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JT's Blog

by JT.

Rated: 13+ · Book · Inspirational · #1427920

My Blog. I'll talk about a lot of stuff.

This is my blog. Here I talk about all sorts of things that pertain to my life, how I see them and interpret them. Maybe I'll make you laugh, cry, angry, happy or any other feeling. Come on in and read and join the fun.

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Muzik

Oct 3, 2008 at 3:56pm
In response to "1 Month into it"

Well Im going to tell you from experience, women are very hard to read at times. but if she has been your friend for two years, youre probably out of luck if you want to date her. If she was attracted to you at some point, you blew it by not acting on it at that time.

But all is not lost. Women love men who arent afraid to ask them out. I have known some of the UGLIEST people who for what ever reason (drugs or alcohol in many cases) had the rocks to take the initiative, and they get action. Not always quality, but I have seen some attractive women with these people. So if you want to rekindle that attraction you have to make her think that you have never really been afraid to ask her out, rather you are just figuring out how attracted you are to her.

That being said, you could have a chance if you play it right. I dont know enough about your relationship with her to give you a good plan but Ill give you a few thoughts.

Do you go out on anything resembling dates with her? If you do, then set up another one but make it a little more special. For example, take her somewhere a little classier than you usually hang out with her. Get her to dress up a little. It doesnt have to be tuxedo time, just something different than usuall. Make it memorable. See a play then have dinner or coffee. Go fishing off a pier. It doesnt matter but at some point in the evening you want to be in a romantic situation. Get close to her and stay close to her.

And last but not least, youve heard this a thousand times, relax and dont be afraid of anything. Have confidence!!!! When the time is right, it doesnt matter if your talking about birdbaths, tell her you are going to kiss her or you want to kiss her. Then do it. If she doesnt want to, she will say so immediately. If she is open to it, she may be caught off guard. DONT take that as a no. That is a yes and a maybe all in one. If you hesitate now she will see the insecurity and it will kill the moment. If you give her just about one and a half seconds then kiss her, she will likely let you.

Dont let that word likely scare you. If she stops you at the last second there could be two things going on, either she's playing the old good girl routine or she is unsure of how she feels about it. Both are survivable. If she is unsure you will alleviate that by remaining confident. Tell her youve wanted to do that for a long time. Ask her why she is afraid. Tell her to kiss first and analyze later.

Whatever you do during those few seconds that seem like lifetimes, dont back away. She will see that as her way out.

If this doesnt work, stay confident, keep your smile. Tell her that you realized how much you like her and you want to date her but let her know if she is not interested then it's ok. This may be difficult, but you must stay confident and try to go back to having a good time on your date. Let that whole situation go and just move on like it never happened. She will be very attracted to your easygoing confidence and could very likely change her mind that night. It may take longer than that, but I promise you that your confidence in this situation will eat at her making her more and more attracted to you over time.

The only way to mess this up is to not let her go if she isnt ready. The expression "if you love someone let them go" is a horrible understatement. I have had women who thought they were done with me come crawling back when I surprised them by not chasing them when they were gone. This is a very powerful and simple concept and it is the foundation of confidence. Let her know you want her and arent afraid to make a move, but dont ever let her think you cant live without her.

Good luck

October 3, 2008 at 2:48pm

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1 Month into it

Aww yes, it is that time of year once again. The has turned crisp, the wind a little blustier and the leaves on trees are starting to turn colors. But it is also a sign that I have started school once again. I'm already a month into my senior year of college, and it feels as though school began not that long ago. How does time fly when you are busy. Cliche, I know, but it is the honest to God truth. Between 21 credits, the National Guard, ROTC, and my job it is a wonder that I have any time left to do anything. Fortunately, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and hopefully it is not the headlamp of an oncoming train. Graduation is now 7 months away, provided that nothing goes horribly wrong, and I can't wait for that day to come so that I can continue my life and close this chapter.

Of course it doesn't help things that over the past few weeks I've been very distracted in my thinking, I find that my mind has liked to wander to one subject over and over again. Of course there is only one thing that can possibly distract a man like that over and over, and it not thoughts of food, sports, fast cars, guns or hunting, but a woman. A couple of months ago I fell for an amazing girl, and I can't get her out of my head. Of course I don't have the courage to tell her though. It's strange, I have the courage to run into a fire fight, handle explosives, and getting shot at, but I don't have the courage to do something so simple as talk to a woman. She's is everything I could possibly want in a woman, she's a good Christian, smart, beautiful, has common sense, confident and knows what she wants. Thankfully we've become good friends over the last couple of years and get along well. The sad thing is, is that no matter how much I love her, she deserves a much better man then myself. She deserves the best man she can find. I want to talk about this with someone, but we pretty much have the same friends and anything I say will end up back with her, so I have nobody to talk to about it with and it is frustrating.

Alright, enough of that before I knock myself into a tizzy. Though I do have to say that it feels good to get that off of my chest. This summer I finally did decided on a career path for myself though. Much to my satisfaction. I've decided that in congruence to my career in the National Guard, I am going to serve as a police officer - hopefully as a sex crimes detective. After at least a few years as a cop, I plan on going to get a masters or Ph.D in Archaeology and teach Archaeology and go into Biblical Archaeology. I've come to the conlcusion that that has to be one of the most unique career tracks ever devised.

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May 19, 2008 at 3:23pm

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19May2008 - Things End, Others Begin

Ah, yes the end of another semester of college. Yeah, that's right I just finished another year of school. As of today I am officially a Senior at the of Minnesota, and should hopefully graduate next year with a degree in Classical Archaeology. It's funny that whenever I tell someone what my major is, I get one of two reactions for them. 1) Whoa, that's pretty cool! or 2) What the Hell are you going to do with that? When I give them the answer to the second question, I generally get an even more confused reaction. I tell them that I want to be a cop, but I'll have to go back to school for a while to get a degree in Criminal Justice. But if that doesn't work out I plan on going back to school for a graduates degree in Classical Archaeology and then teach and do research. It's always a good idea to have a contingency plan isn't it? That's something that the Army taught me and that I'll probably never forget it or unlearn it.
A contingency plan is something that I don't really see many college students have. A lot of them seem to think that they are going to get the job and that its going to happen no matter what. Then if it doesn't work out that way, they settle for a job that they wouldn't really want. I say, why not set yourself so that even if you don't get the job you want, you can still work in a job that you enjoy doing? It's I good idea I say.
But with the new summer starting, its time to do stuff not revolving around the world of academia. Working and the Army will be taking up the majority of time this summer. In fact I get to spend a whole month out at Fort Lewis for some good old training this summer. I can't wait to go. Who knows, maybe I can end my 5 year losing streak, and find a little romance this summer?

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