Mary Faderan's Blog

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I'm my Dad's caregiver. He's 93 this Tuesday. He's got a drivers licence that's expiring and they needed him to have a vision test which he took. He sent the document from the optometrist to the BMV in the big city. They haven't any results yet on whether they've approved it or not. In the meantime, he's not going to be able to drive on his own for a while during the time they make a decision. It should come soon. He's also needing to get back on track with his medications. He's not been on his meds (except for his BP med) for sometime. He's diabetic. He'll probably have a visit with his nurse practitioner in a few days. Meanwhile he needs his meds have a new Rx. That's where the NP comes in. I hope she does this soon. She hasn't seen him in a year. It might be she'll ask him to have a virtual appointment or come in for a real appointment. If he doesn't have his driver's licence yet, I'll have to take him to his doctor's office. All of this has been keeping me awake nights. I've somehow taken over the worry over him and his licence and his medical issues. I worry like Hell. I don't know when to pull back and let it go. As far as he's concerned, it's in the back burner and he'll get his meds one way or another and see his NP or MD sometime. I worry about taking him to the doctor because I haven't driven in a while. I had a scare one morning when I was driving and I fell asleep at the wheel. I busted a tire in the process of righting the car back on the road. But that was a while a while ago. I remember that I took an anxiety pill that morning and it could have affected me. So if I have to drive, I'll not take that pill. He's going to be with me in the car anyway so I'm going to have company. And my pups will be with me so they'll keep me company in the car while my Dad goes for his appointment.

I have to learn to be detached about things. I'm just scared for my Dad. But he's doing ok. He goes and buys the grocery and runs errands with me. But he's aging and yet he's able to fix dinner every day or every other day. He likes to fix the dinners he wants to eat. He doesn't like what I cook.

This coming week will be a challenge. First, he needs his drivers licence. Then he needs his meds. Then he may need to talk to his NP. And then see his MD.