by Dr Gonzo
Here I go again, writing on subjects no one wants to know about, let alone read. Unless???
|There is a subject few want to talk about...truth. Oh, we're happy to talk about someone else's truth, but rarely do we wish to discuss our own. Totally understandable; after all, I am a prime example of this obvious (to everyone but ourselves) need for denial. Denial of things that happened...things we never want to think about, let alone talk about, again.|
For each and every one of us, there exists a different truth. There is no one size fits all when it comes to past hurt and abuse (both given and received), although, wouldn't that be nice? All neat and tidy, so we would then be more comfortable relating our experiences at the water fountain at work or over a coffee with a trusted friend. But, even though the former may be as close as any of us gets to exposing our truth, it is somewhat limited by what we are ACTUALLY willing to admit to ourselves.
There is always the option of paying a therapist to help us unscramble why we feel and act in certain ways and under certain circumstances. Habits that may occasionally have people who don't know us well raise their eyebrows and mumble incoherently to one another (about us...and it MUST be about us because we are the only ones who are acting like crazy people within screaming distance), yet, without the care or courage to ask us why.
We are way too busy to dig up these old wounds anyway, and besides, we have already 'kinda' dealt with them in the past. But, only enough, so our subconscious allows these unavoidable yet easily passed over issues, that keep annoyingly popping up at the most inconvenient times and places to be put where they won't get in the way of life...the 'to do' basket. Good intentions that will inevitably get swept under the proverbial carpet.
We all know someone who can't sit still. Working all day and night, having hobbies or club duties or something to keep their minds occupied. And even when they take their leave, will have projects or itineraries, and for some, this is a way to avoid the need to stop and think. Because once the brain has nothing else to focus on, it will turn to the 'to do' basket, and that was never part of the original plan.
Who, in their right mind, would ever want to do this dredging up of horrible things that are long forgotten? Perhaps some crazy person, who cannot function in their typical, day to day lives, is who. But, it's back to the old grindstone for the rest of us sane and balanced folk.