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Welcome to the Romance/Love Newsletter! I'm Crys-not really here and I'll be your editor this week.
Sometimes, I Don't Believe in Love
Sometimes, I don't believe in love. I know, that's terrible for the author of Romance/Love Newsletter to say. I guess what I really mean is, I don't believe in love in the traditional, romantic sense. I don't think love is supposed to be a cliche like so many people (and writers) think it is.
Here's something you can do before writing a love poem or story: Make a list of all the people, places and things that you associate with love.
For me that list would begin something like this:
the smell of clean hair
a warm sweater
leave falling from trees
You don't see red, long-stemmed red roses on this list, do you? There's no candlelight, no hearts beating. You might even be asking yourself what some of the things on my list have to do with love. That's because my experience with love is different from yours. Everyone's experience with love is different, so why do so many romance novels and love poems rely on traditional aspects of love or cliches?
I'm really baffled sometimes by the poems I see that are labeled "love poems." Maybe it's just me, but how does using "roses are red" in your poem make it romantic? How does taking a line from an ancient love poem and inserting it into your own make it really say what you want it to about the person you're writing to or about?
How about love poems to pets, children, grandchildren, etc.? Many of us probably have great experiences with those in our life that aren't romantic partners, and for some of us the memories of the times we spent with them might be even more special than those with girlfriends/boyfriends/dates. I consider all poems that celebrate our affection for someone else love poems, don't you?
Before you write your next love poem, I encouarage you to make a list like I did above. It's a surefire way to make sure your poems don't come out cliche!
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Crys, I'm like you - Sandy changed her appearance for a guy? I much prefer modern romantic movies with a strong heroine. She's someone I think we all can identify with and ultimately the romance is for the woman. It's best to have a strong heroine. -StephB aka Rona Virus
Thank you for featuring my poem 'Mattress' in your newsletter! Great question about romantic movies. I think I teeter-totter on the edge myself. I can't help but adore 'The Notebook' and 'P.S. I Love You', but other romantic movies often rub me the wrong way. If I can feel true passion in the main characters' relationship then I tend to enjoy the story, but if their isn't a dose of imperfect reality in the movie I won't enjoy it. I guess I tend to prefer the bitter sweet romances because they seem more true to life. -Alexandra Jones
Whether or not I like romance movies really depends on the movie itself. I enjoy some of the more serious romances, such as well-done adaptations of Jane Austen, but much of the "love" in newer movies doesn't portray what it really should be. We teenagers, as a result, often have a very shallow idea of true love. It's not just about passion, as many movies would have us believe. Some are still fun to watch, though :) -Fiona Hassan
Hi Crys, I enjoyed reading your NL. Interesting question and I think that the line in Sleepless in Seattle says it perfectly, "You don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie." Don't we all.
I read an article a couple of months ago in the paper saying that romantic movies have changed our expectations on romance and placed them sky high. Maybe this is true.
I love some and hate others, but my favourite is While You Were Sleeping. For me the movies are an escape from my reality and it is nice to believe in some magic even if only for a while. -cookie_writer
Dear Crys, I am a 60 year old man who is as romantic as it gets. While I have watched my share of movies, I have my own ideas of romance and chivalry,etc. I am very old fashioned and a very good lover.(been told by many women) I think romance should be whatever your idea of it is , whether by what you watch or read. Sure it cannot always be perfect but being as romantic as you can is great. Remember the days when romance over great distances consisted of writing letters? People fell in love across oceans and never laid eyes on each other. Thats romance. - BEAR
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