My Journey With Attachment Disorder

Oh, yeah! We are really moving forward!

Though we still have a lot of the "gimme" talk going on, there are some wonderful strides being made!! He has his own bed in his own room, and is sleeping in it every night! Whooo-hooo! What a victory! He is still haunted by his fears, but is courageously tackling them, and sleeping in his bed, with his kitten, Gabbie, every night.

An amazing thing happened Saturday. After letting Tony and Vincent play at the city pool together, we were going to allow Vincent to spend the night with us, and go to church with us this morning. The boys were restless, and I kept an especially close eye on them. The Play Station 2 couldn't hold their attention. Basketball wasn't appealing. They were restless, and that nearly always spells trouble. After they had been outside for a few minutes we checked their whereabouts. They were in the process of climbing a utility pole behind our house!!!

That was it. I was already concerned about their restlessness. I had a very calm, and matter-of-fact talk with them. After explaining the dangerous nature of what they had done, I informed them that I would have to take Vincent home. I reminded them that the reason there had been a long time before, in which Vincent had not been allowed to come over, was the fact that they were making bad choices when they were together. I explained that it was my job to help them learn how to make good choices, and that this was the only way I knew to teach them that.

Tony cried and pleaded, but I was firm. I drove away, not really knowing how he would handle himself while I took Vincent home. When I came back, he was still crying, much the crying was less intense. I explained one last time the reason, and then informed him that the subject was closed. I assured him he would have another chance to show that he could make good choices with Vincent, just not that night.

Today, I asked him how he had managed to calm himself down from his anger. He said, "I just did." This is the first time he has gotten that upset about something and has been able to calm himself down without playing basketball to get rid of the rage. This is major progress. Whoo-hooo!

Before he went to bed I made a special effort to have some fun time with him. Being silly, pretending to hypnotize him and make him act like different animals, tickling him, etc...When bedtime came I got lots of good hugs and kisses, and all was well. What a delightful child he is becoming!

Warrior Mom

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