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Are You Listening???

by Charlie ~

Rated: GC · Book · Emotional · #2181458

A journey of self-improvement - or not.

Sup? I'm Char.
You may know me from timeless classics such as

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30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS

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WDC's Longest Running Blog Competition - Hiatus
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JAFBG

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Because real life isn't always roses and sunshine...
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Believin' all the lies that they're tellin' ya
Buyin' all the products that they're sellin' ya
They say jump and ya say "how high?"
Ya braindead, ya got a fuckin' bullet in ya head

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10 Most Recent Blog Comments:

👀intu the Darkness

Jul 22, 2023 at 8:05am
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Hey Char, It's been a while since I've touched base with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The last thing people should say is everyone loses their grandparents eventually, or it will get better with time. It's the last thing you want to hear when you're hurting. Death sucks, long-lasting illness sucks! Having to decide to let the person go to keep them from suffering REALLY SUCKS! I think the only ones who can understand truly just how much are those who have had to make that decision. My heart breaks for you.

I'm not religious, but I do have a strong faith in God. I call myself spiritual because I don't agree with all the rules and regulations of religion. I do know I will see my family and friends again, and this is a great comfort. I can only imagine how much more painful the death of loved ones is without this belief. But you're right, it can't be faked. But it is a beautiful thing.

Having mental health issues during times like this makes it even harder to go through. I know what you mean about seeing things that aren't there. I'd walk into a room, and say, "Where's Star?" and she would be sitting right in front of me. When I looked, I swear I saw an empty chair. The mind is crazy. It gives new meaning to a mind of its own

Some time has passed since you wrote this. I don't know when you'll see this but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending good energy your way. I hope you're doing better. I look forward to hearing from you.

Aiva Raine

Mar 28, 2023 at 9:40pm
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know they are shitty sounding words that don't even attempt to fill or fix, but they're meant in sincerity.

Having lost several people the best advice I was ever given was when life gets too hard- take it at your own pace. If a day is too much- cope with an hour at a time. If that's too much, take it ten minutes at a time. If that's too much- then you deal with one minute at a time. Work through life and grief at your pace. And don't ever feel guilty because you feel sad. And if you can- find one positive in each chunk of time- even if it's something as little as the beauty of sunlight on a leaf or the softness of your shirt. And ask for help if you need it.

Elle

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:29pm
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Aw, Charlie, I'm so sorry. It's a shit thing to go through whether it's sudden or not. And just because everyone goes through it, doesn't make it easier. It also doesn't take into account that you were closer to them than your parents. Nobody says 'Oh, everyone loses their parents eventually' do they? Surely not. And that's what's happened here really. I'm actually glad you've got an appointment with a professional tomorrow, because they might be able to help you with getting through that initial devastation.

When my dad lost his mother, he really struggled with his own lack of religion. As you say, there is some comfort in believing they've gone to a better place, been reunited with loved ones, that you'll see them again, and so on. For most of my life, Dad would say 'Religion is a crutch for the weak', but I definitely saw him struggle with the finality of it when he lost his mother, the person he was probably closest to.

My thoughts are with you.

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~Minja~

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:21pm
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Crazy stuff, grief. If you want to talk about it, message me always.

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QPdoll

Mar 7, 2023 at 6:21am
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I understand what you mean about wanting to tell your grandmother something. I did the same thing after my grandmother passed. I was at home and the first thing I thought was to call grandma. I picked up the phone and realized that she wouldn't answer. It's so tough losing your grandparents, especially as close as you were. I don't have any magic words, but take care of yourself. It's what they would want.

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Waltz in the Lonesome October

Mar 6, 2023 at 10:31pm
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Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

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Anni Pumpkin

Mar 6, 2023 at 9:06pm
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I know it doesn't help any, but I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine much worse than losing a parent or parental figure. They represent stability and safety, you grew up with them, and you've relied on them for most, if not all, of your life. You're right, the initial devastation will fade and things won't feel so fresh. But, as you know, grief never really goes away. It just becomes a permanent part of you.

It's horrible that you only got a couple days worth of bereavement! That's not even long enough for the shock to wear off enough to START grieving. I hope you have the support of someone else in your life to help you through this dark time. Take it easy on yourself in the mean time, that's all you really can do. Taking care of your physical self, eating and sleeping, is critical. Sleep deprivation and hunger will make things feel a million times worse than they actually are (which, for the record, is already pretty bad).

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Cinn

Feb 20, 2023 at 9:34pm
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I actually pretty much love this one. Nice, man...

Cinn

Feb 19, 2023 at 11:07am
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I'd say that more freedom for participants would attract more people. One obvious example that I've never understood is fiction vs poetry. If it's an activity, not a contest, why not allow people to explore whatever the theme of your activity is with whatever type of writing that want to do?

I've actually written for countless contests/activities over the years but never entered... because they inspired me, but I don't fit within the guidelines. Max rating too low, items required (book entries only over here), no poetry accepted, etc.

I know well why people restrict writers' freedom, but they're also restricting the number of participants they'll get. I still just take the inspiration where I can get it.

Elisa, Stik-or-Treat

Feb 19, 2023 at 10:26am
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I've had decent participation with Journalistic Intentions (even though I know my prompts are sometimes considered "difficult"). I do think that there's been a bit of a shift in regards to contests and activities, where people have been more open to admitting they find some setups too restricting or that they feel intimidated by contests. I would love to be in discussions to address those issues, but so far I haven't been invited.

September 5, 2019 at 12:06am

#965583

Yeah, but no

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Prompt via "30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" : ...there are 22 item types available for members to create... full list here: Item Types and Their Uses .

Is there any item type available to you that you've never created? Any that you've never read? Any tool or feature on WDC that you haven't tried? Why not? What are the benefits of having these extra features available on a site dedicated to writing?

Plus, "JAFBG" prompt: What mild inconvenience drives you fucking nuts?

Yeaaah, I'm combining both of those prompts today. I know, I'm just a bundle of joy even during birthday week. Sorry, but also not really.

I've had a really weird day in general for some reason. Do you ever have a day where you feel like everything you say is the wrong thing? Like, you have 20 interactions and you manage to fuck all of them up? I'm never sure if that's related to my borderline personality disorder or if other people do that too.

Like, I'm pretty sure I didn't specifically do anything wrong, but I also didn't do anything right. I can tell that the things I said or did in various interactions were not the things I was supposed to do or say.

It's this feeling like every relationship I have is worse off for me having interacted today. Does that make any sense at all? Sometimes at the end of the day, I'm like... yeah, bro, you shouldn't have talked at all today.

It's a mild inconvenience, but it drives me fucking nuts. I think a lot of it is rooted in having a lack of self-esteem. When I'm not particularly well-received in a conversation, I leave it full of self-doubt and start wishing I'd either not said anything or had quickly conformed to the other person's opinion.

I find myself doing that all the time too. Like, I have an opinion. Person A states their opposing opinion. And I'm like, "Yeah, dude, totally." I don't have the identity to think, oh, I'm actually a different individual than you, so I feel a different way than you.

The funniest part is that I walk away from a lot of conversations kicking myself like, I totally didn't want to go along with that, so I should have said something even if it was nonconforming. But then when I do actually speak up for something that I think matters, I end up somehow feeling even worse.

I'm just legit the most dismissible person ever. Like...

Me: Hey, here's this thing I feel.
Other person: No.
Me: Oh, never mind.

All. The. Time.

Anyway, what the fuck am I supposed to be writing about? OH, right.

If you came to read about which items I've written, you can start here.

Well, I don't have a premium account, so I don't have any of the "P" items like photo albums, shops, web pages, etc. I don't have any campfires, interactives, in-and-outs, or mad libs either. Buuuut, I'm pretty sure I have at least one of everything else. I've created word searches and crosswords for various challenges over the years. I've also got a group and I've used surveys/polls for things related to the group.

It's nice to have some other options on the site. I try to utilize them sometimes in my group for the challenges. You know, "make a mental health related word search" or whatever. I dunno if people actually do word searches or crossword puzzles on WDC often, but they're just nice side perks in case you ever felt like doing that.

I've never read interactives on the site. They seem heavily fetish-leaning, and I'm not one to kink shame, but the fetishes I see in interactives here certainly don't align with my own.

I had no idea how huge this underground interactive fetish thing was until I was doing something related to Game of Thrones and I was like, holy shit, there are a lot of fetish interactives going on.

I do like the idea of interactives though. It's cool that people can write together and have a sort of "choose your own adventure" thing going on. And if it gets people off, bonus, I guess.

(I specifically said that so I could reference 'getting off' 3 entries in a row. You're welcome.)

Hey, what's the difference between an Interactive and a Campfire Creative? Just choose the next chapter vs. no choice of next chapter?

But I'll bet that you're running
I've been sleeping in the alkaline
I can't shake this little feeling
I'll never get anything right

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