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Printed from https://www.writing.com/main/books/item_id/1993809-Its-all-about-the-Journey/day/3-20-2017
Rated: 18+ · Book · Parenting · #1993809

A continuation of my original blog, "Surviving Motherhood".

Welcome to my world of middle school, high school, and motherhood. The life of a mom is never easy, especially as children grow, and especially when you have a special needs child.

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March 20, 2017 at 2:25pm
March 20, 2017 at 2:25pm
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The final IEP meeting with LES has been scheduled for April 25th. This is what they call her transition meeting, going into middle school. I can't believe this is actually happening, we're actually getting ready to move her. While I'm super thrilled that she's moving up (there was a moment there when I feared they would hold her back, only because of her math grade currently, which has more to do with her bombing a test than anything else), it will be bittersweet to leave the halls of LES behind us. They were my children's first educational home. They are growing and flying now, and I will miss that school and their staff so very much, most especially Chrissy. Oh my god, I'm going to miss her so much. She's been my ears, eyes and heart with my sweet girl this whole time.

I am hoping that Journey is going to be at the meeting with us. I would like her to talk about what she needs and what she thinks will help her. I'm already putting in word that she needs to NOT have Ms. Samuel. That would be a train wreck waiting to happen, and Journey doesn't need that pressure. I want to make middle school work for her, but I'm not exactly sure how at this point. I'm hoping that Journey herself will have some better answers for us all.

Some days, I find it hard to believe that Journey is going to middle school. So much of her presents like a smaller, younger girl. Sometimes I get confused, and think she's 9, when in actuality, she's already almost over half way to 11. I remember when she was a baby, and I was just dying for her to hit her milestones, and grow. I wanted her to be old enough to crawl, walk, sit, play with her brother, talk...I think when she was 3, it hit me harder than it ever did before, and I kept saying "something's wrong, something's not right, something's going on...what's happening?"

In a way, her autism diagnosis has helped so much. It helped get her the services and help that she needs, and it gave us some answers and insight to what's going on with her. She's such an amazing girl. Sometimes it feels like she's still so little, and has so much farther to go, and sometimes she surprises the hell out of me, and shows me just how far she's come. This weekend we had a cookie booth, it was the last one of the season, and she would call out loud and proud that they had Girl Scout cookies, and it was the last day to buy.

She is like me in many ways, but she is also not like me.

Next year, I'm going to walk her to and from the bus stop every day, just like I do now, but it will be much earlier and a bit farther. She won't get the luxury of the bus coming to her, she'll have to walk to get to it. I don't mind either way. We'll see what she has to say about it. I worry about her though, because she's so tiny, even for a 10 year old, and she doesn't yet know how to protect herself. I'm seriously considering a workshop for my girls when they're Cadettes to learn self protection. Ryan's a big kid, I trust he can take care of himself, and I don't think he'll be messed with nearly as much as Journey will.

I worry about her all the time. Not that I don't think she's capable, not at all. I just am scared that she's going to get taken advantage of, and something horrible could happen to her. I don't know if this is because she's a girl, or because she's tiny, or because she has autism, or because she's so sweet and agreeable, or a combination of all of the above, but I feel it's my duty as her mom to go and protect her as she goes off to middle school, as best as I possibly can. If that means walking her to and from the bus stop every day, I will do it. I was telling Don the other day about how I might be more willing to allow Ryan to move away from us, across the country or whatnot, but that I really wanted to be where Journey is. That doesn't mean I want to keep her living in the house with us forever, it just means that I worry about leaving her behind here in Maryland if we decide to go back to Colorado after the kids have graduated. I don't want to leave her. I want to stay close to her, to take care of her and keep her safe.

So, April 25th will give us some ideas and answers about what we're going into when middle school comes. I'm hoping this transition is easy on all of us.





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