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Carly's Ramblings Blog - Style

by 💙 Carly

Rated: 13+ · Book · Other · #1966420

Theses are my thoughts and ramblings as I forge my way through this thing they call life.

These are my thoughts and ramblings as I forge my way through this thing they call Life.

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Kåre Enga in Udon Thani

Mar 31, 2024 at 5:31am
In response to "Weathering the Storms of Life "

We are magnetically charged meat suites. ... nice.

I sat with a wise-old Swede recently lamenting about my inability to make good choices... or just choices.

I said that I liked Sisaket (in Isaan, Thailand) better than here... He said... then go. What about my loneliness? "Someone there will be attracted to you."

Let it come?

He also mentioned his many romantic failures, including one girlfriend of 3 years who slashed him. *sigh* He has a new one. We met. I like her.

Lyn's a sly fox

Mar 30, 2024 at 10:21pm
In response to "Weathering the Storms of Life "

I agree positive mindset does influence us.

It's so good to see your blog entry. I've missed you Carly.

💙 Carly

Mar 12, 2023 at 7:35pm
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

I got this link on Instagram and thought I would add it here: Tom Hanks - This Too Shall Pass

🌸 pwheeler - love joy peace

Mar 12, 2023 at 7:05pm
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

I would never hope that anyone was treated unfairly, but I get the point of his message.

The "this too shall pass" has helped me many a time.

You are wise!

💙 Carly

Jul 23, 2022 at 1:15pm
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

Living in the present is a challenge, I agree, but sometimes it's good to just Zen out the world....even for 5 minutes at a time.

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QPdoll

Jul 23, 2022 at 6:08am
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

There's a song I think about every time I hear "nothing stays the same." It's by Patty Loveless, and it's called How Can I Help You Say Goodbye. Life definitely changes. I have a tough time living in the present. It's hard not to fall back into the past or worry about the future.

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Lyn's a sly fox

Jul 22, 2022 at 11:57pm
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

Sometimes living in the moment feels like ground hog day with Bill Murray for me. I keep trying to see the positive but it is challenging.

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Kåre Enga in Udon Thani

Jul 22, 2022 at 10:44pm
In response to "See The Message in the Misfortunes"

There are many days when I don't wax so philosophical.

I do think that we are capable of learning lessons; it's just that sometimes I'm a tad slow.

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QPdoll

Jul 7, 2022 at 5:38am
In response to "Collecting Memories"

It is interesting how people can have the same experience and perceive things differently. I like this.

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Princess Megan Rose GOT Fox

Jul 6, 2022 at 11:20pm
In response to "Collecting Memories"

Nicely stated about good and bad memories. I enjoyed reading this.

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January 27, 2020 at 10:50am

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Unsolicitied Advise

30 Day Blogging Challenge

Prompt: Discuss a time in your life when someone has tried to "fix" or "solve" a problem for you - but you didn't see it as a problem in the first place.
How do you generally handle unsolicited opinions/advice?
The most recent of this kind of thing was at own of my writing groups. A young woman had much to say about my story when I made the mistake of mentioning what I was trying to work out... some advise is welcomed, but this woman seemed to think she was quite the authority and that is what rubbed me the wrong way. I let her talk, smiled and nodded and knowing what I know about my story, I knew her advise would not cut it. I did not want to burst her bubble and tell her so. But I have seen her do much the same thing to other writers in our group and many of them tend not to agree with her advise either. One very vocal writer in our group just looked at her blankly when she was giving someone else advise and then spoke her mind later when we were heading home. It was quite funny really.

She is a lovely young woman, but.... she just doesn't know the full story.

From her, I have learned you can't take everyone's advise. You have to frame it with your own thoughts as the story is ultimately yours. Had she read the whole thing, maybe I would think differently, but she seems to be talking from a general place of what needs to happen in a story to make it good. I get that, but I also know their are intricacies that make a story work and she is not privy to that information.

I think this is true of much advise we get from others. We need to take an objective look at what they have to offer and either accept it or dismiss it depending on the merits of the advise as it pertains to our life. It is our life after all.

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