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 The simplicity of my day to day. |
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This is where I write my thoughts, feelings and my daily trials, tribulations and happy things
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| Written for Journalistic Intentions. prompt : "Most of all, you feel unseen and unheard. The other person is demonstrating that there are two things more important than your pain: Their desire to avoid negative emotions Their need to offer unsolicited advice." I think what we’re talking about is empathy. Some people find it impossible to relate to peoples pain and anguish without making the situation all about them. I’m not saying it’s easy to listen to some harrowing story without wishing you didn’t have to be the one on the receiving end of all the angst, tears and pain of the person relating the story. Without meaning to generalise I’ve found almost without exception men are the worst culprits for interrupting as someone pours out their troubles. They do this I’m sure with the best of intentions. Their wish to stop seeing someone in pain without being able to fix the problem overcomes the narrator’s wish to spill the beans, to relive the event, to explain. There is nothing more frustrating when someone has encouraged you to talk about it. You’ve girded your loins to relate the story one more time to yet one more person. And then you get “ Look, what I think you should do is…” Sometimes you just want to be heard, to have that person hold your hand and make the right noises. Then there are the ones who’s main concern is that they aren’t distressed by your event. I actually have an example of such behaviour from a relative when I was desperate for help. My two year old boy had been hit by a car and was in hospital. I had two other children, his twin sister and a four year old. I asked my Mother-in-Law to help out and she said “I couldn’t bear to see Ben like that, it would upset me too much.” I can’t say with hand on my heart I ever forgave her that. |
| Written for Journalistic Intentions."And it hit me, that to me, those are two of my deepest-felt emotions. Justice, equality, fairness, mercy, longsuffering, Work, Passion, knowledge, and above all else, Truth. Those are my primary emotions. I wouldn’t call myself a really emotional person, I try to stay even tempered, take things in my stride. I don’t show anger very often, but as my dearest and nearest can attest it’s best to stay clear when I do erupt. I decided to check out primary emotions for this prompt and what surprised me the most was that in the main the emotions, according to different theorist, were mainly negative. Off the top of my head before reading about emotions, I would have said things like, happiness, the feeling of joy or love. But what came up were, fear, sadness, disgust, contempt and surprise. Then came the real downers such as guilt, shame, confusion, resentment, frustration and remorse. Nearly all those are negative. It surprised me because when I attempt to describe an emotional person I rarely think of a sad, unhappy, vindictive or hateful one. I imagine an emotional person more as being softer, loving, easy to bring to tears. Caring, loving and sensitive, that’s how I think of emotion. As to my own primary emotions I’d say, cheerful, optimistic, happy, with the occasional show of frustration, resentment, sadness and remorse. I don’t know if guilt is classed as an emotion or not, but I was brought up to feel guilty if I wasn’t busy doing something. Even now I find I feel guilty if I have a lazy day or don’t achieve at least one thing I had on my list. All this proves what complex creatures humans are. My dog, Lucy is watching me write this and I’m sure she feels none of the above emotions. She lets me know when she’s hungry, thirsty and needs to go outside. That’s the sum total of her emotions. But that’s not really fair in retrospect. She does show love and excitement too. But she’s letting me know it’s time for dinner now she’s making feel that emotion, guilt. |
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