Why women don't support each other?
why woman don't support each other?
What keeps women from supporting each other?
Today we see woman distant themselves from one another like the plaque. Why is this occurring? Is it rules of survival? Are women incapable of having a healthy relationship with another woman? No, none of this true. I am a woman and I a have observed and even studied the relationships amongst woman. I have observed that many women are alike in different ways, we tend to judge other women for their flaws without taking account of our own. There are a vast number of women from different backgrounds, ethnic groups and cultures that are programmed to believe that other women are naturally their enemy. This is a cognitive nightmare that spreads not only to other women but to other relationships involving the opposite sex.
is up with your mind? As people, we have parents,
friends and teachers throughout our lives that consciously and
subconsciously condition our thinking. When we look at sports, we see
the coach instill team effort. Team consists of members working
towards a common goal, you are only as strong as your fellow
teammate. Outside of sports not many women think this way. A lot of
women refuse to work with a team of women out of fear. Fear of
judgment, fear of self, fear of commitment, fear, fear and more fear.
The next issue is competition, we naturally as human beings look at
the skill set of others and then measure ourselves by it. We
psychologically psyche ourselves out to believe this person is better
or worst than me. We mentally put a block towards a woman that is
attractive or highly intelligent. Why, because subconsciously we have
been conditioned ourselves to do so. This does not stop with other
females; it creeps into our subconscious and begins to slowly tear us
apart from ourselves.
What is up with all the hate, sis? Jealousy, envy, fear and lack of trust are all self-esteem kryptonite. As women we must wave the white flag when it comes to other women. We are all going through something and we are more alike than different. What I have noticed that women do to tear down and destroy other women is to gossip. We all gossip; however, it can go too far into the realm of defamation of character and slander. Women love to talk and share, but some woman are only listening to hear something important that they can use against other women later. This is more of a character flaw or personality flaw. Men are guilty of this too; they slander woman time and time again when angry or feeling slighted. Some men are willing to date or sleep with his targets friends just to get the dirt on that targeted woman. People, this behavior must stop! First, not every woman is your enemy and you are only jealous of yourself. The other woman is not the issue, you are. As women, if we reflect in life and think about the first time, we felt betrayed or hurt by another woman, we will find that it is old baggage we have been hauling around. Every other woman or man that has crossed your path has become a target, because subconsciously you do not want to feel the way you did back in 6th grade. In order to connect with other women we must be honest with ourselves, as to who we are. Good or bad, we must start with self, our insecurities, our self-doubts and commitment issues.
How do we heal our minds?
In closing, each of these steps comes from personal and the observational. I have never stopped growing and growth does not have to be hard or complicated. When I think back to old friendships, they were telling me all of this, but I was not listening at the time. Life can knock you down, just to help you get up stronger and better. During this Covid-19 epidemic mental health is extremely important more now than ever before. I wish love and laughter and great health all around.