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Are You Listening???

by Charlie ~

Rated: GC · Book · Emotional · #2181458

A journey of self-improvement - or not.

Sup? I'm Char.
You may know me from timeless classics such as

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30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS

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WDC's Longest Running Blog Competition - Hiatus
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Because real life isn't always roses and sunshine...
#2094931 by Elisa the Bunny Stik

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Believin' all the lies that they're tellin' ya
Buyin' all the products that they're sellin' ya
They say jump and ya say "how high?"
Ya braindead, ya got a fuckin' bullet in ya head

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intuey GoT Survivor!

Jul 22, 2023 at 8:05am
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Hey Char, It's been a while since I've touched base with you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The last thing people should say is everyone loses their grandparents eventually, or it will get better with time. It's the last thing you want to hear when you're hurting. Death sucks, long-lasting illness sucks! Having to decide to let the person go to keep them from suffering REALLY SUCKS! I think the only ones who can understand truly just how much are those who have had to make that decision. My heart breaks for you.

I'm not religious, but I do have a strong faith in God. I call myself spiritual because I don't agree with all the rules and regulations of religion. I do know I will see my family and friends again, and this is a great comfort. I can only imagine how much more painful the death of loved ones is without this belief. But you're right, it can't be faked. But it is a beautiful thing.

Having mental health issues during times like this makes it even harder to go through. I know what you mean about seeing things that aren't there. I'd walk into a room, and say, "Where's Star?" and she would be sitting right in front of me. When I looked, I swear I saw an empty chair. The mind is crazy. It gives new meaning to a mind of its own

Some time has passed since you wrote this. I don't know when you'll see this but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending good energy your way. I hope you're doing better. I look forward to hearing from you.

Aiva Raine

Mar 28, 2023 at 9:40pm
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know they are shitty sounding words that don't even attempt to fill or fix, but they're meant in sincerity.

Having lost several people the best advice I was ever given was when life gets too hard- take it at your own pace. If a day is too much- cope with an hour at a time. If that's too much, take it ten minutes at a time. If that's too much- then you deal with one minute at a time. Work through life and grief at your pace. And don't ever feel guilty because you feel sad. And if you can- find one positive in each chunk of time- even if it's something as little as the beauty of sunlight on a leaf or the softness of your shirt. And ask for help if you need it.

Elle - on hiatus

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:29pm
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Aw, Charlie, I'm so sorry. It's a shit thing to go through whether it's sudden or not. And just because everyone goes through it, doesn't make it easier. It also doesn't take into account that you were closer to them than your parents. Nobody says 'Oh, everyone loses their parents eventually' do they? Surely not. And that's what's happened here really. I'm actually glad you've got an appointment with a professional tomorrow, because they might be able to help you with getting through that initial devastation.

When my dad lost his mother, he really struggled with his own lack of religion. As you say, there is some comfort in believing they've gone to a better place, been reunited with loved ones, that you'll see them again, and so on. For most of my life, Dad would say 'Religion is a crutch for the weak', but I definitely saw him struggle with the finality of it when he lost his mother, the person he was probably closest to.

My thoughts are with you.

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~Minja~

Mar 7, 2023 at 3:21pm
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Crazy stuff, grief. If you want to talk about it, message me always.

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QPdoll

Mar 7, 2023 at 6:21am
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I understand what you mean about wanting to tell your grandmother something. I did the same thing after my grandmother passed. I was at home and the first thing I thought was to call grandma. I picked up the phone and realized that she wouldn't answer. It's so tough losing your grandparents, especially as close as you were. I don't have any magic words, but take care of yourself. It's what they would want.

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Robert Waltz

Mar 6, 2023 at 10:31pm
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Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

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Anni Pon

Mar 6, 2023 at 9:06pm
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I know it doesn't help any, but I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine much worse than losing a parent or parental figure. They represent stability and safety, you grew up with them, and you've relied on them for most, if not all, of your life. You're right, the initial devastation will fade and things won't feel so fresh. But, as you know, grief never really goes away. It just becomes a permanent part of you.

It's horrible that you only got a couple days worth of bereavement! That's not even long enough for the shock to wear off enough to START grieving. I hope you have the support of someone else in your life to help you through this dark time. Take it easy on yourself in the mean time, that's all you really can do. Taking care of your physical self, eating and sleeping, is critical. Sleep deprivation and hunger will make things feel a million times worse than they actually are (which, for the record, is already pretty bad).

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Harlow Flick, Right Fielder

Mar 6, 2023 at 8:56pm
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This is such a very human thing, isn't it.

“I think there is nearly an overwhelming sadness to the human predicament.” - Skinny Boy Hill

BOOM! This ain’t no whipped cream pie I’m tossing.

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Cinn

Feb 20, 2023 at 9:34pm
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I actually pretty much love this one. Nice, man...

Cinn

Feb 19, 2023 at 11:07am
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I'd say that more freedom for participants would attract more people. One obvious example that I've never understood is fiction vs poetry. If it's an activity, not a contest, why not allow people to explore whatever the theme of your activity is with whatever type of writing that want to do?

I've actually written for countless contests/activities over the years but never entered... because they inspired me, but I don't fit within the guidelines. Max rating too low, items required (book entries only over here), no poetry accepted, etc.

I know well why people restrict writers' freedom, but they're also restricting the number of participants they'll get. I still just take the inspiration where I can get it.

July 29, 2020 at 12:01am

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In my dreams...

Artist: Bush
Song: Straight, No Chaser
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"30-Day Blogging Challenge ON HIATUS" Prompt: Write about an invention or technology that you wish existed that would make your life better.

Naturally, my first thought is for things that are inconvenient around the house... A washer-dryer combo that separates and folds the clothes, self-cleaning floors, a refrigerator that automatically exposes of expired stuff. Or maybe teleportation for ultimate commuting convenience. Electronics with endless battery life...

But I'm trying to think outside the box a little on some stuff that might be semi-feasible and would be totally awesome.

Subscription-based therapy.
Hear me out. I have a subscription-based primary care physician. Flat monthly fee and you get unlimited phone messages and appointments with your doctor. It's called concierge medicine. I've seen a few "concierge therapists" but they're extremely sketchy and if you look into them, they often don't have any actual credentials.

I do think there's an idea there somewhere though, especially as someone nears the end of needing regular therapy appointments. You can set them up with a flat monthly fee for an allotted X amount of therapy hours a month and then if they need all the hours because they're having a bad month, they can use them. If they're having a good month, they might use very few hours or none at all. It's all a trade-off.

An AI personal secretary service.
I hate making phone calls to set up appointments or calling places to get information on their holiday hours or whatever it might be. I wish there was essentially an automated service where I could input what I want, like, "Appointment with Dr. Whoever anytime before 12pm Tuesday-Thursday of next week." Then my little robot secretary could set up the appointment for me by calling the office and then notify me of my appointment time.

Yes, I'm that antisocial.

Healthy sleep and food substitutes.
I feel like I waste way too much time sleeping and eating. Sleeping is fun and all that, but I wish there was a healthy way to substitute it when I need to pull an all-nighter. I'm not talking caffeine pills because those aren't healthy at all. But I do wish there was basically like a self-care pill where I could be like, ugh, don't have time to eat and sleep right now, I'll just take my self-care pill.

Bullshit blocker.
Sometimes I see a news headline and I'm just like, "Yeah, that's bullshit..." but I don't exactly have any evidence and I also don't want to spend forever researching to prove myself right. I wish there were just like bullshit detecting glasses that we could wear and they'd just put a red line through everything that's totally fabricated or misrepresented. Would be super nice in 2020.

Thought translator.
You know when you're half asleep and you write a poem in your head? I wish I could just think that into fruition and save it on the cloud or something. It would be so much easier to write if I didn't have to get up and actually write.

This would be also cool for when you have an interesting dream that starts slipping away from you the second you wake up. I used to try to keep a dream journal, but by the time I started writing, I'd lost the total essence of the dream. Of course, I don't want to remember 90% of my dreams, but for those special few, it would be cool.

Drink life as it comes straight no chaser

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