Because I usually am in Vino ** Images For Use By Upgraded+ Only ** In 2009, I gave up my studies as a medievalist and musician, left my home, my family, my life and moved to Provence in southern France for a guy. In 2012, I moved away from him to study wine. Today, I'm a vagabond sommelier working in Paris at one of the oldest and most famous restaurants in the world, struggling to find some purpose to what I deem the rest of my life. I'm still married and after 8 10 years, I'm still trying to fit-in with French life and culture and to understand why the French are the way they are. Because they're weird in a different way that I think Americans are weird. Perhaps it's me who's weird. |
It's clear I've failed as an adult. All of my US student loan emails go through an old account that I hadn't looked at in months. I happened to look at it today and discover that my student loans which I had put on deferment sometime in the past are many days overdue. Forbearance is gone. I forgot to renew the deferment and with everything closed, I can't do it now. I can't find masks in the stores here. I don't know if I'll be able to get up to Paris anytime soon to check on my apartment. I haven't filed taxes in the US since moving to France. People tell me this was the wrong thing to do. Despite having no taxable income or any assets or really connection to the US at all. I don't live there anymore. I have a passport with an American stamp but that's all. And quite frankly, I don't care about any of it. I look at this financial wreck of my life and wonder why it all can't just go away. I can't deal with it. It makes me panicky and angry and feel like a total failure so I just don't deal with it. One day it will probably come back to bite me in the ass. I'll get arrested coming into the States to visit my family or something. They'll confiscate my passport and what? I have no assets in France. I don't own anything. I know I should deal with this stuff, but I can't. I don't want to. I hate all of it. Just thinking about all the bureaucratic and financial crap I've avoided all my life is enough to make my anxiety go right through the roof and cause me to break down. Why can't I adult? I can't keep on top of this. I don't know what to do or where to start. So I'm going to take a shower and then bake bread I have rising on the kitchen counter. The day started out so well. I got up early. Started the bread, did some yoga, was feeling pretty good about ... things... and by 11:30am it's all fallen apart. I just want someone to take it off my hands, to take all of this off my hands. I don't want to be responsible for student loans, taxes, papers, documents, passports, and all the rest of that crap. I just want to live my life. I pay taxes in France. I'm a law abiding citizen. I do the best I can. All the rest of that stuff is so unappealing to me and feels so unnecessary. And now I'm drowning in it. Or if I'm not yet, I will be one day. At least I don't have children who will inherit my mess when I'm gone. |