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Are You Listening???

by Charlie ~

Rated: GC · Book · Emotional · #2181458

A journey of self-improvement - or not.

Sup? I'm Char.
You may know me from timeless classics such as

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30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS

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WDC's Longest Running Blog Competition - Hiatus
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Because real life isn't always roses and sunshine...
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Believin' all the lies that they're tellin' ya
Buyin' all the products that they're sellin' ya
They say jump and ya say "how high?"
Ya braindead, ya got a fuckin' bullet in ya head

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10 Most Recent Blog Comments:

👀intu the Darkness

Jul 22, 2023 at 8:05am
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Hey Char, It's been a while since I've touched base with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The last thing people should say is everyone loses their grandparents eventually, or it will get better with time. It's the last thing you want to hear when you're hurting. Death sucks, long-lasting illness sucks! Having to decide to let the person go to keep them from suffering REALLY SUCKS! I think the only ones who can understand truly just how much are those who have had to make that decision. My heart breaks for you.

I'm not religious, but I do have a strong faith in God. I call myself spiritual because I don't agree with all the rules and regulations of religion. I do know I will see my family and friends again, and this is a great comfort. I can only imagine how much more painful the death of loved ones is without this belief. But you're right, it can't be faked. But it is a beautiful thing.

Having mental health issues during times like this makes it even harder to go through. I know what you mean about seeing things that aren't there. I'd walk into a room, and say, "Where's Star?" and she would be sitting right in front of me. When I looked, I swear I saw an empty chair. The mind is crazy. It gives new meaning to a mind of its own

Some time has passed since you wrote this. I don't know when you'll see this but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending good energy your way. I hope you're doing better. I look forward to hearing from you.

Aiva Raine

Mar 28, 2023 at 9:40pm
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know they are shitty sounding words that don't even attempt to fill or fix, but they're meant in sincerity.

Having lost several people the best advice I was ever given was when life gets too hard- take it at your own pace. If a day is too much- cope with an hour at a time. If that's too much, take it ten minutes at a time. If that's too much- then you deal with one minute at a time. Work through life and grief at your pace. And don't ever feel guilty because you feel sad. And if you can- find one positive in each chunk of time- even if it's something as little as the beauty of sunlight on a leaf or the softness of your shirt. And ask for help if you need it.

Elle

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:29pm
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Aw, Charlie, I'm so sorry. It's a shit thing to go through whether it's sudden or not. And just because everyone goes through it, doesn't make it easier. It also doesn't take into account that you were closer to them than your parents. Nobody says 'Oh, everyone loses their parents eventually' do they? Surely not. And that's what's happened here really. I'm actually glad you've got an appointment with a professional tomorrow, because they might be able to help you with getting through that initial devastation.

When my dad lost his mother, he really struggled with his own lack of religion. As you say, there is some comfort in believing they've gone to a better place, been reunited with loved ones, that you'll see them again, and so on. For most of my life, Dad would say 'Religion is a crutch for the weak', but I definitely saw him struggle with the finality of it when he lost his mother, the person he was probably closest to.

My thoughts are with you.

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~Minja~

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:21pm
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Crazy stuff, grief. If you want to talk about it, message me always.

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QPdoll

Mar 7, 2023 at 6:21am
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I understand what you mean about wanting to tell your grandmother something. I did the same thing after my grandmother passed. I was at home and the first thing I thought was to call grandma. I picked up the phone and realized that she wouldn't answer. It's so tough losing your grandparents, especially as close as you were. I don't have any magic words, but take care of yourself. It's what they would want.

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Waltz in the Lonesome October

Mar 6, 2023 at 10:31pm
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Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

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Anni Pumpkin

Mar 6, 2023 at 9:06pm
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I know it doesn't help any, but I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine much worse than losing a parent or parental figure. They represent stability and safety, you grew up with them, and you've relied on them for most, if not all, of your life. You're right, the initial devastation will fade and things won't feel so fresh. But, as you know, grief never really goes away. It just becomes a permanent part of you.

It's horrible that you only got a couple days worth of bereavement! That's not even long enough for the shock to wear off enough to START grieving. I hope you have the support of someone else in your life to help you through this dark time. Take it easy on yourself in the mean time, that's all you really can do. Taking care of your physical self, eating and sleeping, is critical. Sleep deprivation and hunger will make things feel a million times worse than they actually are (which, for the record, is already pretty bad).

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Cinn

Feb 20, 2023 at 9:34pm
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I actually pretty much love this one. Nice, man...

Cinn

Feb 19, 2023 at 11:07am
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I'd say that more freedom for participants would attract more people. One obvious example that I've never understood is fiction vs poetry. If it's an activity, not a contest, why not allow people to explore whatever the theme of your activity is with whatever type of writing that want to do?

I've actually written for countless contests/activities over the years but never entered... because they inspired me, but I don't fit within the guidelines. Max rating too low, items required (book entries only over here), no poetry accepted, etc.

I know well why people restrict writers' freedom, but they're also restricting the number of participants they'll get. I still just take the inspiration where I can get it.

Elisa, Stik-or-Treat

Feb 19, 2023 at 10:26am
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I've had decent participation with Journalistic Intentions (even though I know my prompts are sometimes considered "difficult"). I do think that there's been a bit of a shift in regards to contests and activities, where people have been more open to admitting they find some setups too restricting or that they feel intimidated by contests. I would love to be in discussions to address those issues, but so far I haven't been invited.

July 29, 2019 at 11:09am

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July in Review

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Prompt via "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" : Reflect on the month as a whole. Any highlights from your personal life? Challenges? What were your favorite prompts from the 30DBC? Did you learn anything from or about your fellow competitors?

I've had a better July than I thought I'd have. After my June, I figured I wouldn't be able to find any semblance of relaxation this month. July was the only month this year where I'd only have to work. I was in summer classes in June and I'll start the fall semester in August.

So, my best highlight from July is that I was actually able to relax, write, and read.

I wrote over 15,000 words for Camp NaNo, which is short of my goal by a little bit, but there are still a couple days.

I've all but finished "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS"

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up and ready to go for August's challenge after a couple month hiatus. I also read 3 books in full. I've had a habit the past several years of starting a book, getting 40% of the way through and then forgetting about it.

I'm planning to sign up for August's round of "CLOSED!The Monthly Reading Challenge"

and get a few more books under my belt before I head back to my final semester of university.

I've always said that blogging is the best part of WDC. If it weren't for the initial blogging challenge (Soundtrackers) that I did two weeks after joining the site, I wouldn't still be around WDC. It's just the best way to connect to other writers in the community. Reviewing + Blogging = my WDC jam.

I think I've met a couple people blogging this time around. tah20 and Eric Wharton

possibly?

Other than that, I've blogged with everyone before and I honestly know them so well that I can almost predict what they're going to write on a given prompt. Like Waltz in the Lonesome October

and QPdoll

for example. I feel like I read a prompt and kind of know the general direction they're going to go with it. Not because they're not spontaneous or whatever, but just because I've blogged with them a lot before. It doesn't make it less interesting, it's just fun to be like, "I knew you were gonna say that!"

The prompts this month have been totally killing it. There have been so many great ones that I really had to think about when getting started with my entry. Here are a couple of my favorites from the month:

If you were to give a TED talk, what would it be about? Gave me a chance to write about finance, which is something I really enjoy doing!

Today, let’s talk movies. What was the most recent movie you watched? Have you been to the theater recently? What movie are you looking forward to? What is your favorite movie of all time? Just because I watch a lot of movies and I'm always looking for new movie recommendations.

Make a list of five things you wish you could be a master of. Be sure to explain why you chose what you did. It was cool to see what people wanted to master (besides writing)!

Overall, a really good month of strong prompts. I've enjoyed so many of them.

Always move forward
Going straight will get you nowhere

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