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Unsolicited Advice

Kamál (Perfection), 9 Sulṭán (Sovereignty) 176 B.E. - Monday, January 27, 2020

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PROMPT January 27



Discuss a time in your life when someone has tried to "fix" or "solve" a problem for you - but you didn't see it as a problem in the first place.

How do you generally handle unsolicited opinions/advice?

I do my best to live my life
on the rim of the cliff of survival.

Advice is nice
when I ask for it;
however,
unsolicited advice
is a pain
because most of those giving it
don't know
or understand the circumstances.

As I have grown older, and wiser, I realize that people give advice--unsolicited or solicited--from their own experience. My past experience doesn't come anywhere close to theirs, even if it's a sibling I grew up with in the same house. I learned long ago, that we remember the same event differently because we experienced different emotions at the time. In addition, I've found (from experience) that there is a type of "amnesia"--I don't know any other term for it--that causes one sibling to forget a highly emotional experience that the other remembers clearly.

People give unsolicited advice
from the shoes they walk in
not from your shoes.