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Are You Listening???

by Charlie ~

Rated: GC · Book · Emotional · #2181458

A journey of self-improvement - or not.

Sup? I'm Char.
You may know me from timeless classics such as

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30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS

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Because real life isn't always roses and sunshine...
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Believin' all the lies that they're tellin' ya
Buyin' all the products that they're sellin' ya
They say jump and ya say "how high?"
Ya braindead, ya got a fuckin' bullet in ya head

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👀intu the Darkness

Jul 22, 2023 at 8:05am
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Hey Char, It's been a while since I've touched base with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The last thing people should say is everyone loses their grandparents eventually, or it will get better with time. It's the last thing you want to hear when you're hurting. Death sucks, long-lasting illness sucks! Having to decide to let the person go to keep them from suffering REALLY SUCKS! I think the only ones who can understand truly just how much are those who have had to make that decision. My heart breaks for you.

I'm not religious, but I do have a strong faith in God. I call myself spiritual because I don't agree with all the rules and regulations of religion. I do know I will see my family and friends again, and this is a great comfort. I can only imagine how much more painful the death of loved ones is without this belief. But you're right, it can't be faked. But it is a beautiful thing.

Having mental health issues during times like this makes it even harder to go through. I know what you mean about seeing things that aren't there. I'd walk into a room, and say, "Where's Star?" and she would be sitting right in front of me. When I looked, I swear I saw an empty chair. The mind is crazy. It gives new meaning to a mind of its own

Some time has passed since you wrote this. I don't know when you'll see this but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending good energy your way. I hope you're doing better. I look forward to hearing from you.

Aiva Raine

Mar 28, 2023 at 9:40pm
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know they are shitty sounding words that don't even attempt to fill or fix, but they're meant in sincerity.

Having lost several people the best advice I was ever given was when life gets too hard- take it at your own pace. If a day is too much- cope with an hour at a time. If that's too much, take it ten minutes at a time. If that's too much- then you deal with one minute at a time. Work through life and grief at your pace. And don't ever feel guilty because you feel sad. And if you can- find one positive in each chunk of time- even if it's something as little as the beauty of sunlight on a leaf or the softness of your shirt. And ask for help if you need it.

Elle

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:29pm
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Aw, Charlie, I'm so sorry. It's a shit thing to go through whether it's sudden or not. And just because everyone goes through it, doesn't make it easier. It also doesn't take into account that you were closer to them than your parents. Nobody says 'Oh, everyone loses their parents eventually' do they? Surely not. And that's what's happened here really. I'm actually glad you've got an appointment with a professional tomorrow, because they might be able to help you with getting through that initial devastation.

When my dad lost his mother, he really struggled with his own lack of religion. As you say, there is some comfort in believing they've gone to a better place, been reunited with loved ones, that you'll see them again, and so on. For most of my life, Dad would say 'Religion is a crutch for the weak', but I definitely saw him struggle with the finality of it when he lost his mother, the person he was probably closest to.

My thoughts are with you.

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~Minja~

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:21pm
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Crazy stuff, grief. If you want to talk about it, message me always.

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QPdoll

Mar 7, 2023 at 6:21am
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I understand what you mean about wanting to tell your grandmother something. I did the same thing after my grandmother passed. I was at home and the first thing I thought was to call grandma. I picked up the phone and realized that she wouldn't answer. It's so tough losing your grandparents, especially as close as you were. I don't have any magic words, but take care of yourself. It's what they would want.

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Waltz in the Lonesome October

Mar 6, 2023 at 10:31pm
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Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

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Anni Pumpkin

Mar 6, 2023 at 9:06pm
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I know it doesn't help any, but I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine much worse than losing a parent or parental figure. They represent stability and safety, you grew up with them, and you've relied on them for most, if not all, of your life. You're right, the initial devastation will fade and things won't feel so fresh. But, as you know, grief never really goes away. It just becomes a permanent part of you.

It's horrible that you only got a couple days worth of bereavement! That's not even long enough for the shock to wear off enough to START grieving. I hope you have the support of someone else in your life to help you through this dark time. Take it easy on yourself in the mean time, that's all you really can do. Taking care of your physical self, eating and sleeping, is critical. Sleep deprivation and hunger will make things feel a million times worse than they actually are (which, for the record, is already pretty bad).

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Cinn

Feb 20, 2023 at 9:34pm
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I actually pretty much love this one. Nice, man...

Cinn

Feb 19, 2023 at 11:07am
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I'd say that more freedom for participants would attract more people. One obvious example that I've never understood is fiction vs poetry. If it's an activity, not a contest, why not allow people to explore whatever the theme of your activity is with whatever type of writing that want to do?

I've actually written for countless contests/activities over the years but never entered... because they inspired me, but I don't fit within the guidelines. Max rating too low, items required (book entries only over here), no poetry accepted, etc.

I know well why people restrict writers' freedom, but they're also restricting the number of participants they'll get. I still just take the inspiration where I can get it.

Elisa, Stik-or-Treat

Feb 19, 2023 at 10:26am
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I've had decent participation with Journalistic Intentions (even though I know my prompts are sometimes considered "difficult"). I do think that there's been a bit of a shift in regards to contests and activities, where people have been more open to admitting they find some setups too restricting or that they feel intimidated by contests. I would love to be in discussions to address those issues, but so far I haven't been invited.

July 30, 2019 at 12:13am

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Successful Celebration

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Song: Train in Vain
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Prompt via "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" : How do you celebrate your successes?

Oh wow, last prompt of the month? The last day is always so sad.

It's like we're being torn apart even though we're probably gonna do this again soon.

It is slightly extra sad for me though because I'm starting my last semester of university in August and I know I'm not going to have time to complete a full month of anything again for quite some time probably.

Anyway, I won't get mushy.

Suffice it to say that it has been an absolute pleasure blogging with all of you this month and I really appreciate you taking the time to stop by my blog and read/comment. If you happen to find yourself missing me in August (

), you can find me over at "Invalid Item"

and here in my blog some too.

I mostly celebrate my successes by doing absolutely nothing. That's because success almost always follows countless, tireless days of work and effort. When I finish I semester of school, I usually just lay in bed and sleep on and off for a couple days straight. That's my celebration. Just silence and freedom to do nothing without worrying.

If I actually "celebrate" my own successes, it's almost always for the sake of someone else. For example, around my wedding we had the post-engagement party, pre-wedding family dinner a few days before, then the actual wedding with all of the traditional bullshit, and then the reception. I wanted to do, ya know, none of that. Kira wanted to do, um, none of that. It was 90% my ma and 10% hers.

We didn't care about doing any of the traditional wedding things. But my dear ol' mom looked at me with large puppy dog eyes and said, "But, Charlie, it will make me h a p p y." How am I supposed to say no to that?

And I'm very easy in that area. Someone can be like, "Yo, so, I'm gonna punch you in the face because it will make me very happy." And I'll be like, "Well, I mean, if it will make you very happy..."

Then, of course, there's alcohol. My ex was very fancy with celebrations. He'd be like, "We have this very fine champagne cognac just for this occasion!"

He'd have, like, a special celebratory table cloth?

Just weird-ass stuff I'd never seen before. For my birthday one year, he spent all day cooking dinner and when I arrived, everything was the 'celebratory' version of itself. The celebratory champagne cognac with the celebratory champagne glasses and the celebratory dim lighting. The celebratory fine china with the celebratory tablecloth and the matching celebratory serviettes.

I was like, you do realize that I've done literally nothing aside from staying alive for another year, right?

That being said, I do plan on hardcore celebrating my university graduation in December. I've been chipping away at this goal for years and there's no way I'm going to just finish finals this fall and move on with my life like, you know, an adult.

I'm definitely probably going to celebrate for like a solid week. You have to do the initial mad drunken "idgaf" party and then the graduation dinner with Kira, and the graduation party with family, and the graduation parties for my friends who are graduating with me.

I don't even care about my birthday which will be the same week. I'm just beyond stoked to be finishing school.

I guess different things are cause for different types of celebration. You only have one undergrad graduation, so that should be celebrated. But things that happen every year? I care exponentially less.

All the times
When we were close
I'll remember these things the most

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