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September 21, 2014
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Rated: 13+ | Book | Experience | #1890134
Finding well-being through travel and books.
  Hello and welcome!

I have two great passions in life.

The first one is travel. After a series of life-changing events, my husband and I decided to spend the kids’ inheritance and see as much of the world as possible (I’m still bitter about Damascus). Our bible? A Thousand Places to See Before You Die. Please join us on our adventures seeing new places, meeting fascinating people and trying new, exciting, and sometimes just plain weird, food.

My second great passion is books. Reading expands my interior world in the same way travel expands my external one. And, books are a great way to armchair travel - not only through distance but through time as well. My tastes are eclectic, so we’ll be looking at a wide range of writing in a possibly haphazard fashion. Come along for the ride!

My best,
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September 15, 2014 at 8:31am
September 15, 2014 at 8:31am
Meeting Mindfulness
It’s no secret that these days I’ve been far more likely to be found in a state of mindlessness, rather than mindfulness, overcome with the administrivia of everyday life and occasionally missing the big picture altogether. So, I was looking forward to David Cain’s talk “Creating a Life of Well-being” with considerable interest.

David is a huge proponent of better living through mindfulness and he has just released a wonderful e-book called .You Are Here, A Modern Person’s Guide to Living in the Present  

David led off by differentiating between “happiness” and “well-being”. We often say that we want to be happy (an emotion) but what we really want is to experience well-being (a state of being).

According to David, to experience well-being, a person needs to do several things: (1) she needs to have a sense of individual vitality, (2) she needs to engage in activities that are meaningful to her, (3) she needs to have a sense of independence and purpose, and (4) she needs to have a stock of internal resources that will give her the resilience to cope with things that do not go according to plan. Well-being is arguably the ultimate goal of human endeavor. Experiencing well-being means experiencing an excellent life—serene, useful, and worth living. You can test your current state of well-being here  .

Learning to be in the present moment (mindfulness) is generally recognized as one of the key requirements for achieving a state of well-being. Mindfulness is often equated with meditation. While meditation is certainly one way to achieve mindfulness it is by no means limited to it.
I like Jon Kavat-Zin’s definition: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.
Read the rest of the blog post here  
September 11, 2014 at 9:53am
September 11, 2014 at 9:53am
The Art of Letting Go
As I mentioned in my last post, the theme of this particular Chautauqua was Happiness and Freedom. Like many other people in the western world who have all of their basic needs met (food, clothing, shelter), I have the luxury of worrying about how happy (or not) I am. I became so interested in it, in fact, that a number of years ago I became fascinated with the Positive Psychology movement and returned to graduate school to do a masters in psychology. “The field [of Positive Psychology] is founded on the belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves, and to enhance their experiences of love, work, and play.” Positive Psychology Centre  .
The talks of each of the three presenters during the Chautauqua were fundamentally based on the research in Positive Psychology.
Cheryl Reed   gave a presentation on happiness based largely on the work of Marci Shimoff* , Sonja Lyubomirsky**, and the Sedona Method.
Our experience of happiness can be broken down into three areas. Fifty percent of our ability to be happy is based on genetics, our fundamental make-up. Ten percent is governed by external events—whether we have enough food, adequate shelter, clothing, money, a job and so on. However, forty percent is entirely within our own hands. It is governed by our interior world—our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Even just tweaking this forty percent slightly can make an enormous difference in the level of happiness we experience.
Read the rest here  .
September 8, 2014 at 10:33am
September 8, 2014 at 10:33am
Balanced in the Middle of the World
Two weeks ago, I was in Ecuador to attend a Chautauqua hosted by Cheryl Reed of Above the Clouds Retreats (insert hyperlink). The Chautauqua was an adult education movement that was popular in North America during the 19th century. The purpose was, and still is, to encourage learning through lectures, music, culture, events and storytelling. The theme of this particular Chautauqua was to explore happiness and freedom, and to learn about a small part of Ecuador. I was very excited about the week-long event, as David Cain (insert hyperlink), a blogger whose posts I read faithfully, would be presenting, as would the inestimable J. D. Roth (insert hyperlink).
Our group spent the first night in Quito, where I discovered that being at nearly 10,000 feet of altitude was not exactly my favourite place to be, then we left the next morning to head for our retreat headquarters, the El Encanto resort in the cloud forest.
On the way, we stopped just outside of Quito at the Mitad del Mundo (the Middle of the World) where, by 500 BCE, the ancient Quechua people had already figured out that the Earth was a sphere and therefore must have a dividing line in the middle. They named this central line, as determined by the equinoxes (equal day and night), Inti (sun) Nan (path). Over 2,200 years later, in 1735, a French Geodesic Mission set out for Quito to pinpoint the location.
The Mission’s expedition lasted for nine years and succeeded in obtaining a fairly accurate measurement of the equator as determined by modern military GPS, and also in naming Ecuador (French for equator). Ironically, the French could have saved themselves a lot of time and money by just asking the Quechua, whose observations of the sun’s path gave a more accurate reading than the French instrumentation. Perhaps if we get out from behind our equipment and use our senses to actually observe the world around us we end up with a better idea of reality.
Read the rest here  
August 4, 2014 at 7:48am
August 4, 2014 at 7:48am
Tea, Tots and Teddies
I love the food hall at Fortnum's. It reminds me so much of an earlier time and the British Raj. My father used to tell me stories about his adolescence in India, and the "desiccated memsahibs" gossiping on their wide verandas over endless cups of tea. Somehow, I always imagined the tea coming in fabulous baskets from Fortnum and Mason, even though it was grown locally in Darjeeling and Ceylon.

Fortnum and Mason has a a long and distinguished history. It began in the early 1700's when William Fortnum, a young footman to Queen Anne, discovered that the Royal family required fresh candles every night. The enterprising (and cheeky) youth set up a profitable side business in 'gently used' candles which gave him, and his landlord, grocer Hugh Mason, the funds to begin Fortnum and Mason. Soon afterward, the store established close ties with the British East India Company which enabled them to import exotic and unique items to serve the broadening tastes of the growing middle class as well as the aristocracy. Their hampers, shipped by Fortnum's own mail service (until 1839 when the GPO was formed creating a postal monopoly), are, to this day, shipped far and wide.

As later in the trip we will be visiting friends who recently welcomed twins, we needed to shop for baby clothes (I swear that Rene's "grandpa gene" has kicked in - there was no other reason why we had to do this shopping first!). Fortnum's has a fairly small children's section but the shoes looked just the thing for fashion-forward tots.

Stumped in our quest for the perfect baby clothes at Fortnum's, we walked down Picadilly, past Hyde Park, and on into Harrods, which is located in Knightsbridge. There, we found a huge children's sections with some eye-watering prices. Eventually, we did settle on an adorable outfit for each child. Later, Rene said," it's too bad they're going to grow out of them in a few months. Oh well, then they will be able to dress their teddies in the clothes."

You could almost see the lightbulb go off! Before I knew it, I was in Hambley's shopping for teddy bears! And this was the final result ... Read it and see the photos here  
July 31, 2014 at 10:08am
July 31, 2014 at 10:08am
Curves Ahead!
"The most important lesson I’ve learned over the years is that running is a metaphor for success. Take things one step at a time, keep moving forward (even when you have to walk or crawl), and eventually you’ll reach your goal. Let go of unrealistic expectations while simultaneously pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. That’s the magic formula." Jill Angie, Running With Curves: Why You’re Not Too Fat Too Run, and the Skinny on How to Start Today (Difference Press, 2013)

Right from the first page, this delightful and inspiring book had me cheering for Jill, and every other human being who has ever wanted to feel stronger, fitter and to create a greater sense of self-worth. Jill writes with the authority of 15 years as a curvy runner, and the humour, insight and compassion of a good friend. Currently a fitness trainer and weight loss coach, she is adamant that no one is too fat (too old, too unfit; insert excuse-of-choice here) to run. The key is to focus on the journey, not an end goal.

This book is as much about the inner struggle of making a positive change in our life as it is about dealing with weight, muscles and sinews. While I found Jill’s expert advice on how to get started, taking it to the next level, appropriate dress (including the all-important sports bra) and equipment, and dealing with injuries to be very valuable, the most important section in the book for me was the one on how to take charge of our attitude. Success in any venture depends as much, if not more, on mastering your inner “mental game” as it does on mastering new technical skills. And, every time we try to make a significant change externally, internally a whole new battle begins.

Enter the Inner Mean Girl

As hard as it may be to deal with muscle soreness, fatigue and blisters, dealing with your Inner Mean Girl can be much more difficult. You know the Inner Mean Girl – we all have one (mine’s called Vampirella, by the way, but I digress). She delights in tormenting us with such questions as: “Who are you to think you can run (write a book, score a promotion, or insert any longed-for goal that takes you out of your comfort zone)? You’re too fat (old, out of shape, untalented … whatever) to do this. You’ll never be any good at it - so why bother?” Jill does a masterful and witty job of helping us beat our Inner Mean Girl at her own game.

This book is for you if you want to feel better about yourself now, not some far-off day when you are thinner or fitter. Many of Jill's tips can be applied to other challenging areas, too. As Jill writes, “It’s time to run your way back to self-esteem, confidence, and fabulosity.” Fabulosity – such a great word! Running with Curves is available on  

After I finished the book, I had the opportunity to sit down and ask Jill a few questions: You can read our interview here  


Come visit my travel blog Notes From A Broad  

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June 11, 2014 at 11:34am
June 11, 2014 at 11:34am
You're Kidding, Right? Please tell me you're kidding ...
People come to veganism for many reasons: ethical, health and environmental are the main ones. Then, there are those who have veganism thrust upon them, which is what happened to Caren Albers when her husband embarked upon Dr. Neal Barnard’s 21-Day Kickstart Program.

“Wasn’t settling into early retirement together enough of a stressor for us? Now, bam, he announces he’s turning vegan? I wasn’t looking for a 24/7 buddy or a new vegan diet (which my husband never tires of reminding me is a lifestyle choice, not a diet). But somehow, they both came looking for me.”
That was when life as she knew it shattered into a million pieces. You can read the rest of the review, and my interview with Caren, here  
June 3, 2014 at 5:33pm
June 3, 2014 at 5:33pm
Smart and Sizzling
This week’s blog is a review of two books, written by a husband and wife! I met Frank at a writer’s retreat a few years ago and it was a thrill to see his book finished and published.

“We can think of life as a series of steps leading towards our dreams and goals. We start at point A and wish to proceed to point B but end at point S (stupid).” writes Dr. Stass.

Have you ever had a forehead smacking moment and said, “How could I have been so stupid?” My guess is yes since, according to Dr. Stass, stupidity is part of the human condition. Stupidities range from the innocuous (walking into a glass door because you’re not paying attention) to heartbreaking (affairs or abuses that end relationships) to life-threatening (like taking an unknown mountain road at night, in the dead of winter, before cell phones, thinking it was s shortcut and getting stuck in the snow when the road ended … yep, that one was me).

Why do we do these things? Dr. Stass draws on thirty-five years as a psychiatrist working in both inpatient and outpatient settings to explain the fundamental mechanics governing stupid actions. He identifies the most common types of stupidity and then breaks stupidity down into its component parts. Most importantly, he give tools and techniques to prevent, minimize and learn more effectively from our mistakes. Continued here  .
May 24, 2014 at 9:11am
May 24, 2014 at 9:11am
A Passion For Dance
Her name is Jorani* and she is seven years old. When she was five, she decided there was nothing more in the world that she wanted to be than an Apsara dancer (celestial dancer). For this she would need to be trained in Classical Dance (or Royal Ballet), one of Cambodia’s most sacred art forms (dating back to c.1 - 6 centuries CE). Fat chance in the small village where she lived. Her parents were rice farmers of modest means and there was nary a dance school in sight.

Jorani was determined to study dance and her parents longed for a better life for their daughter. After lengthy inquiry, they found a dance school in Siem Reap where she could board, continue in school, and pursue her dream of becoming a dancer.
At age six, Jorani went for an audition at the School of Arts. Her parents knew her heart would be broken – out of the 1,500 or so children who audition each year, 50 are accepted into the program – but they also knew she wouldn't rest until she tried. However, it wasn’t that that kept her out. She was deemed to be hugely talented, but alas, the earliest children were accepted was age 10.

This seemed a truly formidable obstacle. Jorani wept and wept and wept. In desperation, her parents contacted the school again. Couldn’t they, just this once, make an exception? Read the rest and see the photos and videos here  
May 12, 2014 at 7:51am
May 12, 2014 at 7:51am
A Question of Balance - Part II
We entered the Chi Lin Nunnery (left).
“Confucius sought order and social harmony, he believed the answers to maintaining both lay in understanding the lessons of history, learning and study. He wasn’t at all big on introspection or trusting intuition. But study would help us to understand how the past affects the present and help us to plan for the future.”
“Very left brain,” I said.
She shook her head and corrected me. “Very yang. Learning – both knowledge and the proper way of doing things - is the way to develop one’s character, to become a cultivated person, an asset to society and to bind family ties and communities.”
She pointed to the inscription under one of the, what I can only assume to be meditation, stones. (below)
“There are many virtues discussed in Confucianism, but the most important is the virtue of ren, it’s more than just benevolence, it’s oh –“ She waved her hands in the air as if trying to shape her thoughts like dough.

“It’s not only wanting to be the best you can be but to help others be the best they can be, too.” See the rest of the post and the photos here  .
May 5, 2014 at 11:43am
May 5, 2014 at 11:43am
A Question of Balance - Part I
“The Chinese view of the universe has influenced all of East Asia and possibly the rest of the world.” My guide turned and waved an arm to encompass Hong Kong and the greater world beyond it. We resumed trudging up the staircase leading up to the Temple of the 10,000 Buddhas. My husband had taken one look at the staircase, muttered ‘400 bloody steps’, and then bounded ahead, gazelle-like, leaving my guide and me in his dust.
“The universe has rules and patterns with the most basic pattern being the interplay of forces between yin and yang.”
I nodded. This was a common enough notion.
“Within yin and yang are the Five Processes or Stages with certain attributes. We tend to think of them as fiery, watery, earthy, woody and metallic. These Stages go in cycles. When we understand the cycles, how each stage will either be in its ascendancy or decline, we understand the changeability of life because they affect everything – the human body, animals, nature, colors, and even music.” She checked to see if I was still following. I was.
“If we understand the pattern that is being formed between all these forces, we understand how the universe is working and why it is affecting us the way it is at any particular time. When these forces are out of balance we are out of balance.” Hm. Lately I’ve been feeling off-kilter. The universe seems to be conspiring to keep me tilted at about 45 degrees. Mostly at 3 a.m. when thoughts race around my brain like a demented squirrel.
Read the rest and see the photos here  

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