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It's all about the Journey

by Just Jamie

Rated: 18+ · Book · Parenting · #1993809

A continuation of my original blog, "Surviving Motherhood".

Welcome to my world of middle school, high school, and motherhood. The life of a mom is never easy, especially as children grow, and especially when you have a special needs child.

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Kåre เลียม Enga

Mar 23, 2019 at 7:06pm
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Sad... I keep things here because I need the organization. That said, I put a poem on my blog today... first in one month.

As for readership. *sigh* My blog went over 100 thousand when I wasn't looking. But... no sense in trying to link at facebook because no one is interested in what I write and few are interested in me. My photos? Yes, they gets "likes" but not many comments. It's as if people have forgotten how to communicate the last ten years. If it isn't a meme or twitter they can't handle it.

Sad.

Do keep in touch on facebook and link to wherever you go.

Kåre เลียม Enga

Dec 10, 2018 at 1:14am
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I remember music competitions. You have a right to be proud.

Kåre เลียม Enga

Oct 12, 2018 at 11:33pm
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So much fun! Life with children is challenging but you'll get thru this stage. ♥

Kåre เลียม Enga

Sep 20, 2018 at 4:59pm
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You have kids... that means no time nor money...

I have a simpler life. I'd be exhausted trying to do yours!

Kåre เลียม Enga

Aug 27, 2018 at 12:14am
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I have two friends who had surgery to lose weight. It's a major deal but they both seem better off and healthier. Best all.

The 23rd is my sister's birthday... but I was so worn out I didn't call her until the 25th... my bad.

chicochica

Jul 5, 2018 at 9:14pm
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I think it's so cool that you're open to your kid having pink hair. My mom was really, really against it when I was growing up (I think I wanted blue hair). So I eased her into it: can I get natural highlights? Okay cool. In the space of a year or so I had burgundy hair with purple highlights. Those highlights weren't planned--either that was the result of the stylist's color, or he snuck something fun in for me.

Abbie wanted purple streaks in her hair -- done.

Jason wanted pink hair. The only complaint I had about that was the fact that he has very dark hair and so it would've required me to research or whatever and do more work (bleaching, etc), and I'm lazy.

As for the sizes--I know. Abbie is pretty much done growing and will likely be a shorty like me. Jason is 13 and 5'8" and having a "no shave summer." Joe is starting to grow again, which makes me happy. It's hard enough to be a short girl--being a short guy is no picnic. He'll be in the 7th grade too :)

Kåre เลียม Enga

Apr 1, 2018 at 11:41am
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Does seem like meds are out of whack... I'd say, ask about a water pill, but it sounds like you're on enough as it is. Thursday will come. ♥

nimela44

Nov 5, 2017 at 10:24am
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My Pixie. I love everything about her. I wish I could be as outgoing and not care about what anyone thinks. I’d do so much more in my life. I’m glad that she loves things like that! I’ve never been to a dance in my life! She’s too adorable for words xo xo

Kåre เลียม Enga

Jul 26, 2017 at 11:45pm
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Hugz.

I immediately thought of rehabilitating dogs... they are needy. But once one is attached... how do you give them up. Same with kids.

No real advice ... at lest you are in touch with your needs and can express them. That's a healthy sign.

Shanachie

Jul 3, 2017 at 5:26pm
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One thing to consider is states like Georgia who have the Hope Scholarship that pays for most or all of college. You do have to be an instate resident for a certain amount of time though.

Something to look into when you're considering moving.

January 3, 2017 at 12:15pm

#900995

Life begins again (10y, 4m, 1w, 4d old)

There's a recent song out that is kind of resonating with me. It's called "It's not Easy", and some of the lyrics are "We were two dumb kids, full of hopes and fears..." and of course, the chorus "It's not easy breaking your heart". The reason this song is resonating with me so much right now is because it somewhat mirrors mine and Don's lives since we got together. When we got together, we were two dumb kids. Two idealistic kids, who loved each other so much, and were stubborn and determined to make this all work. We were headstrong, and made a lot of heavy decisions. We made mistakes along the way. A baby got thrown into the mix. We both had a LOT of growing up to do. The first three years of our face to face relationship and marriage were hard and rocky. The difference between the song and our lives is, we didn't call it quits. We didn't "know it would end from the start". We love each other so much, and no matter what, I would choose Don every time. We grew up together. We learned from our past mistakes. We took more time. We thought things through. We realized that the only two people we needed to make happy were ourselves.

We are in a very good place right now. I'm quite proud of where we are. We have been through some serious shit in the 13 years we've been married, but we've come out the better for it. The fact that we were so young and dumb was kind of a silver lining-we didn't know any better, and we didn't know what it was all supposed to look like. we made it our own. and i'm quite proud of it. we're still growing up together, day after day. I love him more now than I've ever loved him before, but it's different now somehow.

I've come to the realization that I've been a very selfish person these last 11 years. The good news is, on the outside of these walls, that's not how I acted at all. The bad news is, I took it out on Don and the kids for so long. I realize and regret that now.

And this is where the chorus comes into play. I never thought about, for one second, how hard it was for him to make the choices he made. He didn't want to break my heart. He didn't want to make the choices he had to make. He was forced into those decisions; we all were. None of it was ideal. I spent so much time harboring resentment for not having my perfect dream, that I dragged everyone down with me. As you can see, I needed to grow up a lot more than I thought I did. In the end, we did the best we could with what we had. I no longer regret the decision I made to move here, and now, I want to make the most of it. I've spent far too much time wallowing in pain and taking it out on everyone. It's time to let go of the past and start moving forward. No more blaming people and time and circumstances and letting them dictate my feelings, thoughts and moods. My perspective is not the only perspective out there, and the attitude I have doesn't only affect me. I'm not saying I need to make my life centered around other people, but at the same time, I don't need to take it out on other people for something that hurt me. Life is too short to harbor hurt and resentment. It's time I let it go.

from here on out, my new understanding is, nothing is or ever will be perfect. The trick is to find all the good things and hang onto them. Hard times will come, but they come full of opportunity and growth for EVERYONE, as no one is immune.

It's time for me to start looking up again, and reaching out.

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