Question of the Day!

There's far more non-jerk people just trying to live their lives than there are the ones who think it's "okay" to lash out. We see those yahoos because it's an anomaly. Still, I think people forget that even if something has been seen 10 million times, it's a drop in the bucket compared to population numbers. Still, boring people don't make good content clicks, so we get to hear about buttheads and it seems like everyone must be a butthead. So those weirdos - deliberately being jackasses.

The "just want to live our lives" crowd is usually mortified after they lash out (whether they admit it or not in the moment is a different conundrum). At a minimum, one often feels a bit stupid when they lose their cool, even if they were "triggered" by something.

At its core, I think, like most things, it's a learned skill, and not one one that's commonly taught. Coupled with the fact that's it's far easier to externalize blame onto the nearest target instead of doing some self-reflection (often without realizes you're doing it)it's not surprising a lot of people struggle to a handle on it.

I say this knowing full well I can be a bit reactive myself. Especially when confronted with the aforementioned perpetually offended ding-dongs.