Theses are my thoughts and ramblings as I forge my way through this thing they call life.
These are my thoughts and ramblings as I forge my way through this thing they call Life.|
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Blog City: DAY 2339 July 22, 2022
“From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.”
― John Roberts
Allow this quote to inspire your post.
"See the message in your misfortunes". I like that line.
This life is not an easy one. No one lives in a bubble and adulting is challenging, even at the best of times. The thing to remember is that 'this too shall pass'. All things - good and bad, regardless of our perception, will pass on. Nothing stays the same. We grow and change with the times. We are the culmination of what we have been through. Nature may give us our skin colour, eye colour, height and so forth, but nurture passes with us as we move through this life, gathering stories. Nurture colours our perceptions.
What keeps me centered is trying to live in the present. The past is past. The future has not yet come, but the present is a gift to enjoy and savour in all its delights. Some may be sour and cause us to pucker up, but others could be sweet. You can't have one without the other... and you can't appreciate the sweet without having experienced the tart, tangy, sour or salty. Life is a buffet. Try a little of everything.
Blog City: Day 2324 July 6, 2022
Prompt: Life is about collecting memories. Write about this in your Blog entry today.
They say 'Life is what you make it'.
A mosaic of memories
People, places, events
All coiled into your DNA
Like a map of your life
Each piece a step forward
Along a path so uniquely yours
Each moment pressing into the foundation
Of what makes you tick
How you move through this world
Is influenced by those bits and pieces
Each fuels your passions
Makes you who you are
I would not change any of them
Even the harder challenges and failures
Have built the me that I am today
My compassion comes from a place with rough edges.
My heart connects to those who are experiencing what I did
My experience makes me open to their pain and anguish
I move into a place of helper or mentor
Knowing I can offer guidance I may not have had.
I also lean into the compassion and guidance from others
As they are there for me.
Then I pay it forward.
My curiosity is sparked by the psychological impact
Of how experiences and memories entwine
Each person perceiving the same situation in their own way
Each taking from it and making it there own
Some people struggle and argue
Some people turn hateful
Some, like me, are opened by the experience
And let their vulnerability
Transend time and space and build compassion
It does not happen over night.
It builds over time.
Memories, tempered by time
Become who we are
And that influences how we interact with this world.
It is all about choice and perception
Some take a negative path,
Others stay positive in the face of adversity.
It is all up to you.
How will your collected memories colour you?
Lines to this point = 43.
This piece may need some work, but I like it so far.
Blogging Circle of Friends: DAY 3421 July 2, 2022
Music: 💙 Carly - NaNoWriMo Warrior mentioned she likes to sing to lift her spirits. What song lifts your spirits? Do you play the song or do you just sing it yourself?
I will make up my own words or belt out songs with the radio (in my car or at home).
The one song that always used to make me smile... when I was frustrated by my (now ex) husband.
You are my Sunshine.... only I changed the words:
You are my asshole
My only asshole
You frustrate me
You are my asshole
My only asshole
Please go take
A flying leap.
These words change at times, but the sentiment is there. It got so I could hum it with him in the room and he had no clue what words I was really thinking!
But other than that... I am open to an eclectic taste in music. As I have gotten older I tended to listen to Contemporary Christian music.... not the gospel stuff - that stuff is a bit much.
The commonality in all these songs... is their lyrics. I love the words, the melody and the harmony.... it just resonates with me and my soul.
Here is a sampling:
Nichole Nordeman's Brave
Lauren Daigle's You Say
Laura Story's Blessings
This one is a favourite these days: Christina Perri - A thousand Years.
You Are The Reason - Leona Lewis & Calum Scott
I love this song - Love Me Like You Do - combined with Pride and Prejudice.... I love this movie.
Blogging Circle of Friends: DAY 3420 July 1, 2022
Social aspects: Half full or half empty
Is it easier for you to see the positive in a situation or the negative in a situation? In your network of friends are you the one that sees the potential in any given situation?
Having grown up under the umbrella of negativity and depression from my mother's clinical depression, I have learned to develop a more positive outlook. I say learned, because I felt the heaviness of that dark cloud that seemed to follow my mother around. I did not want it to be what I was, so I made a conscious decision to change.
Sometimes I struggle to stay positive, but for the most part, I think I stay on the upbeat side... particularly when I am with friends.
I have developed a sense of humour that tends to lift people out of their funk. I began doing this as a child. Doing comedy routines based on Tim Conway's Old Man character, I found I could get my mother to laugh. Physical humour had her in stitches and kept me out of trouble. Even if that trouble was only annoying my mother's last nerve. Her depression often left her irritable and snappish.
Over the years, I have learned to play with language. Comedic comments tend to fall out of me on occasion. They lighten the mood and make me feel appreciated and included in social settings. Settings that, at one time, scared the devil out of me, as I was painfully shy.
Yes, humour is a defense mechanism for me. I am aware of that.
Having grown up under that umbrella, I mentioned earlier, has also allowed me to read people and emotions with a high level of sensitivity. I can be compassionate, and I can also use humour to lighten the situation and get the person feeling less stressed. Get them to open up and talk to me. More often than not, it works.
I like bolstering others. I use humour and peppy talks to get others feeling better. Perhaps this is why I like working with students. I feel for those who come from the more broken families, like my own, I want to raise them out of the place they are in and let them see it is possible to overcome a sad situation.
I am also inclined to sing. It makes me feel lighter. So often I have had others comment on the fact that I break out in song after a long day of work. The students are gone and I have the classroom to myself -- I just start singing. I used to sing after classes on Fridays at Teacher's College as well.
Singing picks me up... whether I am singing something from the radio or making up my own words to a tune I already know. I may even add a little dance....
Anyone who has mentioned my singing to me has done it with a smile on their face... as I often don't realize I am doing it. In fact, when they point it out, I often invite them to sing along. I had one EA that would break out in song with me. It helped make the day brighter. It was also hilarious to see our younger EA shake her head at our antics.
Some days ya gotta sing.
Blog City: Day 2325 June 30, 2022
Prompt: Make a list of 10 things you like about summer.
1. Day Trips to explore the area around me.
2. Movies under the stars.
3. Time to write - and a variety of places (outside and cafes) to write in.
4. No school. So supply work - that is both good and not so good in that my income goes down.
5. Going swimming with my client
6. Going for hikes alone or with my client.
7. Getting to sleep in or get up in the wee hours to write and then go back to bed without worrying about having to get up for work.
8. Free outdoor concerts.
9. Not having to bundle up in coats and scarves and mittens
10. Warmth and sun. Walking in the rain.
Overall, summer is pretty laid back for me.
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Day 318: June 28, 2022
Tuesday: Cultural: . “I found I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way - things I had no words for.” – Georgia O'Keeffe
What do you think, can a artist say things with color that they can't find words for?
This is an interesting concept. I am currently working on a paranormal novel that has my main character, a witch, with the talent of seeing colours as emotions when she touches others. I think this use of colour adds another dimension to expression.
Shades of colour and colour combinations can express different things. For instance, Green. Green has many hues and aspects. Jealousy to me would have a yellowish tinge to it. A deep forest green is growth and strength. Two very different aspects of life, but each with a colour pallet that speaks volumes.
Red can mean passion or anger. With my character, she sees a reddish golden glow whenever her love interest touches her. It is so strong she can experience it without even making contact. The colour heightens to a deeper red in passion when they are more intimate. The golden aspect of it is more affectionate and stable. Having seen and experienced this colour from him, she has learned when to be leery of boys who are only out for a good time - their colour pallet is far more menacing. It has been a defense mechanism for her, in a way.
As for artists.... I haven't experienced enough art to really say, but this concept interests me and I may just have to take myself off to a gallery to really see I can get a sense of things. Looking at art online does not have quite the same impact as seeing the art up close and personal. Maybe that is a colour thing.... the vibrancy of life is in the face to face, not the online aspect.
Blogging Circle of Friends: Day 3417??: June 27, 2022
Monday: Health: 10 Simple Ways to Cope with Stress by Malaika Stoll, M.D. Do you use one or more of these ten ways to cope with stress? Do you have a way to cope with stress that is not mentioned in this article?
These are the 10 things:
1. Re-balance Work and Home
I try to make a point of separating work time from home time. It helps that during Covid I taught in a special education class where we were required to go in and work in the schools even when the regular classes were not there. I found the commute time was helpful transitioning from work to home. I really felt for those working at home who had to find other ways to break work and home time in a more creative way. My friends husband works for a world wide company that has him working odd hours - meetings with the California office at 9 pm or meetings with the Berlin office at some ungodly early hour... in the same day. That did not seem fair to me.
When I did work at home, for a short time, I made sure to take a walk before and after school hours to give my mind the break.
2. Build in Regular Exercise
An active day is a better day. I feel more accomplished and settled. Just a 20 minute walk helps to re-center me and help me shift gears. I try to move as much as I can over the day. Wearing a Fitbit helps remind me to move.
3. Eat Well and Limit Alcohol and Stimulants
I am not the biggest fan of alcohol. It makes me sleepy. Then I am lethargic for days afterward. When I already have low energy levels that drives me nutty.
Caffeine is my weakness. I try to limit it, as it also makes my bladder weak and that is an issue, in and of itself.
I try to eat well. Key word is TRY. I am not always successful, but I know that fixing my own meals at home gives me more control of my sodium levels. If I make it myself, I know what's in it. I try to eat more veggies and protein. I also try to drink more water. Being thirsty is often disguised as hunger... I am trying to tell the difference by drinking a wee bit more.
4. Connect with Supportive People
This is not always an easy one for me, but I see the merit in it. Recently, I found that talking to someone helped me put my current situation into perspective and that helped alleviate some of the 'blue' feelings I was experiencing after not getting called for any LTO interviews last week.
5. Carve out Hobby Time
Writing is my go to. If I feel stressed I write. Just getting it down on paper or onto a computer screen makes the monster seem less oppressive. What was causing me such anxiety was actually not really all that scary after all. I was making a 'mountain out of a mole hill' as they say.
I also find if I am stressing about a story, I shift gears. Write something else - from a writing prompt or write a poem. Switch perspectives in the story for a scene. Shift to paper and pencil instead of the computer. Get out of my head - take a walk and talk the story out.... nature trails, without anyone around, are a great place for this.
6. Practice Meditation, Stress Reduction or Yoga
I've been trying this over the past 3 years. Being mindful and staying present helps to center me. Focusing on the breath relaxes me. Even before I started meditating, I often found myself doing a kind of breathing exercise that slowed me down and centered me... I started doing that in university before I had to write an exam. It stuck with me.
7. Sleep Enough
I love sleep. And a good night's sleep can do wonders. Lack of sleep can propel me for a day, but then I crash.... hard. It is far better to maintain a healthy sleep routine than bounce around and be over tired. I already have ebbs and flows when it comes to my energy levels. I try to work within those boundaries and try to push myself to be more active during my lower moments (midafternoon). Pushing through helps. But if I can work in a nap.... I will do that too.
8. Bond with Your Pet
I love having cats. When I am stressed, I bury my face in my cat's fur and let their purr take me out of myself. I also find cats are comical creatures. They remind me to laugh at the funny in them... and myself.
9. Take a Vacation
Day tripping is a wonderful thing to do to get away when I can't afford a big vacation. I am lucky to live in an area surrounded by many small towns with huge character. Getting out and just being is a great way to reconnect and relax.
10. See a Counselor, Coach or Therapist
This is not one I have done as much. With no health coverage or benefits I find this pricey. I have, in the past, used a physiotherapist for a health issue which was largely a stress issue. It helped me regain control and find a way to manage my weak bladder and, in time, my Self.
So I guess you could say I use them all to manage my stress and anxiety. Find what works for you. Experiment and be open to just let go. It will do wonders for you.
Blogging Circle of Friends: DAY 3415 June 25, 2022
Music: Let one of these lyrics or all inspire your entry today-
1. If I was you, I'd wanna be me too." Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"
2. "Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane." – Brad Paisley, "Perfect Storm"
3. "I'm no beauty queen, I'm just beautiful me." —Selena Gomez, "Who Says"
4. "Hello, it's me." —Adele, "Hello"
I have enjoyed listening to these songs. The ones that stood out for me were Megan Trainor's Me Too. My friend often sings the lyric "If I was you, I'd wanna be me too." and I have to smile. It is a kick ass appreciation for loving ourselves.... and I think that is important because all too often we give away our power to those how don't deserve it and abuse the privilege of the gift. My friend has done just that.... and I think she sees me as having taken back my power. But have I? I don't feel like I have, but at the same time, I have the freedom to be me. I am no longer tied to someone who didn't always appreciate my quirks and made me feel ashamed of having them.
The other song I enjoyed was Selena Gomez's Who Says. I like the line "I'm no beauty queen, I'm just beautiful me." I like the message of the song. Don't listen to others. Follow your own heart and mind. You are a creation of beauty in your own right. Don't let others try to diminish that with their negativity.
Self esteem is a woman's strength. If we have it and hold onto it, we can go as far as we can imagine. All too often, we are cut down as being too much by those who feel threatened by our inner power.
I also really like Adele's Hello. Her sultry life resonates through time as she sings "Hello, it's me." I love the video. It gets my story thoughts moving. What is the story behind the song... I would be inclined to tell my own story. A young couple torn apart by decisions they have made.... the woman leaving the man to fallow her dreams and in doing so she does not return to him. She tries to call to apologize but he has moved on.... never home when she calls.... or never answers her calls.
Blog City: Day 2318 - June 22, 2022
Prompt: Time is a cruel mistress. Write about time in your Blog entry today.
Time is a Cruel Mistress
Time is a cruel mistress
She dresses for seduction
Temps you with open arms
And a bounty that seems endless
But in all, she is wasting away
And dragging you along with her
Unknowing and lost
Floundering and forlorn
You awake one day
To find her gnarled and grey
Hazy and out of focus
And your limbs are stiff
Your body tired, old too soon
She has stolen your youth
Caused you to lose sight of your dreams
And cast you adrift
So that anything you did have
Is only a distant memory
And with it....
Like a receding tide.
Blogging Circle of Friends: Day 3401 June 11, 2022
Music: WebMD did a study showing music helps improve our focus, helps us study better and calms us in emotional situations. Do you agree or disagree? How does music work in your life?
Music does indeed calm the savage beast. I used to sing the little ditty 'You are my sunshine whenever my ex-husband upset me... only I changed the words to 'you are my a**hole, my only a**hole, please don't piss me off today'. It would make me smile despite my frustration and I could get over the annoyance faster. Even humming the tune without the words was enough to get me through a rough patch.
Listening to music and singing along helps me relax. It makes a car journey so much better and I find when the traffic comes to a standstill I just jack up the tunes and belt it out. I'll get there, when I get there. I might as well enjoy the getting there, despite the traffic. I will turn the tunes down if I need to concentrate on my driving, particularly when I am unsure of where I am going.
I tend not to have a soundtrack for my writing. I know some people do, but I find I would be singing along instead of doing the writing. Still, songs can inspire the parts you are writing, so I am not ruling this out of my repertoire of tools. I would just have to listen and when the song is done, write.
Music without words can set the mood and not distract me. I have studied to Classical music in the past.
I also like listening to music when I meditate. There are particular songs for cleansing each chakra. The music is also not the kind of stuff I am not used to, so it keeps me engaged during the meditation - focused attention instead of nodding off to sleep.
I also find that music engages students. Students with special needs respond very well and I find that engagement uplifting. I often use music to help with transitions - for example clean up time.
Overall, I would say music is a huge part of my life. Even listening to the chorus of sounds around me as I sit outside to write is wonderful. I suppose that is why I prefer Spring, Summer and Fall to Winter. Snow has a way of buffering the sound and all the birds have gone into hiding.