So, this is my first Father's Day after my father passed away. I've always had weird mixed feelings about Mother's Day. The woman who bore me died when I was three years old, and I had a very rocky relationship with the woman who raised me (Dad's second wife) until I was out of the house more than a decade. But Father's Day has never held negative emotions for me. The same person has been 'Dad' since the day I was born.
He passed away in the first week of March. Want to know what I feel this year? It should be loneliness, but I've been out of that house for forty years.
What I feel is regret. I regret all the years I missed calling him for his birthday or Father's Day. I regret not having made the thousand mile trip to his house many more times than I did. I regret not bringing my sons to see him more often.
If your father is still with us and you don't see him often, give him a call. Not just on Father's Day. On any day of the year. Give him a call because it isn't a special occasion. If he wonders why you called, just tell him, "Because you're my dad."
Same goes for your mother. Your grandmother. Your grandfather. Your grown kids. "Because you're family" is a good enough reason.