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Artist: flora cash Song: You're Somebody Else [Embed For Use By Upgraded+] "JAFBG" Prompt: Tell us about something/someone that fucked you off this week. "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" Prompt: Have you picked up any new hobbies or interests since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic in March? I'm back, sort of. I've been off trying to reconcile feelings™. I have this thing in life that's difficult for me to understand. I feel like whenever I do something bad, like whenever I have a negative behavior, I always have to pay the price for it. I always have to deal with the bad consequences of my bad actions. And that makes sense. But... I feel like it doesn't work the other way around. When I do something good or feel like I'm a net positive to a situation, it doesn't seem like it's acknowledged, like, at all. I think this is related to growing up in a reward/punishment-based system where it's like "Do what I want and I'll reward you. Don't do what I want and I'll punish you." But in actuality, the former is really, "Do what I want and I'll be neutral toward you." It's frustrating to me because I want to be "good" but I've grown to understand the concept of being good or doing good things through acknowledgements. I think people, by nature, want to be recognized when they put a lot of time and effort into something. Not that they need people to bow down before their greatness, but just the slightest thumbs up to be like, "Hey, you're not invisible and you're doing a good job." I see microcosms of this scenario everywhere and it's super demotivating to me. I'm not the type of person who does well with blasé responses because my brain is like, Hey, if they're indifferent to you anyway, why not just do whatever you want? Because often when presented with numerous options, I base my decision on expectations or desires of the other party. Sometimes it's like, why not just do whatever I feel like doing in the moment since it clearly doesn't affect the outcome regardless? So, that's what I've been wrestling with a little bit. I'm in tune with my mental health issues, as unraveled as they've been lately, so I can recognize my BPD being triggered. The question is do I want to involve myself in something that triggers my BPD? Not sure this flip-floppy brain thing is a new COVID hobby for me. It might’ve been around just a tad longer than that. But there is so much time to think now, and that’s why it’s so important to be thoughtful and deliberate with your actions. I mean, even unrelated to this tiny meltdown I’m having, the smallest things can brighten someone’s day or week or even month during COVID times. Almost everyone I know has been sitting at home for months now, not seeing their primary social group, not doing their typical summer activities, looking ahead to the holidays where they might be celebrating without friends or family for the first time ever. It’s crucial to do what you can to make people feel appreciated during any time, but especially during these times. I don’t know that I’ve picked up any new hobbies, but I have been doing a lot more of my pre-existing hobbies. Without commuting for work, I’ve had a lot more time during the work week to read, for example. I have so many books on my holds shelf at the library because I’ve had more time to read book summaries and get a super long to-read list going. I’ve also been writing some off-site, which is cool. I’ve been trying pen and paper a little bit to avoid distractions and it seems to be working well. Depending on how long I’m essentially stuck at home, I’m sure I’ll pick up some new interests and hobbies, but really I have so many half-hobbies that I’m more likely to just focus on making them a little more consistent hobbies. Also, I haven’t checked my emails from the last week but I will soon I’m sure. Having my mind engulfed and being in pain all the time has proven to take up a lot of space in my life, so there’s that part too. Well you look like yourself But you're somebody else Only it ain't on the surface |