by R.A. Reader
My daughter was always a tomboy. Planning her wedding years later was a complete surprise!
|An Unsurpassed Event
He designed her engagement ring
With ribbons of silver ivy making up the band
And an opal surrounded by diamonds in the center
It was amazing.to behold.
I planned the actual proposal with him
my daughter had no idea
He found a hard-bound copy
of all the works of Jane Austen
complete with gilded pages.
Her favorite book is Pride and Prejudice;
So he ever so carefully and precisely
cut a rectangle in each page so each matched
the one in back of it.
He started at the title page of Pride and Prejudice,
and when he finished, the ring nestled into the pages perfectly.
Christmas morning was the official proposal date
and I watched my tomboy daughter
turn into a complete girly girl when she opened her gift
and saw that spectacular ring in her favorite book.
As wedding plans were underway
I quickly realized we would be having a true wedding
not only in a church versus a barn
but also a more elaborate wedding than I had anticipated!
When cake testing appointments and
venue appointments were set,
my husband and I sighed as the dollar signs increased.
But we couldn't say no to our only daughter and the love of her life.
My husband was blessed with an unusually large bonus that year,
and suddenly what seemed impossible
became a reality.
The perfect wedding dress was found, a style fit for a Pride and Prejudice bride;
and flowers, a DJ,the venue, fancy appetizers and cake were all reserved.
We decided early on
to allow our daughter and future son-in-law free rein
with choices, and even with the guest list;
after all, the wedding is for them,
not for us.
What an event planning a wedding has become!
I was asked to plan the bridal shower along with one of the bridesmaids
And also to do the makeup for the bridesmaids
the day of the wedding.
I rejoiced that my daughter wanted to involve me so much!.
The bridal shower took place in the Reveille House
a Richmond, Virginia historic place
built in 1784, that somehow survived the burning
of Virginia's capital city in the Civil War.
The furniture echoed a long ago era;
the house even featured a ghost
friendly in nature, observed or heard by many
throughout the years.
Without regard for time the wedding was upon us,
and I turned in my seat to watch my husband of 25 years
escort our breathtakingly beautiful daughter down the aisle
to where her fiancee stood nervously waiting.
My husband took the bride's face in his hands
and drew her towards him;
He kissed her gently on the head
before taking his place next to me on the church pew.
An accomplished pianist played music from Pride and Prejudice
on a grand piano as the final moments passed
before the minister began the ceremony.
And suddenly it was over, and there they stood,
husband and wife.
I felt a hole rip wide in my heart,
As I let her go.
The reception next to celebrate the union
of my daughter and her husband,
was a party to end all parties
with bottomless jars of wine,
and a spectacular assortment of appetizers
as well as a table of candies for favors.
The bride and bridegroom started off the dancing
to a song that had seemed to break my heart the first time
I heard it play; in fact, I had introduced it to my daughter.
...I have loved you for a thousand years...
And I felt my heart breaking for certain this time.
They danced beautifully across the floor.
Soon everyone was dancing and laughing;
family gathered from around the United States
other people meeting for the very first time.
A photo booth complete with props awaited
those who wanted to have extra fun.
Wearing garish hats, glasses, leis and beards,
waiting for the printout of their personal silliness.
Then it was time for the bride and groom to leave.
The rest of us, armed with tiny bottles of soap bubbles,
greeted them as they exited the building with hands held high,
exuberant, off to their next adventure
The rest of us blew the remaining bubbles,
and my husband and I realized that like a brief summer storm,
both exciting and refreshing but somehow disappointing when it ends,
the unsurpassed event of our daughter's wedding was over.
It was time for US to to move on
to our own next adventure.