Your perspective will change as you grow older and mature further. You will (hopefully) learn in time that perception IS reality, most especially in a professional setting (law office, medical office, etc). It doesn't matter to the general public what you know, how efficient you are, or how quickly you complete your tasks, what does matter to them is how they PERCEIVE the person that you are. Given the choice between a young, decent worker, and a similarly young, slightly less efficient but better looking job candidate, often the choice will go to the better looking candidate, especially if they are tohave any contact with the public, or the clientele.
Fair? No, it isn't fair. It's REALITY. Life is not fair, it never has been and it never will be. You can fight it all you want, but you WILL lose. The best you can do is not to hope that everyone else changes and goes along with how you think they should, but to change YOURSELF t fit a well established and time tested model for success.
I speak from experience, I am not the best looking, most educated, or most able bodied person around. I am a hard working, fast learning, caring, compassionate person. I stopped fighting for how things SHOULD BE and started working with how things REALLY ARE.... at about 30 years old. I have never had the "dream job", but I have (almost) always had A JOB, a PAYCHECK, some small earning to support my existence. Most of all I have been HAPPY, if not exactly content. There are always things I want, a smart phone, an fast computer, a nice new car. Are YOU willing to give those thing up yourself? Sell your computer, buy a shovel, walk to the fields and dig out your FAIR existence....or cowboy up, pull your life together, get the medical/dental care you need to better fit a more socially acceptable employment niche.
21 is young, but you don't realize this yet. You are too young to see it, as was I at that age. But believe me, you will, someday. When you turn an age that you now think of as OLD. But don't fear, when you get there you will find that it is never too late, you are never too old. So long as you are pre-death, then there is time to become the person you want to be. |
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