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| Evolution of Love Part 2 |
| *It's your marriage that will sustain your kids not vice versa* He grinned when he saw his daughter, and her husband as he walked into the house. The old man, was on one of his rare visits to his daughter and son-in-law. This was needed to comfort the old man from loneliness after his wife’s demise seven months ago. After dinner that evening, he whispered to his son-in-law that if they didn’t mind, he would love to have a quick word with the couple after the children had gone to bed. By 9pm, the couple was back in the living room to hear what the old man had to say. He started by asking them a simple question. “What is the most important thing in your life beti? She replied, “Daddy, it is the kids !!! They mean everything to me”.. He then turned and asked his son-in-law the same question, he also (beaming with pride) said : "it is the kids of course; they are the reason why I work so hard to ensure they have a better life” "Well said my children. I don’t mean to intrude on how to run your family life, but I believe there is a fundamental error you will need to correct. He said “ I have observed how much you both love your kids and dedicate all your time for them...... I have observed that almost all your conversation borders mostly on the kids." The couple nodded in admission to the assertion. He continued, "I am a poultry farmer, and the biggest egg supplier in my district. I make my money by the quantity of eggs sold. That said, my priority has always been providing optimal care for the chicken. Because, I know that when the chicken are healthy and productive, the eggs will automatically be bountiful. *If I start to ignore the chicken, the eggs will also suffer*." He pointed to his son-in-law and said, “as a husband, the most important person in your life should be your wife and vice versa. It cannot be the kids. They are just products of the marriage. *If you learn to take care of each other very well, your kids will grow up healthy, happy and well-adjusted, but if you ignore each other, brace yourself up for dysfunctional kids in the future*. The two of you are the foundation of this family. If you suffer any crack, the whole house will go down. So please make time for yourself and treat each other as *PRIORITY* and the kids will be just fine. This has been the secret of the fruitful union between your Mother and Myself for over 50 years till death took her from me. The old man's eyes welled up with tears at this stage. He thanked the couple for their time and excused himself to his room. If care is not taken, this magical connection gets weakened, thereby opening up a marriage to all sorts of strange elements and even divorce. Let kids observe that your spouse means the world to you and if you are to choose between them and your spouse, it will always be your spouse. Give the kids the love and attention they deserve but not at the cost of neglecting each other. It is your marriage that will sustain your kids, not vice versa. The kids are just the bonus. |
| This morning, of the 31st of July 2019, the dead body of celebrated entrepreneur and tech investor, VG Siddhartha, was found in Netravati River in Karnataka. VG Siddhartha had all the check boxes that have been described for one to be successful in life and business. He was diversified - his Billion Dollar empire spread over coffee production, cafe chains and IT. He knew scaling - 2100+ stores of his brand Cafe Coffee Day is witness to this. He was humble - was known to accompany his friends to the elevator after a meeting with them. He was focussed - shied away from interviews and spent time ‘doing’ rather than ’showing’ He was a family man - He has two sons and regularly attended family functions. And yet, in his words, he failed. Some are blaming the business environment, some the tax authorities and others have their own theories. However, what cannot be ignored is that this seemingly massively successful man had a storm stirring behind his calm demeanour. *What can we learn for this?* _If you are an entrepreneur_, know that you are contributing directly and indirectly to the lives of people and never be sorry for failure. You started off with good intention but sometimes things can and will be a bumpy ride. Recall the dark times that you have surpassed and emerged in the light and no matter how dismal it may seem, you will recover. You chose this path and you have the power, will and capacity to own it till the end. _If you are the family or friend of the entrepreneur_, please support them. They may not show it but they are insecure due to the unpredictability of the future of their venture. They many not be earning enough revenue, debt might be mounting or salaries are due, however, if they have your mental support, they can sail through this. Don’t let their smile fool you, they are sales men. Dig deeper, and understand them. _If you are a person_, please be a good one. Even after VG Siddhartha is gone, people are coming together to talk, not about his business or wealth or success, but about how good of a person he was and how he made them feel. R.I.P Coffee King of India. You made us all proud. |
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