Small bites

Only to me

My husband has done something terrible through his mindlessness that's caused terrible damage to our relationship. Somethign that will take years to correct. To the point that I took my wedding ring off and have refused to wear it. He didn't physically cheat on me, but it was pretty bad.

Imagine my suprirse when I unloaded on an acquainance I know from school about it, and she gave me the strangest look ever. What she told me next floored me. She said she was the bad guy. That she was the cheater in her house. Now, hear me out. I had just explained to this woman what happened, as a sounding board - a passive outlet for my anger and frustration. And she quietly listened to everything I had to say and then told me "It's exactly reversed in my house. I'm the bad guy." The conversation that followed was enlightening and completely unexpected.

I am astounded that this conversation ever happened in the way that it did. That it was as enlightening as it was and offered perspective for me about my own situation