- Maxwell Maltz
You feel the cold according to the coat you wear.~Anonymous
"It is only when we realize that life is taking us nowhere that it begins to have meaning." -- P.D. Ospensky
"Look at you, you madman, Screaming you are thirsty And are dying in a desert When all around you there is nothing but water!" -- Kabir
"After changes upon changes, we are more or less the same." --Paul Simon
"When I grip the wheel too tight, I find I lose control." -- Steve Rapson
"The deep root of failure in our lives is to think, 'Oh how useless and powerless I am.' It is essential to think strongly and forcefully, 'I can do it,' without boasting or fretting." -- Dalai Lama
Angeles Arrien says that whether we are male or female, we need to develop three kinds of power. People who hold these three powers cannot be ignored.
1. Power of presence - Being really present in each moment
2. Power of communication - Speaking my truth
3. Power of position - Being willing to take a stand
"We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces; we become the powerful force ourselves." -- Leo Buscaglia
"If I get to pick what I want to do, then it's play... if someone else tells me that I have to do it, then it's work." -- Patricia Nourot
Are you continually struggling to accomplish what is expected of you? If so, stop to think for a moment: who holds those expectations?
Perhaps you're trying to meet the expectations of a parent or a teacher or other authority figures who may be long gone from your life. But many of us toil under the critical eyes of a vague 'somebody' who always judges that we've never done enough or done things well enough. Who is this phantom judge? And do we need to care about what they think any longer?
We find both our own power and happiness when we begin to set our own standards around what has heart and meaning for us.
"Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever." -- Nancy Kerrigan
"Success is a little like wrestling a gorilla. You don't quit when you're tired, you quit when the gorilla is tired." -- Robert Strauss
"To learn to get along without, to realize that what the world is going to demand of us may be a good deal more important than what we are entitled to demand of it -- this is a hard lesson." -- Bruce Catton
"In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted." -- C.G. Jung
'Faith is not complacent; faith is action. You don't have faith and wait. When you have faith, you move." -- Betty Eadie
"A true knowledge of ourselves is knowledge of our power." -- Mark Rutherford
You must know that in any moment a decision you make can change the course of your life forever: the very next person you stand behind in line or sit next to on an airplane, the very next phone call you make or receive, the very next movie you see or book you read or page you turn could be the one single thing that causes the floodgates to open, and all of the things that you've been waiting for to fall into place." -- Anthony Robbins
Success is doing what you want to do, when you want, where you want, with whom you want, as much as you want." -- Anthony Robbins
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. -Erich Fromm. German born American social Philosopher and Psychoanalyst, 1900-1980
"Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. ...Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the 'healing feeling.'" -- John Bradshaw
"One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star." -- Nietzsche
"When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world." -- George Washington Carver
When we begin to cultivate awareness of our thoughts and emotions, we begin to see just how much we live according to other people's and society's beliefs and actions. Don't get upset by this. Just get in touch with how you really think and feel inside and begin to express your authenticity.
"Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to." -- Alan Keightley
"I was part of that strange race of people aptly described as spending their lives doing things they detest to make money they don't want to buy things they don't need to impress people they dislike." -- Emile Henry Gauvreau
"What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart." -- Marshall B. Rosenberg
"To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another person's suffering and pain -- knowing there is nothing we can do to relieve it and that we are not responsible for it, and yet knowing and understanding what that pain feels like." -- John Gray
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be." -- Lao Tzu
Be aware that any label is limiting. Labels stick us in a box where there's no room to move. Experience how it feels to let go of the labels to rest in 'I am.' Feel the freedom, the spaciousness, the infinite potential of simply being.
"The greatest evil that can befall man is that he should come to think ill of himself."--Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be. -- Shel Silverstein
"Beware of the fury of the patient man." -- John Dryden
"You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. Pretending to be someone other than yourself only broadens the distance between the person you are and the one with whom you’re trying to establish closeness." -- Mary Manin Morrissey
"No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true." -- Nathaniel Hawthorne
"Any fool can run towards the light. It takes a master with courage to turn and face the darkness and shine his own light there." -- Leslie Fieger
"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit." -- e. e. cummings
Many of us unconsciously believe that we’re unworthy or defective. We adopted this belief very early in our lives when the people we looked up to disapproved of our demands, wishes and behaviours. We concluded that we had to learn to be good.
Unfortunately, ‘being good’ usually meant giving up our own differences or uniqueness. We learned that we might get the love we wanted if we acted and felt like others wanted us to. If we seek true joy and connection with life, we now need to remove these artificial masks and express our deep authentic nature. ~ John and Patrice Robson
"We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over." ~ Samuel Johnson
"Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are -- chaff and grain together -- certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away...."-- Elizabeth Barrett Browning
"Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it." -- M. Scott Peck
"When flowing water ... meets with obstacles on its path, a blockage in its journey, it pauses. It increases in volume and strength, filling up in front of the obstacle and eventually spilling past it....
"Do not turn and run, for there is nowhere worthwhile for you to go. Do not attempt to push ahead into the danger ... emulate the example of the water: Pause and build up your strength until the obstacle no longer represents a blockage."
-- Marsha Sinetar
"When we feel stuck, going nowhere -- even starting to slip backward -- we may actually be backing up to get a running start." -- Dan Millman
To change, we must go through a transition zone. It's not easy being in transition. Thoughts, beliefs and habits are all in flux. It can create a sense of groundlessness, of being in a void that can be quite uncomfortable.
When we're in the void, our first impulse will be to revert to old habits because they feel comfortable. Our goal is to hang in there until the change is complete. Knowing that TRANSITIONS ARE PART OF THE CHANGE PROCESS helps us muster the courage to put up with the discomfort, the uneasiness, the void. Change requires a letting go of what we've always known and done to allow in something new.
"Every positive change - every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness - involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception."-- Dan Millman
"There is nothing holier in this life of ours than the first consciousness of love -- the first fluttering of its silken wings -- the first rising sound and breath of that wind which is so soon to sweep through the soul, to purify or to destroy." -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
"Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition." -- Alexander Smith
"When mystics use the word love, they use it very carefully -- in the deeply spiritual sense, where to love is to know; to love is to act. If you really love, from the depths of your Consciousness, that love gives you a native wisdom. You perceive the needs of others intuitively and clearly, with detachment from any personal desires; and you know how to act creatively to meet those needs, dexterously surmounting any obstacle that comes in the way. Such is the immense, driving power of love."
-- Eknath Easwaran
"Therefore, when I say that 'I love,' it is not I who love, but in reality Love who acts through me. Love is not so much something I do as something that I am. Love is not a doing but a state of being - a relatedness, a connectedness to another mortal, an identification with her or him that simply flows within me and through me, independent of my intentions or my efforts."-- Robert A. Johnson
"When you are aware that you are the force that is Life, anything is possible. Miracles happen all the time, because those miracles are performed by the heart. The heart is in direct communion with the human soul, and when the heart speaks, even with the resistance of the head, something inside you changes; your heart opens another heart, and true love is possible."-- Don Miguel Ruiz
In the modern world, youth should know the nature of true love. Many from abroad, mix with persons of the opposite sex, calling them boy friend and girl friend. If you really love each other you must get married and not continue living as friends."
--Sri Sathya Sai Baba
"If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear ... as it is, infinite."-- William Blake
"If all the gold in the world were melted down into a solid cube, it would be about the size of an eight room house. If a man got possession of all that gold -- billions of dollars worth -- he could not buy a friend, character, peace of mind, clear conscience or a sense of eternity."-- Charles F. Bunning
Become a watcher, of yourself and what's around you. Develop the witness, the part of you that can step back from life and impartially observe how you react and think and feel. -- John and Patrice Robson
"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone." -- Blaise Pascal
"The true profession of man is to find his way to himself."-- Hermann Hesse
"Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment."-- Tao Te Ching
"Everything is made of light; everything is alive. The Great Mystery of life has little to do with intelligence. The universe is not an intellectual process. The intellect is helpful; but our hearts are the wiser part of ourselves." -- Mellen-Thomas Benedict
"... for magic to happen in your life, you must believe in magic."
"Have you ever had a dream, Neo, that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to wake from that dream? How would you know the difference between the dream world and the real world?" -- Morpheus
We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are."-- Don Miguel Ruiz
"It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others."-- Sydney J. Harris
"There is no freedom like seeing myself as I am and not losing heart." -- Elizabeth J. Canham
"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup
To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t fully acknowledge our hurts, we will continue to carry them subconsciously and they will drain our energy. To forgive, we need to decide that we won’t allow the memories of the event to poison us any longer. We’re ready to heal this wound from the past and open to a fresh new beginning. The blessing is that when we’re really ready to experience our pain and we open to it, it usually fades away. By honouring our pain, we release it. -- John and Patrice Robson
"We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot choose to forgive it." -- Kenneth McNoll
... Let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day...
To rest at the noon hour and...
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer...in your heart
And a song of praise upon your lips. —Kahlil Gibran
"Forget the resolutions. Forget control and discipline...too much work. Instead try experimenting. Go in search of something to fall in love with...something about yourself, your career, your spouse."-- Dale Dauten
"What I cannot love, I overlook" -- Anais Nin
"The past is not dead. It is not even past." --William Faulkner
"Never fear the loss of what will and must...disappear." -- Guy Finkley
"Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish it's source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings." --Anais Nin
"In fact', said Mustapha Mond, 'you're claiming the right to be unhappy.'
'All right then,' said the Savage defiantly, 'I'm claiming the right to be unhappy.'
'Not to mention the right to grow old and ugly and impotent; the right to have syphilis and cancer; the right to have too little to eat; the right to be lousy; the right to live in constant apprehension of what may happen to-morrow; the right to catch typhoid; the right to be tortured by unspeakable pains of every kind.' There was a long silence.
'I claim them all,' said the Savage at last.
Mustapha Mond shrugged his shoulders. 'You're welcome,' he said." -- Aldous Huxley's "Brave New World"