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Are You Listening???

by Charlie ~

Rated: GC · Book · Emotional · #2181458

A journey of self-improvement - or not.

Sup? I'm Char.
You may know me from timeless classics such as

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Because real life isn't always roses and sunshine...
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Believin' all the lies that they're tellin' ya
Buyin' all the products that they're sellin' ya
They say jump and ya say "how high?"
Ya braindead, ya got a fuckin' bullet in ya head

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👀intu the Darkness

Jul 22, 2023 at 8:05am
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Hey Char, It's been a while since I've touched base with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The last thing people should say is everyone loses their grandparents eventually, or it will get better with time. It's the last thing you want to hear when you're hurting. Death sucks, long-lasting illness sucks! Having to decide to let the person go to keep them from suffering REALLY SUCKS! I think the only ones who can understand truly just how much are those who have had to make that decision. My heart breaks for you.

I'm not religious, but I do have a strong faith in God. I call myself spiritual because I don't agree with all the rules and regulations of religion. I do know I will see my family and friends again, and this is a great comfort. I can only imagine how much more painful the death of loved ones is without this belief. But you're right, it can't be faked. But it is a beautiful thing.

Having mental health issues during times like this makes it even harder to go through. I know what you mean about seeing things that aren't there. I'd walk into a room, and say, "Where's Star?" and she would be sitting right in front of me. When I looked, I swear I saw an empty chair. The mind is crazy. It gives new meaning to a mind of its own

Some time has passed since you wrote this. I don't know when you'll see this but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending good energy your way. I hope you're doing better. I look forward to hearing from you.

Aiva Raine

Mar 28, 2023 at 9:40pm
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know they are shitty sounding words that don't even attempt to fill or fix, but they're meant in sincerity.

Having lost several people the best advice I was ever given was when life gets too hard- take it at your own pace. If a day is too much- cope with an hour at a time. If that's too much, take it ten minutes at a time. If that's too much- then you deal with one minute at a time. Work through life and grief at your pace. And don't ever feel guilty because you feel sad. And if you can- find one positive in each chunk of time- even if it's something as little as the beauty of sunlight on a leaf or the softness of your shirt. And ask for help if you need it.

Elle

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:29pm
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Aw, Charlie, I'm so sorry. It's a shit thing to go through whether it's sudden or not. And just because everyone goes through it, doesn't make it easier. It also doesn't take into account that you were closer to them than your parents. Nobody says 'Oh, everyone loses their parents eventually' do they? Surely not. And that's what's happened here really. I'm actually glad you've got an appointment with a professional tomorrow, because they might be able to help you with getting through that initial devastation.

When my dad lost his mother, he really struggled with his own lack of religion. As you say, there is some comfort in believing they've gone to a better place, been reunited with loved ones, that you'll see them again, and so on. For most of my life, Dad would say 'Religion is a crutch for the weak', but I definitely saw him struggle with the finality of it when he lost his mother, the person he was probably closest to.

My thoughts are with you.

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~Minja~

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:21pm
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Crazy stuff, grief. If you want to talk about it, message me always.

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QPdoll

Mar 7, 2023 at 6:21am
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I understand what you mean about wanting to tell your grandmother something. I did the same thing after my grandmother passed. I was at home and the first thing I thought was to call grandma. I picked up the phone and realized that she wouldn't answer. It's so tough losing your grandparents, especially as close as you were. I don't have any magic words, but take care of yourself. It's what they would want.

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Waltz in the Lonesome October

Mar 6, 2023 at 10:31pm
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Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

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Anni Pumpkin

Mar 6, 2023 at 9:06pm
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I know it doesn't help any, but I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine much worse than losing a parent or parental figure. They represent stability and safety, you grew up with them, and you've relied on them for most, if not all, of your life. You're right, the initial devastation will fade and things won't feel so fresh. But, as you know, grief never really goes away. It just becomes a permanent part of you.

It's horrible that you only got a couple days worth of bereavement! That's not even long enough for the shock to wear off enough to START grieving. I hope you have the support of someone else in your life to help you through this dark time. Take it easy on yourself in the mean time, that's all you really can do. Taking care of your physical self, eating and sleeping, is critical. Sleep deprivation and hunger will make things feel a million times worse than they actually are (which, for the record, is already pretty bad).

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Cinn

Feb 20, 2023 at 9:34pm
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I actually pretty much love this one. Nice, man...

Cinn

Feb 19, 2023 at 11:07am
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I'd say that more freedom for participants would attract more people. One obvious example that I've never understood is fiction vs poetry. If it's an activity, not a contest, why not allow people to explore whatever the theme of your activity is with whatever type of writing that want to do?

I've actually written for countless contests/activities over the years but never entered... because they inspired me, but I don't fit within the guidelines. Max rating too low, items required (book entries only over here), no poetry accepted, etc.

I know well why people restrict writers' freedom, but they're also restricting the number of participants they'll get. I still just take the inspiration where I can get it.

Elisa, Stik-or-Treat

Feb 19, 2023 at 10:26am
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I've had decent participation with Journalistic Intentions (even though I know my prompts are sometimes considered "difficult"). I do think that there's been a bit of a shift in regards to contests and activities, where people have been more open to admitting they find some setups too restricting or that they feel intimidated by contests. I would love to be in discussions to address those issues, but so far I haven't been invited.

July 13, 2019 at 12:12am

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Yes, I'd rather.

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Prompt via "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" : Have fun answering these “Would you Rather?” questions in your blog today! You can choose to answer as few or as many as you like

Well, it has been a while since I've played Would You Rather.

We should do Truth or Dare next. Or Never Have I Ever. Or Spin the Bottle, wait, no, not that one. Why does this make me want to go camping?

Would you rather live a boring, long life or an exciting, short life?

I think I've proven once (or twice) that I'd rather do the short and event-filled thing. It's important to have a story to tell. Wait, let me rephrase, it's important to me to have a story to tell. I think my life started out a certain way that wasn't in my control. "Stable" is not a word that I or anyone I know would use to describe my childhood.

I could lead a much more stable life now, and I have started to in a lot of ways. But I'm clearly still not all in on this whole long and boring thing. I'm impulsive through and through. It seems that when things are going well and are calm for a while, I find ways to deconstruct it whether I'm consciously doing so or not.

There might be a time where I come to prefer the quiet, boring, long life thing. In fact, I can see that as a real possibility if I live long enough. I feel like I'd be a very chill, relaxed retired person.

Like, I have so many hobbies and things that I enjoy. If I worked to save for retirement and didn't have to worry about finances after retiring, I can easily see myself enjoying long days of reading, writing, drawing, and all that...

It's just that I'm pretty sure I won't be around for that chapter.

Would you rather be able to fly or teleport?

100% teleporting. Flying is a cool mode of transportation compared to, like, riding the subway. But compared to teleporting? No way. Teleporting is way cooler. Travel is an inconvenience no matter how you do it. Being able to snap your fingers and just be somewhere though? That would be so awesome.

Oh, need to be at school at 9? Just snap your fingers at 8:59 and you're suddenly in class. Can you imagine having no commute whatsoever to work? Yeah, flying would be cool the first few times but then it would just be like, "Ugh, gotta fly to work right now? Shit, a bug just flew in my mouth." No thanks.

Would you rather be able to only time travel to the past or only time travel to the future?

Future. Always future on this one. The past is in the past for a reason. I don't need to see it. There are interesting events from the past that would be cool to witness, but how many times do you really want to witness them? A lot of history is just terrible and violent anyway. There's so much you could do by being able to travel back and forth between past and present. I'd also be the richest person alive because I'd invest heavily in stocks.

Would you rather lose your hearing or your sight?

This is the only thing on the list that's difficult for me to answer. I can't imagine losing my hearing because I'd never be able to listen to music or hear people's voices again. That would really suck.

But at the same time, I feel like day-to-day life would be more impaired by blindness than by deafness. Plus not being able to see the people you love or travel and see the world. Honestly, I think being blind would be terrifying as well. More so than being deaf. I can't imagine trying to navigate the world without being able to see what you're doing.

On the other hand, I feel like deafness would really affect your ability to communicate with people. I mean, with technology, communicating is a lot easier than it once was I'm sure. So basically, I think I have no idea. I really don't want either of those things to happen.

If I had to say, and you do HAVE to say when you're playing Would You Rather, I'd say that I'd rather be deaf than blind. But I say it regrettably.

Would you rather live the rest of your life as a cat or a dog?

I'm basically already a cat.

Dogs are expected to do soooo much. Like, roll over and sit and stay and let's go run outside. Everyone just leaves cats alone. My cats are very chill creatures. They just hang out near me while I write and read. They don't make very much noise at all. Every time I fall asleep during the middle of the day, I have cats laying on me or near me. They're basically living their best life and I'd for sure rather live as a cat than a dog.

Pick me up and take me like a vitamin

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